Roommate told me that I no longer have access to the washer and dryer. Do I have any recourse?

[Anonymous]

I owned a Condo and rented out the 2nd bedroom. I had a guy roommate and one day I left but hen came back sooner that I had said I would and I hear this god awful noise coming from the washer. He had put his nasty cam mats in there. All 4 of them.
I told him to take them out and he did but seemed ( fake) surprised it was an issue.
After that I wrote in the lease, washer onyl to be used for personal clothing and bedding.

[Anonymous]

car mats

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
BTW, there is no need to wash underwear in hot water nowadays. But hey, you do you.
"...While hot water was once the best choice for washing clothes, over the last decade or so, companies like Proctor and Gamble have developed new detergent technology that can work as well in cold water as in warm water. ... Protein stains—like blood and sweat—will just set in further if you wash them in warm water...."

Yet the Tide Coldwater FAQs say "A: You can use our detergents with cold water, but warm or hot water provides the best cleaning results. If you wash with cold water, we suggest you use Tide Coldwater." I use 120F for bed linens and bath towels, 140F for most whites, and 160F for dish towels.

[Anonymous]

Landlord here. I think you go along to get along until you depart. Nothing is worse than living in a place where there is a lot of tension and you're scared to leave your stuff or you're worried about retaliation from a roommate.

However, from a landlord perspective, I want to give you some additional advice because you actually do have a leverage point.

My understanding is that you have a verbal agreement to rent a room from your "roommate" and as part of that rental fee you had access to a private room, common areas and the general utilities, including the washer/dryer. Now your roommate is reneging on your agreement.

You might want to suggest that you both contact the landlord and ask her/his take on the agreement. She won't want to do that because she is violating the terms of her lease. This is your pressure point, OP, to maximize your leverage with your "roommate" until you depart on 1 April. Be careful, though, she could retaliate by locking you out, etc. Then you would really have some problems because these things escalate rapidly!

All the same, if I were you, I would just do as she wants re the laundry issue. It isn't worth arguing about it imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Landlord here. I think you go along to get along until you depart. Nothing is worse than living in a place where there is a lot of tension and you're scared to leave your stuff or you're worried about retaliation from a roommate.

However, from a landlord perspective, I want to give you some additional advice because you actually do have a leverage point.

My understanding is that you have a verbal agreement to rent a room from your "roommate" and as part of that rental fee you had access to a private room, common areas and the general utilities, including the washer/dryer. Now your roommate is reneging on your agreement.

You might want to suggest that you both contact the landlord and ask her/his take on the agreement. She won't want to do that because she is violating the terms of her lease. This is your pressure point, OP, to maximize your leverage with your "roommate" until you depart on 1 April. Be careful, though, she could retaliate by locking you out, etc. Then you would really have some problems because these things escalate rapidly!

All the same, if I were you, I would just do as she wants re the laundry issue. It isn't worth arguing about it imo.

If she retaliates by locking you out that is definitely an illegal eviction and would not be good for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Landlord here. I think you go along to get along until you depart. Nothing is worse than living in a place where there is a lot of tension and you're scared to leave your stuff or you're worried about retaliation from a roommate.

However, from a landlord perspective, I want to give you some additional advice because you actually do have a leverage point.

My understanding is that you have a verbal agreement to rent a room from your "roommate" and as part of that rental fee you had access to a private room, common areas and the general utilities, including the washer/dryer. Now your roommate is reneging on your agreement.

You might want to suggest that you both contact the landlord and ask her/his take on the agreement. She won't want to do that because she is violating the terms of her lease. This is your pressure point, OP, to maximize your leverage with your "roommate" until you depart on 1 April. Be careful, though, she could retaliate by locking you out, etc. Then you would really have some problems because these things escalate rapidly!

All the same, if I were you, I would just do as she wants re the laundry issue. It isn't worth arguing about it imo.

If she retaliates by locking you out that is definitely an illegal eviction and would not be good for her.

Yes, if this were to occur then she would be crossing some boundaries and law enforcement could get involved.

[Anonymous]

I am single and probably do 2-3 loads of laundry/week.

As for the roommate situation: the lack of a written lease is worrisome and sketchy and I would want to get out regardless. I'd do the laundry in the basement and focus on getting the heck out!

[Anonymous]

Lucky for you, you never signed the lease so in theory - You are an unauthorized tenant.

You can walk out the door anytime you want to w/no effect on your credit or rental history.

I would only wash/dry clothes when she is not there but would keep an eye on my stuff if she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not a clothes horse or a neatnix but who are you people doing one load a week?? One load sheets, one load bath towels. Underware & white socks on high, one load each of colors and whites/near whites. I use dish cloths so they’re usually an every other and all bedding at least once a month. I air dry most clothes but while I can’t say I sit around and count how many loads I do-y’all one a weekers are odd.

Do most DCUMers only have the one set of towels and a week's worth of underwear? As a single person, once a week is totally reasonable. Whites (which take up the least volume. I hated wasting water on just a week's worth. (In case you can't fathom one pair a day AND working out, here's how: work out in morning, change out of old underwear, shower, dress for the day, change into PJs at night.). Here's ONE of example of a 1 wash per week schedule, totally doable for a singleton or couple:

Week 1: wash (and iron!) outer clothes for next two weeks.
Week 2: wash bed and bath linens
Week 3: wash underwear and Pjs for next two weeks
Week 4: wash bed and bath linens

Yeah I could skip laundry for a month or more and still have clean underwear, clothes, sheets, and towels to wear and use.

You have 30 panties??? Really?

NP here.

I have well over 50 pairs of panties, and at least 20 bras, so I could easily go a month without washing underwear. I wouldn't want to have to go that long, though, because I'd then be wearing some of the panties that I prefer not to wear unless required.

I also have at least 10 full sets of sheets, though a few are flannel (and not good for summer), so I could go a month without washing bed linens.

I have no idea how many bath towels I have, but I'm guessing around 20? I know I have at least 40 washcloths because I primarily use baby washcloths, and I remember buying the packs of them on Amazon. I know I have at least 6 traditional wascloths, too.


It never occurred to me that I have an unusual amount of underwear or linens. I was fully aware that I have an obscene amount of clothing, but I thought my underwear and linen collection was more typical I guess not?

[Anonymous]

Omg no that’s not typical that’s crazy. I have 4 bras (not counting sport bras), two sets of sheets and two sets of towels (and I’m married so I had one set when I was single). I have about two weeks worth of underwear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here.

I have well over 50 pairs of panties, and at least 20 bras, so I could easily go a month without washing underwear. I wouldn't want to have to go that long, though, because I'd then be wearing some of the panties that I prefer not to wear unless required.

I also have at least 10 full sets of sheets, though a few are flannel (and not good for summer), so I could go a month without washing bed linens.

I have no idea how many bath towels I have, but I'm guessing around 20? I know I have at least 40 washcloths because I primarily use baby washcloths, and I remember buying the packs of them on Amazon. I know I have at least 6 traditional wascloths, too.


It never occurred to me that I have an unusual amount of underwear or linens. I was fully aware that I have an obscene amount of clothing, but I thought my underwear and linen collection was more typical I guess not?

Christ on a cracker...where do you store all of this? You must have amazing closets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here.

I have well over 50 pairs of panties, and at least 20 bras, so I could easily go a month without washing underwear. I wouldn't want to have to go that long, though, because I'd then be wearing some of the panties that I prefer not to wear unless required.

I also have at least 10 full sets of sheets, though a few are flannel (and not good for summer), so I could go a month without washing bed linens.

I have no idea how many bath towels I have, but I'm guessing around 20? I know I have at least 40 washcloths because I primarily use baby washcloths, and I remember buying the packs of them on Amazon. I know I have at least 6 traditional wascloths, too.


It never occurred to me that I have an unusual amount of underwear or linens. I was fully aware that I have an obscene amount of clothing, but I thought my underwear and linen collection was more typical I guess not?

Christ on a cracker...where do you store all of this? You must have amazing closets.

Right!! A walk in closet as big as a secondary bedroom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not a clothes horse or a neatnix but who are you people doing one load a week?? One load sheets, one load bath towels. Underware & white socks on high, one load each of colors and whites/near whites. I use dish cloths so they’re usually an every other and all bedding at least once a month. I air dry most clothes but while I can’t say I sit around and count how many loads I do-y’all one a weekers are odd.

Do most DCUMers only have the one set of towels and a week's worth of underwear? As a single person, once a week is totally reasonable. Whites (which take up the least volume. I hated wasting water on just a week's worth. (In case you can't fathom one pair a day AND working out, here's how: work out in morning, change out of old underwear, shower, dress for the day, change into PJs at night.). Here's ONE of example of a 1 wash per week schedule, totally doable for a singleton or couple:

Week 1: wash (and iron!) outer clothes for next two weeks.
Week 2: wash bed and bath linens
Week 3: wash underwear and Pjs for next two weeks
Week 4: wash bed and bath linens

Yeah I could skip laundry for a month or more and still have clean underwear, clothes, sheets, and towels to wear and use.

You have 30 panties??? Really?

NP here.

I have well over 50 pairs of panties, and at least 20 bras, so I could easily go a month without washing underwear. I wouldn't want to have to go that long, though, because I'd then be wearing some of the panties that I prefer not to wear unless required.

I also have at least 10 full sets of sheets, though a few are flannel (and not good for summer), so I could go a month without washing bed linens.

I have no idea how many bath towels I have, but I'm guessing around 20? I know I have at least 40 washcloths because I primarily use baby washcloths, and I remember buying the packs of them on Amazon. I know I have at least 6 traditional wascloths, too.


It never occurred to me that I have an unusual amount of underwear or linens. I was fully aware that I have an obscene amount of clothing, but I thought my underwear and linen collection was more typical I guess not?

I'm PP you responded to and we are soul sisters! ::internet hugs::

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not a clothes horse or a neatnix but who are you people doing one load a week?? One load sheets, one load bath towels. Underware & white socks on high, one load each of colors and whites/near whites. I use dish cloths so they’re usually an every other and all bedding at least once a month. I air dry most clothes but while I can’t say I sit around and count how many loads I do-y’all one a weekers are odd.

Do most DCUMers only have the one set of towels and a week's worth of underwear? As a single person, once a week is totally reasonable. Whites (which take up the least volume. I hated wasting water on just a week's worth. (In case you can't fathom one pair a day AND working out, here's how: work out in morning, change out of old underwear, shower, dress for the day, change into PJs at night.). Here's ONE of example of a 1 wash per week schedule, totally doable for a singleton or couple:

Week 1: wash (and iron!) outer clothes for next two weeks.
Week 2: wash bed and bath linens
Week 3: wash underwear and Pjs for next two weeks
Week 4: wash bed and bath linens

Yeah I could skip laundry for a month or more and still have clean underwear, clothes, sheets, and towels to wear and use.

You have 30 panties??? Really?

NP here.

I have well over 50 pairs of panties, and at least 20 bras, so I could easily go a month without washing underwear. I wouldn't want to have to go that long, though, because I'd then be wearing some of the panties that I prefer not to wear unless required.

I also have at least 10 full sets of sheets, though a few are flannel (and not good for summer), so I could go a month without washing bed linens.

I have no idea how many bath towels I have, but I'm guessing around 20? I know I have at least 40 washcloths because I primarily use baby washcloths, and I remember buying the packs of them on Amazon. I know I have at least 6 traditional wascloths, too.


It never occurred to me that I have an unusual amount of underwear or linens. I was fully aware that I have an obscene amount of clothing, but I thought my underwear and linen collection was more typical I guess not?

I have 10-12 pairs underwear, 2 bras plus one sports bra, 3 sets of sheets, and 8 bathtowels.

You have a lot of stuff