Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Going to see your grieving grandma after losing your uncle is not about using people as an emotional crutch. People support each other, that is a good thing. Families bond together during times of grief.
Exactly!
OP sounds like a selfish person.
It’s actually the opposite of being selfish. I’m worried about the welfare of children.
1. There’s no goody bags – it doesn’t impact goody bag count.
2. We are over the package amount of attendees, so them not coming saves me money. If I was selfish I would be happy they’re not coming.
3. I am close to my family. And I’ve lost many people in my family. Three of my cousins died in their early 20s – 2 in car accidents and 1 to cancer. I have seen the grieving of a parent when they loose a child. And I’ve seen healthy examples of grieving as well as unhealthy coping.
4. There should be a balance between grieving and allowing your children to have fun. Their grandmother lives 10 minutes away from them, they could go over there before or after the party. This would allow the children to still have some normalcy in their lives.
5. Happiness needs to come from within. Using other people for happiness is only a short term solution, and should not be a coping mechanism.
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