+100, carry on not caring about this person and living your best life! |
I was an elementary school teacher as well and taught various grades. It's actually a lot easier to tell if a kid is not so bright in the younger years as opposed to when they are older. And especially in a field as ours such as education, where you try very hard to want to make every excuse under the sun for why a child is slow, we've been very conditioned to try to find an explanation for it other than the kid is just dumb. |
| How many people can really pick out the difference between someone with a 125 iq and 110? Would there really be obvious differences between the two. And what further complicates things is how would a 125 iq person with low processing speed or inattentive adhd compare with a person with 110 iq who has no impairments? I would imagine that in certain jobs, the person with a 110 iq would come across as more clever. This is why outside of extremes it's not that easy to tell. I've taught kids who had iq's in the 80's and while they certainly weren't the best students, in other ways they didn't stand out as different from kids with much higher iq's. |
I have seen plenty of high iq people born into poor families, excelling in college but lacking the opportunities available to them after college because they have no daddy or mommys money to fall back on. |
How do you know for a fact he had a low IQ? Maybe he just didn't have any interest in hearing about your job?! |
You must have performed well on the ACT/SAT, though?? |
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Children born into poverty do not start out less intelligent but can have lower IQ because children born into poverty wind up as adults (as a group) having faced more obstacles (or, conversely, having faced fewer advantages).
That's hard to answer in an absolute way, because all methods of defining intelligence are sharply limited. Yes, there is a statistical correlation between IQ and wealth, but IQ is not an absolute quantity. Despite outdated claims, IQ is not set at birth, it tends to rise with additional education. Poor people tend to have less access to good education, and poorly educated people are more likely to be poor, which contributes to low IQ scores. So, yes, by most traditional measures of intelligence, rich people are more intelligent than poor people on the average. But traditional measures of intelligence are driven by environment. The average American child in the 1920's would score about 70 on modern IQ tests. This is not because our grandparents were dumb, it's because they weren't raised to think in a way that would let them score well on IQ tests. The same people, raised in a different environment, would score much higher. |
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I'm pretty sure I posted about this before, but I had a friend growing up who had a low IQ. This was in the 1980s, so there were probably some other learning disabilities, too, but I'm not sure they were identified. I know about the low IQ part because our moms were friends, too. My mom is a nurse and I remember her mom telling my mom about it over coffee while my friend and I were supposed to be playing.
Anyway, my friend struggled a lot academically and was in remedial services at school. She got bullied by a particular group of girls who weren't nice to a lot of people, but they definitely targeted her. She was very kind and I enjoyed going to movies and rollerskating and stuff like that with her, but it was hard for her to play board games and she had a lot of trouble reading, so we didn't talk much about books or magazines or anything. We didn't have the kind of deep, intense conversations a lot of tween/teen girls have, but like I said, play dates were fun. Her parents were very nice and her mom was involved with Girl Scouts and pretty much any activity her daughter wanted to do. I also remember seeing both parents around school a lot, meeting with the teachers and counselor. It was fairly unusual for dads to show up for meetings like that back in those days, so I guess that's why I remember it. If I had to guess, her parents' involvement made a lot of difference in her getting as many special services as she did. Her family eventually moved across the country for the dad's job and we lost touch, although we have mutual friends on FB. It looks like she got her degree from a small state college and is now married with kids. She runs a small business (not MLM, thankfully!), and looks happy. Compared to some of the kids I grew up with who were not low IQ, I would say this is a good outcome. |