three kids two rooms both genders what do you do?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Find a new place to live.

Your kids' ages are too spaced for any of them to share.

I'm a social worker in VA and the law we must follow is opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share a room.

For real? There's law on how to room my children? WTH?

Sounds like she means foster chikdren, which makes perfect sense.

but it makes no sense to OP's situation so why bring up this 'law'?

NP. Because the PP has unresolved issues related to opposite sex siblings sharing a room. I don't know what happened to her but she (or someone with similar issues) comes on DCUM periodically to assert opposite sex kids can't share a room. It's only in FOSTER care that opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share sleeping quarters.

http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+reg+22VAC40-211-70

It is a guideline for foster care and a best practice for everyone else. This is not a new concept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find a new place to live.

Your kids' ages are too spaced for any of them to share.

I'm a social worker in VA and the law we must follow is opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share a room.

For real? There's law on how to room my children? WTH?

Sounds like she means foster chikdren, which makes perfect sense.

but it makes no sense to OP's situation so why bring up this 'law'?

NP. Because the PP has unresolved issues related to opposite sex siblings sharing a room. I don't know what happened to her but she (or someone with similar issues) comes on DCUM periodically to assert opposite sex kids can't share a room. It's only in FOSTER care that opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share sleeping quarters.

http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+reg+22VAC40-211-70

OP, fwiw, please group by gender. You would really hate to learn in 20 years that grouping by age may not have been the most prudent move.

That person (people) who keep insisting that the teen gets her own room while the almost teen boy shares with his sister are just deranged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm from.Peru where wea all shared a bedroom, as did my friends. It was the norm. Immigrated here in the late 90s. I will never be in a situation where my kids share a room.

thank your lucky stars.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm from.Peru where wea all shared a bedroom, as did my friends. It was the norm. Immigrated here in the late 90s. I will never be in a situation where my kids share a room.

thank your lucky stars.

Seriously!

[Anonymous]

Gender shouldn't matter, and no, the oldest shouldn't automatically get to choose. Depending on the room layout, I would have the 2 youngest share the larger room, with the older having the small room, but part of it may depend on the various personalities. If 1 is lots younger than the other 2, then maybe the 2 closest in age should share. While no one should get to choose, you could ask each one for their preference to see if there is any agreement; that may suggest a solution, but you ultimately decide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find a new place to live.

Your kids' ages are too spaced for any of them to share.

I'm a social worker in VA and the law we must follow is opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share a room.

In OH and IN no gender distinction can be made; I believe it has to do with anti-discrimination rules.

[Anonymous]

Consider wake up times too. My friend’s kids switched their room groupings when when had a much earlier school alarm and her “roommate” kept getting woken up.

[Anonymous]

I presume that you don’t have an office or a guest room. Because if you do, it goes away and you give each kid a room given the breakdown of kids. The humans who live there full time win, and the grownup finds a corner somewhere to work.

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Anonymous wrote:Girl boy girl 14 10 6 so Malcolm gets his own room?

Of course. Why is this even a debate?

The teen and preteen girls share the bigger room.

The young elementary boy with the legos, bey blades and "science experiments" gets his own smaller room.

What do you do with the girl with that kind of stuff? What ES girl doesn't have that stuff?

[Anonymous]

Oldest doesn’t get to choose if one room is bigger. The kids who share get the biggest room!

[Anonymous]

A teenager needs her own room. Please don't give the 10 yr old boy his own room yet. That's like treating him like a King. In 4 years, she goes to college and he gets his own room.