three kids two rooms both genders what do you do?

[Anonymous]

Find a new place to live.

Your kids' ages are too spaced for any of them to share.

I'm a social worker in VA and the law we must follow is opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share a room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the last two posters, what was wrong with your parents?

We shared four girls to one room and although we bickered we had none of thos issues you are complaining about.

My kids have shared rooms in various houses we lived in, and again, none of those problems.

I'm the atari guy.
I might need to elaborate on the incident.
So,growing up,I had a ton of blocks.When my brother turned 3,they were his.So one day he made a large tower out of the blocks,and I was in a rush.I tripped over one of the extra blocks that were sitting out,and went head first into the tower.I got up,but he was angry.He had trouble sleeping the night before,and he unleashed his crankiness on me.He threw a large block at me,and I ducked,but it ended up hitting my brand new atari console,damaging the insides beyond repair.

I think you need therapy.

35 years is a long time to hold a grudge over an atari and some blocks.

A grudge, or just a strong memory. And whether it is too long really depends on how his parents handled the incident. I have a small scar on my face from a similar incident with my brother. It is emblematic of how my parents minimized my personal space and favored my bro. So the incident may be more important than it sounds.

Atari guy again.
My parents made me pay for it or just not have it at all.That meant all my savings,and a month's worth of spending money.I remember my friends asked if I could go out with them to get a pizza or two,and I had to turn it down.We also had a trip to the beach (we lived about an hour from the Virginia coast) and I could not buy any souvenirs.I remember all this because the atari was my first game console,and i had only gotten to use it for a few weeks.I also could not my believe my brother did this,and didn't understand why my parents made me pay for a new one because of him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The 14 year old should study at the kitchen table.

They are really just playing on their phones when they say the are studying in their rooms.

Exactly. I find it hard to believe there isn't anywhere else in the house the 14 yo could study.

I grew up in a 2 bedroom farmhouse with 4 sibling and 2 parents (and 1 bathroom!). The only thing we did in the bedroom was sleep (if someone was masturbating, I never knew it. I certainly wasn't). My 3 kids shared a room until the oldest was 10 and then the 2 boys (10 and 7) were in one room and the girl (8) was in another. The only reason she got her own room at that time was because she had some medical issues that were better accommodated in a different room.

You sound selfish to put 3 kids together when you have the space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find a new place to live.

Your kids' ages are too spaced for any of them to share.

I'm a social worker in VA and the law we must follow is opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share a room.

For real? There's law on how to room my children? WTH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the last two posters, what was wrong with your parents?

We shared four girls to one room and although we bickered we had none of thos issues you are complaining about.

My kids have shared rooms in various houses we lived in, and again, none of those problems.

I'm the atari guy.
I might need to elaborate on the incident.
So,growing up,I had a ton of blocks.When my brother turned 3,they were his.So one day he made a large tower out of the blocks,and I was in a rush.I tripped over one of the extra blocks that were sitting out,and went head first into the tower.I got up,but he was angry.He had trouble sleeping the night before,and he unleashed his crankiness on me.He threw a large block at me,and I ducked,but it ended up hitting my brand new atari console,damaging the insides beyond repair.

I think you need therapy.

35 years is a long time to hold a grudge over an atari and some blocks.

A grudge, or just a strong memory. And whether it is too long really depends on how his parents handled the incident. I have a small scar on my face from a similar incident with my brother. It is emblematic of how my parents minimized my personal space and favored my bro. So the incident may be more important than it sounds.

Atari guy again.
My parents made me pay for it or just not have it at all.That meant all my savings,and a month's worth of spending money.I remember my friends asked if I could go out with them to get a pizza or two,and I had to turn it down.We also had a trip to the beach (we lived about an hour from the Virginia coast) and I could not buy any souvenirs.I remember all this because the atari was my first game console,and i had only gotten to use it for a few weeks.I also could not my believe my brother did this,and didn't understand why my parents made me pay for a new one because of him.

PLEASE start your own thread.

Your atari issue has nothing to do with OPs question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find a new place to live.

Your kids' ages are too spaced for any of them to share.

I'm a social worker in VA and the law we must follow is opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share a room.

For real? There's law on how to room my children? WTH?

Sounds like she means foster chikdren, which makes perfect sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The 14 year old should study at the kitchen table.

They are really just playing on their phones when they say the are studying in their rooms.

Maybe my life is different from yours...

The 14 year old should study at the kitchen table when the 6 year old is coloring at the kitchen table and the 10 year old is teaching the dog how to give high 5s in the living room right off the kitchen? Not to mention my husband telling me about his day while he cooks dinner and I'm standing at the kitchen counter going through the mail. We live in our house, and while I understand people who require their children to do homework in front of them, that has yet to be an issue for us with our oldest, and she finds the normal chaos of daily life too chaotic when she's studying. Unlike our middle child who thinks his projects need to be done at the kitchen table and everyone has to be quiet when he's thinking.

We have the luxury of every child having their own room, so perhaps if I were facing down this issue I'd be less supportive of my oldest's need for quiet study space. I think I'd go for the oldest getting her own room and the younger two sharing. I might have to revisit that later, but for a 14, 10, and 6 year old, that's what I'd be inclined to do. I'm not convinced that splitting up by sex makes more sense than splitting up by age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the last two posters, what was wrong with your parents?

We shared four girls to one room and although we bickered we had none of thos issues you are complaining about.

My kids have shared rooms in various houses we lived in, and again, none of those problems.

I'm the atari guy.
I might need to elaborate on the incident.
So,growing up,I had a ton of blocks.When my brother turned 3,they were his.So one day he made a large tower out of the blocks,and I was in a rush.I tripped over one of the extra blocks that were sitting out,and went head first into the tower.I got up,but he was angry.He had trouble sleeping the night before,and he unleashed his crankiness on me.He threw a large block at me,and I ducked,but it ended up hitting my brand new atari console,damaging the insides beyond repair.

I think you need therapy.

35 years is a long time to hold a grudge over an atari and some blocks.

A grudge, or just a strong memory. And whether it is too long really depends on how his parents handled the incident. I have a small scar on my face from a similar incident with my brother. It is emblematic of how my parents minimized my personal space and favored my bro. So the incident may be more important than it sounds.

Atari guy again.
My parents made me pay for it or just not have it at all.That meant all my savings,and a month's worth of spending money.I remember my friends asked if I could go out with them to get a pizza or two,and I had to turn it down.We also had a trip to the beach (we lived about an hour from the Virginia coast) and I could not buy any souvenirs.I remember all this because the atari was my first game console,and i had only gotten to use it for a few weeks.I also could not my believe my brother did this,and didn't understand why my parents made me pay for a new one because of him.

Maybe we should start a go fund me for a new Atari.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The 14 year old should study at the kitchen table.

They are really just playing on their phones when they say the are studying in their rooms.

Maybe my life is different from yours...

The 14 year old should study at the kitchen table when the 6 year old is coloring at the kitchen table and the 10 year old is teaching the dog how to give high 5s in the living room right off the kitchen? Not to mention my husband telling me about his day while he cooks dinner and I'm standing at the kitchen counter going through the mail. We live in our house, and while I understand people who require their children to do homework in front of them, that has yet to be an issue for us with our oldest, and she finds the normal chaos of daily life too chaotic when she's studying. Unlike our middle child who thinks his projects need to be done at the kitchen table and everyone has to be quiet when he's thinking.

We have the luxury of every child having their own room, so perhaps if I were facing down this issue I'd be less supportive of my oldest's need for quiet study space. I think I'd go for the oldest getting her own room and the younger two sharing. I might have to revisit that later, but for a 14, 10, and 6 year old, that's what I'd be inclined to do. I'm not convinced that splitting up by sex makes more sense than splitting up by age.

Sorry but you are insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find a new place to live.

Your kids' ages are too spaced for any of them to share.

I'm a social worker in VA and the law we must follow is opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share a room.

They are not too spaced to share.

A 14 year old and a 6 year old girl are just fine sharing.

Families around the country and world do this just fine.

No wonder we have such entitled and fragile kids is sharing a room with a sibling is considered a hardship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find a new place to live.

Your kids' ages are too spaced for any of them to share.

I'm a social worker in VA and the law we must follow is opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share a room.

For real? There's law on how to room my children? WTH?

Sounds like she means foster chikdren, which makes perfect sense.

but it makes no sense to OP's situation so why bring up this 'law'?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find a new place to live.

Your kids' ages are too spaced for any of them to share.

I'm a social worker in VA and the law we must follow is opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share a room.

For real? There's law on how to room my children? WTH?

Sounds like she means foster chikdren, which makes perfect sense.

but it makes no sense to OP's situation so why bring up this 'law'?

NP. Because the PP has unresolved issues related to opposite sex siblings sharing a room. I don't know what happened to her but she (or someone with similar issues) comes on DCUM periodically to assert opposite sex kids can't share a room. It's only in FOSTER care that opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share sleeping quarters.

http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+reg+22VAC40-211-70

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go back to 1989,when I was 11 years old.I had a brother who was 4,and a sister who was 6.Up until then,we each had our own room.Dad gets job in city,and homes are more expensive there.Money is tight,and we needed to move quick.We settled for a 3 bedroom 2 bath.Unfortunately I got the short end of the stick and had to share a room with my 4 year old brother.The room was only slightly larger so we don't have much of a size advantage.To add to it,Our view was blocked by the neighbor 's oversized tree,while our sister had a most oh unobstructed view of the nearby downtown skyline.other minor things about our room were inferior,but I won't go into much detail.
The living hell starts.
My brother is naturally nosy,so you can imagine it got worse when he was in the same room as me.He had playdates,and each week or two,he and his manlet friends tore up the room,knocking my figurines and model aircraft off the shelves,getting notebooks and other personal items strewn across the floor,and messing my bed up.Worst of all,I had to clean up the whole room.I talked to my mom about this,and she tried to fix it.Her solution was to put duct tape in the middle of the room as a divider,but these are 4 year olds.Meanwhile,my sister had her own space that stayed nice and clean.She always went there for privacy,while my only private spot is a makeshift tent i made out of blankets.I also had a stash of goodies at the old house,but now I could not keep a single ring pop in my room in fear of him raiding my cabinets for candy.By some Miracle,when I was 13,our dad got a massive promotion and we moved into a more spacious 3 bedroom with an extra space with a window that is technically an attic.I moved in there,and life was back to normal.
Please never pair children that are drastically different ages.
Also you'll have trouble getting children to share it the had their own room until then.
Best of luck.

Grew up in family of eight - 3 BRs, 1 BA. You lived in luxury.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find a new place to live.

Your kids' ages are too spaced for any of them to share.

I'm a social worker in VA and the law we must follow is opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share a room.

For real? There's law on how to room my children? WTH?

Sounds like she means foster chikdren, which makes perfect sense.

but it makes no sense to OP's situation so why bring up this 'law'?

NP. Because the PP has unresolved issues related to opposite sex siblings sharing a room. I don't know what happened to her but she (or someone with similar issues) comes on DCUM periodically to assert opposite sex kids can't share a room. It's only in FOSTER care that opposite sex kids over the age of 3 cannot share sleeping quarters.

http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+reg+22VAC40-211-70

OP, fwiw, please group by gender. You would really hate to learn in 20 years that grouping by age may not have been the most prudent move.

[Anonymous]

I'm from.Peru where wea all shared a bedroom, as did my friends. It was the norm. Immigrated here in the late 90s. I will never be in a situation where my kids share a room.