Going to TJ doesn't guarantee success

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Anonymous wrote:There was a death in the freshman class at TJ yesterday. I can’t link it, because it is still internal. But it’s legit. Name has not been realeased by the school, so I’m not posting it. But, the kids all know who it was. Parents, including me, have been hearing from kids all day. I expect the school will send a letter to parents soon, and it will be all over the place by tomorrow.

Before you attack, take a moment to hug your kid and give the TJ kids time and space to grieve.

I haven't seen this in the news. Link?

Sorry. No one is going to link to a minor’s obit for you. That just seems wrong. But the TJ Community has receive multiple emails. about the death, how the school is handling it with students, the memorial service, etc. Memorial Service on Saturday, which is why the open house was cancelled. TJ freshman. Check TJ Vents or the TJ Band FB page if you need proof.

My son might know the kid from middle school but I can't find any info. It makes me wonder if the news organizations were pressured to not cover the death.

I seriously doubt it. TJ was not able to pressure anyone to downplay the whole I was admitted to Standofrd and Harvard hoax.

There was an obit published. TJ has been very open about providing information to the TJ community. No one at the school is sweeping this under the rug at the school. But the memorial service has not even be held yet. Many adults associated with the school know the manner of death (we’re probably naive if we don’t think the kids do too). But it’s way too soon to know the underlying cause. I’m sure if it ends up with a direct tie to TJ, there will be reporting, just like with the Woodson suicide. But in the meantime, responsible media would not sensationalize the death of a minor. There have been 3 suicides at Chantilly in 5 years. Not reported in the news. I have a co-worker and a friend who each had a kid from FCPS commit suicide this year (one at a FCPS HS, one an FCPS grad at a VA state college). The only news coverage was the obits. This is a bigger problem and happen more often than you may realize.

[Anonymous]

My son is accepted into TJ for class of 2018 but I am not going to let him attend TJ for several reasons:

1- It is very likely that when he goes to TJ, it will take him at least 7 hours a day to do his assignments. Unless he can finish his assignments in less than 3 hours, he is not going to TJ,
2- He needs to spend 75 minutes a day on the piano. He has been doing that since he was 4 years old. If he has to spend 7 hours on school homework and assignment, he will abandon piano,
3- He recently starts learning guitar and spends about 30 minutes a day practice. Again, he will have to give that up if he attends TJ
4- He is also a pretty good athlete in both golf and swimming. He spends 90 minutes a day on either golf or swimming and more on weekends. He will have to give those up if he decides to TJ,

Nothing against TJ but if a kid can not finish his school assignments in less than 3 hours, he/she will have to give up pretty much all ECs for TJ. That's something I am not prepared to do with my child. He will attend Langley HS instead.

Best of luck to those parents with kids @TJ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is accepted into TJ for class of 2018 but I am not going to let him attend TJ for several reasons:

1- It is very likely that when he goes to TJ, it will take him at least 7 hours a day to do his assignments. Unless he can finish his assignments in less than 3 hours, he is not going to TJ,
2- He needs to spend 75 minutes a day on the piano. He has been doing that since he was 4 years old. If he has to spend 7 hours on school homework and assignment, he will abandon piano,
3- He recently starts learning guitar and spends about 30 minutes a day practice. Again, he will have to give that up if he attends TJ
4- He is also a pretty good athlete in both golf and swimming. He spends 90 minutes a day on either golf or swimming and more on weekends. He will have to give those up if he decides to TJ,

Nothing against TJ but if a kid can not finish his school assignments in less than 3 hours, he/she will have to give up pretty much all ECs for TJ. That's something I am not prepared to do with my child. He will attend Langley HS instead.

Best of luck to those parents with kids @TJ.

My high school Boyfriend went to TJ. He had no issue getting assignments accomplished in 3 hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is accepted into TJ for class of 2018 but I am not going to let him attend TJ for several reasons:

1- It is very likely that when he goes to TJ, it will take him at least 7 hours a day to do his assignments. Unless he can finish his assignments in less than 3 hours, he is not going to TJ,
2- He needs to spend 75 minutes a day on the piano. He has been doing that since he was 4 years old. If he has to spend 7 hours on school homework and assignment, he will abandon piano,
3- He recently starts learning guitar and spends about 30 minutes a day practice. Again, he will have to give that up if he attends TJ
4- He is also a pretty good athlete in both golf and swimming. He spends 90 minutes a day on either golf or swimming and more on weekends. He will have to give those up if he decides to TJ,

Nothing against TJ but if a kid can not finish his school assignments in less than 3 hours, he/she will have to give up pretty much all ECs for TJ. That's something I am not prepared to do with my child. He will attend Langley HS instead.

Best of luck to those parents with kids @TJ.

I’m not sure where you are getting 7 hours a day? I have never heard this, and my kid attends. I think it can hit 4-5 at peak times. But if your kid stays on task and stays on top of things like major projects over the weekend, 3 should be fine during the school week.

Of course, it depends on your expectations of your kid. If they must take AP everything junior year, and your kid has to be in the top 10% of the class etc, maybe it would take 7 hours junior year. But freshman and probably sophomore year? Any kid spend 7 hours is gunning to be in the top 10 graduates and is overpreparing, or is not using time efficiently. There are plenty of top students who play 2-3 sports a year. Or March in the band and crew, which is a huge time suck.

I respect your decision to send you kid to Langley. It sounds like a good choice in your case for your kid. But even at TJ, the 7 hours a night thing is just silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure where you are getting 7 hours a day? I have never heard this, and my kid attends. I think it can hit 4-5 at peak times. But if your kid stays on task and stays on top of things like major projects over the weekend, 3 should be fine during the school week.

Of course, it depends on your expectations of your kid. If they must take AP everything junior year, and your kid has to be in the top 10% of the class etc, maybe it would take 7 hours junior year. But freshman and probably sophomore year? Any kid spend 7 hours is gunning to be in the top 10 graduates and is overpreparing, or is not using time efficiently. There are plenty of top students who play 2-3 sports a year. Or March in the band and crew, which is a huge time suck.

I respect your decision to send you kid to Langley. It sounds like a good choice in your case for your kid. But even at TJ, the 7 hours a night thing is just silly.

My kid is not very smart but he makes up for it with hard work and his tiger's mom. He already spends 4 hours a day with homework and math/reading/writing tutoring in MS @Cooper MS. Because of a lot of private tutoring, he is able to get accepted into TJ because of my "tiger's mom" wife. TJ is for people with the combination of "smart" and "hard work". You need to have both. Unfortunately, my son does not have the "smart" so 7 hours a day of school assignment seems about right.

I am being realistic about it. want to him to have a life outside of academic. Going to Langley and be on the varsity swim and golf team will be good for him without the stress of TJ. attend a good D-II college, play golf in college and become a productive member of society. That's important to me.

I have nothing but respect for students @TJ.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure where you are getting 7 hours a day? I have never heard this, and my kid attends. I think it can hit 4-5 at peak times. But if your kid stays on task and stays on top of things like major projects over the weekend, 3 should be fine during the school week.

Of course, it depends on your expectations of your kid. If they must take AP everything junior year, and your kid has to be in the top 10% of the class etc, maybe it would take 7 hours junior year. But freshman and probably sophomore year? Any kid spend 7 hours is gunning to be in the top 10 graduates and is overpreparing, or is not using time efficiently. There are plenty of top students who play 2-3 sports a year. Or March in the band and crew, which is a huge time suck.

I respect your decision to send you kid to Langley. It sounds like a good choice in your case for your kid. But even at TJ, the 7 hours a night thing is just silly.

My kid is not very smart but he makes up for it with hard work and his tiger's mom. He already spends 4 hours a day with homework and math/reading/writing tutoring in MS @Cooper MS. Because of a lot of private tutoring, he is able to get accepted into TJ because of my "tiger's mom" wife. TJ is for people with the combination of "smart" and "hard work". You need to have both. Unfortunately, my son does not have the "smart" so 7 hours a day of school assignment seems about right.

I am being realistic about it. want to him to have a life outside of academic. Going to Langley and be on the varsity swim and golf team will be good for him without the stress of TJ. attend a good D-II college, play golf in college and become a productive member of society. That's important to me.

I have nothing but respect for students @TJ.

Smart call dad. If your kid was doing 4 hours of homework a night in MS, plus a lot of tutoring, TJ would likely wbe a very rough road with disappointing grades for a lot of work. Plus, it doesn’t sound like your kid is excited about going. The kid needs to really want it to make it work. Kudos to you for having a more balanced and realistic thought process than most FCPS parents. It sounds like you know your kid and are setting him up to succee based on what’s best for him. It sounds like he will do great at Langley.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure where you are getting 7 hours a day? I have never heard this, and my kid attends. I think it can hit 4-5 at peak times. But if your kid stays on task and stays on top of things like major projects over the weekend, 3 should be fine during the school week.

Of course, it depends on your expectations of your kid. If they must take AP everything junior year, and your kid has to be in the top 10% of the class etc, maybe it would take 7 hours junior year. But freshman and probably sophomore year? Any kid spend 7 hours is gunning to be in the top 10 graduates and is overpreparing, or is not using time efficiently. There are plenty of top students who play 2-3 sports a year. Or March in the band and crew, which is a huge time suck.

I respect your decision to send you kid to Langley. It sounds like a good choice in your case for your kid. But even at TJ, the 7 hours a night thing is just silly.

My kid is not very smart but he makes up for it with hard work and his tiger's mom. He already spends 4 hours a day with homework and math/reading/writing tutoring in MS @Cooper MS. Because of a lot of private tutoring, he is able to get accepted into TJ because of my "tiger's mom" wife. TJ is for people with the combination of "smart" and "hard work". You need to have both. Unfortunately, my son does not have the "smart" so 7 hours a day of school assignment seems about right.

I am being realistic about it. want to him to have a life outside of academic. Going to Langley and be on the varsity swim and golf team will be good for him without the stress of TJ. attend a good D-II college, play golf in college and become a productive member of society. That's important to me.

I have nothing but respect for students @TJ.

Good call. You are right about both smart and hard work are needed at TJ. I have a smart kid who got admitted last year and the hard work part is not in the books for my "smart" kid. I tell him that hard work is part of being smart, what makes it whole. But, he gets by with whatever minimal work he needs to do, often by the edge of his seat pants work habits. Been that way always. If hes gets a B or C he shrugs it off. We have stopped trying to change him, he could have been straight A in base school even with his lousy work habits, but that is not where he wanted to be. We have no left him to do what he wants with his grades. I guess at some point he will start putting in hard work to match the smarts, if not now, then in college, or real life, for his own benefits.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure where you are getting 7 hours a day? I have never heard this, and my kid attends. I think it can hit 4-5 at peak times. But if your kid stays on task and stays on top of things like major projects over the weekend, 3 should be fine during the school week.

Of course, it depends on your expectations of your kid. If they must take AP everything junior year, and your kid has to be in the top 10% of the class etc, maybe it would take 7 hours junior year. But freshman and probably sophomore year? Any kid spend 7 hours is gunning to be in the top 10 graduates and is overpreparing, or is not using time efficiently. There are plenty of top students who play 2-3 sports a year. Or March in the band and crew, which is a huge time suck.

I respect your decision to send you kid to Langley. It sounds like a good choice in your case for your kid. But even at TJ, the 7 hours a night thing is just silly.

My kid is not very smart but he makes up for it with hard work and his tiger's mom. He already spends 4 hours a day with homework and math/reading/writing tutoring in MS @Cooper MS. Because of a lot of private tutoring, he is able to get accepted into TJ because of my "tiger's mom" wife. TJ is for people with the combination of "smart" and "hard work". You need to have both. Unfortunately, my son does not have the "smart" so 7 hours a day of school assignment seems about right.

I am being realistic about it. want to him to have a life outside of academic. Going to Langley and be on the varsity swim and golf team will be good for him without the stress of TJ. attend a good D-II college, play golf in college and become a productive member of society. That's important to me.

I have nothing but respect for students @TJ.

Good call. You are right about both smart and hard work are needed at TJ. I have a smart kid who got admitted last year and the hard work part is not in the books for my "smart" kid. I tell him that hard work is part of being smart, what makes it whole. But, he gets by with whatever minimal work he needs to do, often by the edge of his seat pants work habits. Been that way always. If hes gets a B or C he shrugs it off. We have stopped trying to change him, he could have been straight A in base school even with his lousy work habits, but that is not where he wanted to be. We have no left him to do what he wants with his grades. I guess at some point he will start putting in hard work to match the smarts, if not now, then in college, or real life, for his own benefits.

There are many kids like yours at base school, and believe me, they are not getting all A's.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure where you are getting 7 hours a day? I have never heard this, and my kid attends. I think it can hit 4-5 at peak times. But if your kid stays on task and stays on top of things like major projects over the weekend, 3 should be fine during the school week.

Of course, it depends on your expectations of your kid. If they must take AP everything junior year, and your kid has to be in the top 10% of the class etc, maybe it would take 7 hours junior year. But freshman and probably sophomore year? Any kid spend 7 hours is gunning to be in the top 10 graduates and is overpreparing, or is not using time efficiently. There are plenty of top students who play 2-3 sports a year. Or March in the band and crew, which is a huge time suck.

I respect your decision to send you kid to Langley. It sounds like a good choice in your case for your kid. But even at TJ, the 7 hours a night thing is just silly.

My kid is not very smart but he makes up for it with hard work and his tiger's mom. He already spends 4 hours a day with homework and math/reading/writing tutoring in MS @Cooper MS. Because of a lot of private tutoring, he is able to get accepted into TJ because of my "tiger's mom" wife. TJ is for people with the combination of "smart" and "hard work". You need to have both. Unfortunately, my son does not have the "smart" so 7 hours a day of school assignment seems about right.

I am being realistic about it. want to him to have a life outside of academic. Going to Langley and be on the varsity swim and golf team will be good for him without the stress of TJ. attend a good D-II college, play golf in college and become a productive member of society. That's important to me.

I have nothing but respect for students @TJ.

Good call. You are right about both smart and hard work are needed at TJ. I have a smart kid who got admitted last year and the hard work part is not in the books for my "smart" kid. I tell him that hard work is part of being smart, what makes it whole. But, he gets by with whatever minimal work he needs to do, often by the edge of his seat pants work habits. Been that way always. If hes gets a B or C he shrugs it off. We have stopped trying to change him, he could have been straight A in base school even with his lousy work habits, but that is not where he wanted to be. We have no left him to do what he wants with his grades. I guess at some point he will start putting in hard work to match the smarts, if not now, then in college, or real life, for his own benefits.

There are many kids like yours at base school, and believe me, they are not getting all A's.

May be. I will never know because he isn't attending. I can only guess based on what happened until MS where he managed straight As with AAP curriculam in a highly competitive environment. Perhaps distractions in HS are more, like interest in girls he has developed and the time for chat, pursuing romatinc interests, sports, etc are all priority right now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure where you are getting 7 hours a day? I have never heard this, and my kid attends. I think it can hit 4-5 at peak times. But if your kid stays on task and stays on top of things like major projects over the weekend, 3 should be fine during the school week.

Of course, it depends on your expectations of your kid. If they must take AP everything junior year, and your kid has to be in the top 10% of the class etc, maybe it would take 7 hours junior year. But freshman and probably sophomore year? Any kid spend 7 hours is gunning to be in the top 10 graduates and is overpreparing, or is not using time efficiently. There are plenty of top students who play 2-3 sports a year. Or March in the band and crew, which is a huge time suck.

I respect your decision to send you kid to Langley. It sounds like a good choice in your case for your kid. But even at TJ, the 7 hours a night thing is just silly.

My kid is not very smart but he makes up for it with hard work and his tiger's mom. He already spends 4 hours a day with homework and math/reading/writing tutoring in MS @Cooper MS. Because of a lot of private tutoring, he is able to get accepted into TJ because of my "tiger's mom" wife. TJ is for people with the combination of "smart" and "hard work". You need to have both. Unfortunately, my son does not have the "smart" so 7 hours a day of school assignment seems about right.

I am being realistic about it. want to him to have a life outside of academic. Going to Langley and be on the varsity swim and golf team will be good for him without the stress of TJ. attend a good D-II college, play golf in college and become a productive member of society. That's important to me.

I have nothing but respect for students @TJ.

Good call. You are right about both smart and hard work are needed at TJ. I have a smart kid who got admitted last year and the hard work part is not in the books for my "smart" kid. I tell him that hard work is part of being smart, what makes it whole. But, he gets by with whatever minimal work he needs to do, often by the edge of his seat pants work habits. Been that way always. If hes gets a B or C he shrugs it off. We have stopped trying to change him, he could have been straight A in base school even with his lousy work habits, but that is not where he wanted to be. We have no left him to do what he wants with his grades. I guess at some point he will start putting in hard work to match the smarts, if not now, then in college, or real life, for his own benefits.

There are many kids like yours at base school, and believe me, they are not getting all A's.

May be. I will never know because he isn't attending. I can only guess based on what happened until MS where he managed straight As with AAP curriculam in a highly competitive environment. Perhaps distractions in HS are more, like interest in girls he has developed and the time for chat, pursuing romatinc interests, sports, etc are all priority right now.

I know that half my kid's middle school class had 4.0's. It was a joke. HS is different for those in the competitive college track. I wish your kid the best. Must be frustrating for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure where you are getting 7 hours a day? I have never heard this, and my kid attends. I think it can hit 4-5 at peak times. But if your kid stays on task and stays on top of things like major projects over the weekend, 3 should be fine during the school week.

Of course, it depends on your expectations of your kid. If they must take AP everything junior year, and your kid has to be in the top 10% of the class etc, maybe it would take 7 hours junior year. But freshman and probably sophomore year? Any kid spend 7 hours is gunning to be in the top 10 graduates and is overpreparing, or is not using time efficiently. There are plenty of top students who play 2-3 sports a year. Or March in the band and crew, which is a huge time suck.

I respect your decision to send you kid to Langley. It sounds like a good choice in your case for your kid. But even at TJ, the 7 hours a night thing is just silly.

My kid is not very smart but he makes up for it with hard work and his tiger's mom. He already spends 4 hours a day with homework and math/reading/writing tutoring in MS @Cooper MS. Because of a lot of private tutoring, he is able to get accepted into TJ because of my "tiger's mom" wife. TJ is for people with the combination of "smart" and "hard work". You need to have both. Unfortunately, my son does not have the "smart" so 7 hours a day of school assignment seems about right.

I am being realistic about it. want to him to have a life outside of academic. Going to Langley and be on the varsity swim and golf team will be good for him without the stress of TJ. attend a good D-II college, play golf in college and become a productive member of society. That's important to me.

I have nothing but respect for students @TJ.

It's "tiger mom", not "tiger's mom".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure where you are getting 7 hours a day? I have never heard this, and my kid attends. I think it can hit 4-5 at peak times. But if your kid stays on task and stays on top of things like major projects over the weekend, 3 should be fine during the school week.

Of course, it depends on your expectations of your kid. If they must take AP everything junior year, and your kid has to be in the top 10% of the class etc, maybe it would take 7 hours junior year. But freshman and probably sophomore year? Any kid spend 7 hours is gunning to be in the top 10 graduates and is overpreparing, or is not using time efficiently. There are plenty of top students who play 2-3 sports a year. Or March in the band and crew, which is a huge time suck.

I respect your decision to send you kid to Langley. It sounds like a good choice in your case for your kid. But even at TJ, the 7 hours a night thing is just silly.

My kid is not very smart but he makes up for it with hard work and his tiger's mom. He already spends 4 hours a day with homework and math/reading/writing tutoring in MS @Cooper MS. Because of a lot of private tutoring, he is able to get accepted into TJ because of my "tiger's mom" wife. TJ is for people with the combination of "smart" and "hard work". You need to have both. Unfortunately, my son does not have the "smart" so 7 hours a day of school assignment seems about right.

I am being realistic about it. want to him to have a life outside of academic. Going to Langley and be on the varsity swim and golf team will be good for him without the stress of TJ. attend a good D-II college, play golf in college and become a productive member of society. That's important to me.

I have nothing but respect for students @TJ.

Good call. You are right about both smart and hard work are needed at TJ. I have a smart kid who got admitted last year and the hard work part is not in the books for my "smart" kid. I tell him that hard work is part of being smart, what makes it whole. But, he gets by with whatever minimal work he needs to do, often by the edge of his seat pants work habits. Been that way always. If hes gets a B or C he shrugs it off. We have stopped trying to change him, he could have been straight A in base school even with his lousy work habits, but that is not where he wanted to be. We have no left him to do what he wants with his grades. I guess at some point he will start putting in hard work to match the smarts, if not now, then in college, or real life, for his own benefits.

There are many kids like yours at base school, and believe me, they are not getting all A's.

May be. I will never know because he isn't attending. I can only guess based on what happened until MS where he managed straight As with AAP curriculam in a highly competitive environment. Perhaps distractions in HS are more, like interest in girls he has developed and the time for chat, pursuing romatinc interests, sports, etc are all priority right now.

I know that half my kid's middle school class had 4.0's. It was a joke. HS is different for those in the competitive college track. I wish your kid the best. Must be frustrating for you.

I am not too concerned about my son's grades, as I know he is a smart kid with ability to grasp thing and present the information to others very well when needed. So, I am not frustrated at all. I myself have earned a lot of C's in school / college and barely made it through, and yet I graduaded with a science degree and got into consulting eventually, and reached the top level of consulting I can get to. I earn in the top 5% and no one really cares what grades I received in school or college. It is all about individual ability and hard work when needed. My son is smarter than I am at the same age I was at, so he will be better if he wants to be. Anyway, this is all besides the actual point I was trying to make, that is TJ success is about hard work not just being smart. I also think a lot of TJ parents focus too much on grades, which is a wrong thing to do.

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Know where most of the TJ kids go to college? NOVA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Know where most of the TJ kids go to college? NOVA.

Got tired of streaming porn halfway through the night and wanted to go retro by trolling a text-based discussion group?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Know where most of the TJ kids go to college? NOVA.

Making things up again. What is wrong with you people!!!