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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m not sure where you are getting 7 hours a day?  I have never heard this, and my kid attends. I think it can hit 4-5 at peak times.  But if your kid stays on task and stays on top of things like major projects over the weekend, 3 should be fine during the school week.

Of course, it depends on your expectations of your kid.  If they must take AP everything junior year, and your kid has to be in the top 10% of the class etc, maybe it would take 7 hours junior year. But freshman and probably sophomore year?  Any kid spend 7 hours is gunning to be in the top 10 graduates and is overpreparing, or is not using time efficiently.  There are plenty of top students who play 2-3 sports a year. Or March in the band and crew, which is a huge time suck.

I respect your decision to send you kid to Langley. It sounds like a good choice in your case for your kid. But even at TJ, the 7 hours a night thing is just silly. [/quote]

My kid is not very smart but he makes up for it with hard work and his tiger's mom.  He already spends 4 hours a day with homework and math/reading/writing tutoring in MS @Cooper MS.  Because of a lot of private tutoring, he is able to get accepted into TJ because of my "tiger's mom" wife.  TJ is for people with the combination of "smart" and "hard work".  You need to have both.  Unfortunately, my son does not have the "smart" so 7 hours a day of school assignment seems about right.

I am being realistic about it.  want to him to have a life outside of academic.  Going to Langley and be on the varsity swim and golf team will be good for him without the stress of TJ.  attend a good D-II college, play golf in college and become a productive member of society.  That's important to me.

I have nothing but respect for students @TJ.[/quote]

Good call. You are right about both smart and hard work are needed at TJ. I have a smart kid who got admitted last year and the hard work part is not in the books for my "smart" kid. I tell him that hard work is part of being smart, what makes it whole. But, he gets by with whatever minimal work he needs to do, often by the edge of his seat pants work habits. Been that way always. If hes gets a B or C he shrugs it off. We have stopped trying to change him, he could have been straight A in base school even with his lousy work habits, but that is not where he wanted to be. We have no left him to do what he wants with his grades. I guess at some point he will start putting in hard work to match the smarts, if not now, then in college, or real life, for his own benefits. [/quote]

There are many kids like yours at base school, and believe me, they are not getting all A's.[/quote]

May be. I will never know because he isn't attending. I can only guess based on what happened until MS where he managed straight As with AAP curriculam in a highly competitive environment. Perhaps distractions in HS are more, like interest in girls he has developed and the time for chat, pursuing romatinc interests, sports, etc are all priority right now.[/quote]

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