Has your husband ever left you at the airport or party?

[Anonymous]

This thread just triggered my PTSD. My ex wife used to do this and she sometimes took the kids. She'd try to make it look normal. "Daddy's going to take the bus/train home." Nobody was fooled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After a fight, has he left without you?

No. We don't abandon each other. Not even if we are extremely upset with each other.

[Anonymous]

I guess our times were different, probably in era of easy availability of Uber and Lyft, this is not a big deal?

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

No. I am divorced, but have a relatively amicable relationship with my ex (not close but pleasant, we see each other every other month or so for dinner at a restaurant with the kids). I cannot imagine him doing this to me when we were married.

[Anonymous]

This happened to me once in high school after prom when me and my boyfriend got into a fight. It happened a couple times in college when we were very drunk.

Never as a real adult.

[Anonymous]

Yeah he did once at a neighbors. Was super drunk and made a scene and stormed off. We are now divorced.

[Anonymous]

Not in anger, leaving me without a car or ride home.

We have left each other at parties when one wants to go home sooner than the other but we ensure the other person has a ride home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. This reminds me of tumultuous relationships from my 20s that I would never care to repeat. Not marriage.

This. I remember in my early 20s while in college, I went to see my boyfriend who was a plane ride away in a city I didn’t know. We went out to a bar with his roommate and the roommate, who was a really toxic dude, convinced my boyfriend that he saw me flirting with another man (not even remotely true). When I went to the bathroom and came back they were both gone. I went out into the street and looked around. Nowhere to be found and it was a crowded downtown. An hour later I was just in tears. It was the very early 2000s so we didn’t have internet on phones yet. I called my mom crying asking what I should do. It was a mess. They finally came walking form around a corner with these looks on their faces like they’d taught me a good lesson.

Point of the story is that this was a very bad man. I am glad those days are long gone. Sorry you’re going through this with your DH. Wishing you the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. This reminds me of tumultuous relationships from my 20s that I would never care to repeat. Not marriage.

This. I remember in my early 20s while in college, I went to see my boyfriend who was a plane ride away in a city I didn’t know. We went out to a bar with his roommate and the roommate, who was a really toxic dude, convinced my boyfriend that he saw me flirting with another man (not even remotely true). When I went to the bathroom and came back they were both gone. I went out into the street and looked around. Nowhere to be found and it was a crowded downtown. An hour later I was just in tears. It was the very early 2000s so we didn’t have internet on phones yet. I called my mom crying asking what I should do. It was a mess. They finally came walking form around a corner with these looks on their faces like they’d taught me a good lesson.

Point of the story is that this was a very bad man. I am glad those days are long gone. Sorry you’re going through this with your DH. Wishing you the best.

That’s horrible. I’m so sorry. What did your mom say? I think I would have advised my daughters to go to the nearest hotel and I’d pay the room charge via phone or something. It’s a horrible thing to even think of as a parent. I hate that there are men like this.

[Anonymous]

my ex-gf used to do it like this. Just run away from home when there is a small argument saying that it is not working and would go silent for a day or two.

One time she came back from a trip to west coast by taking a red eye flight back. After 2-3 days, she wanted to talk about it. I gave her a few chances but then ended it with her. She was very toxic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread just triggered my PTSD. My ex wife used to do this and she sometimes took the kids. She'd try to make it look normal. "Daddy's going to take the bus/train home." Nobody was fooled.

WTF! this is so toxic and she is teaching kids the same thing. Very abusive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess our times were different, probably in era of easy availability of Uber and Lyft, this is not a big deal?

It’s not about the transportation to get home. That’s the least of your problems if a spouse is doing this. It screams I don’t care what happens to you; I don’t care if you are not home safely. The basic care for your spouse is gone.

[Anonymous]

Once, we mutually agreed that it would make sense for DH to leave a party with people I was closer friend with, rather than stay at a party where we both felt irritated with each other, but trying to pretend not to be. This still makes sense to me, but no, he has never just abandoned me at an event.

[Anonymous]

Not at the airport or a party. But my husband has some traits annoying enough that when we vacation together, I reserve the right to say “I am spending this day on my own, see you at dinner”. It’s not a fight, though, and it never comes up on the home turf because we are not glued to each other for days.