Hours of alone time with grandma?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, her demand for all or nothing is bizarre. When you ask her why she only wants to be alone with dad for hours and hours, what does she say?

OH please, there is nothing, bizarre, wrong, or creepy about a grandmother wanting to have a special day alone with her granddaughter.
Some of you people really need help!

NP. Anyone who insists so strongly on having alone time with any minor child is certainly setting off alarm bells, imo.

I'll admit my own bias here- I was sexually abused by my own father and "alone time" with him was something I started trying to avoid since I was 8 - but something about the situation OP described just seems strange and uncomfortable to me.

I have never been sexually abused (I am sorry you were, PP) and I had the same warning bells. Why does Grandma need such long blocks of time and resists “only” several hours?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I prefer to keep my grandkids overnight, without their parents. The parents are a constant interference. I'm actually as strict, if not stricter about screen time, etc. My grandkids love to come to my house. Parents push for outings. The children actually prefer not to go out. We have a zip line, a pond, tree house and many interesting toys, games and trains but mainly they seem to crave one-on-one attention from an adult who loves them absolutely. Their current favorite activity is playing store or restaurant with my hand puppets as their customers.

I think it's just fine to have a relationship with your grandkids, but if my parents or my husband's parents talked about me and my husband that way, it would be an instant end to the overnight visits with grandparents.

Your activities with your grandkids sound lovely. Your attitude toward their parents is not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I prefer to keep my grandkids overnight, without their parents. The parents are a constant interference. I'm actually as strict, if not stricter about screen time, etc. My grandkids love to come to my house. Parents push for outings. The children actually prefer not to go out. We have a zip line, a pond, tree house and many interesting toys, games and trains but mainly they seem to crave one-on-one attention from an adult who loves them absolutely. Their current favorite activity is playing store or restaurant with my hand puppets as their customers.

I think it's just fine to have a relationship with your grandkids, but if my parents or my husband's parents talked about me and my husband that way, it would be an instant end to the overnight visits with grandparents.

Your activities with your grandkids sound lovely. Your attitude toward their parents is not.

DP. You are being ridiculously overly sensitive.

[Anonymous]

I agree with prior poster. I think the grandparent's attitude sucks if he/shw considers her child and spouse a "constant interference "

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I prefer to keep my grandkids overnight, without their parents. The parents are a constant interference. I'm actually as strict, if not stricter about screen time, etc. My grandkids love to come to my house. Parents push for outings. The children actually prefer not to go out. We have a zip line, a pond, tree house and many interesting toys, games and trains but mainly they seem to crave one-on-one attention from an adult who loves them absolutely. Their current favorite activity is playing store or restaurant with my hand puppets as their customers.

I think it's just fine to have a relationship with your grandkids, but if my parents or my husband's parents talked about me and my husband that way, it would be an instant end to the overnight visits with grandparents.

Your activities with your grandkids sound lovely. Your attitude toward their parents is not.

There's a special bond between grandparents and grandkids. It can't be put into words. It's not better than parent/child but quite different. It's also very, very valuable for all parties concerned. Give it time to blossom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I prefer to keep my grandkids overnight, without their parents. The parents are a constant interference. I'm actually as strict, if not stricter about screen time, etc. My grandkids love to come to my house. Parents push for outings. The children actually prefer not to go out. We have a zip line, a pond, tree house and many interesting toys, games and trains but mainly they seem to crave one-on-one attention from an adult who loves them absolutely. Their current favorite activity is playing store or restaurant with my hand puppets as their customers.

I think it's just fine to have a relationship with your grandkids, but if my parents or my husband's parents talked about me and my husband that way, it would be an instant end to the overnight visits with grandparents.

Your activities with your grandkids sound lovely. Your attitude toward their parents is not.

There's a special bond between grandparents and grandkids. It can't be put into words. It's not better than parent/child but quite different. It's also very, very valuable for all parties concerned. Give it time to blossom.

NP. I agree with PP. No one who feels that way about me will have any kind of relationship with my kids. I really don't think the relationship between grandparents and grandkids is that important, frankly. I know plenty of people who consider themselves close to their grandparents, but even they don't see them more than a handful of times/year. You can see my kids on my terms, period. It's not a negotiation and you have no leverage.