OMG I finally get it about entitled parents and monster kids

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Anonymous wrote:That’s N Arlington for you! The only thing you can do is treach your children right from wrong and maybe get out of your neighborhood more!

Can't be North Arlington as OP says grades were still 1-4 in late elementary. Arlington is handing out letter grades starting in third.

Dp- it’s still true of n. Arl. It’s the worst combo of quasi crunchy, yet entitled. It’s truly the worst.

Do you live there or have you lived there? Because there's really nothing different about North Arlington Type A/overly anxious parents that isn't exactly the same in McLean, Bethesda, Little Falls, Ashburn or freaking Dublin, Ohio, for that matter. Stop being so ridiculous.

Actually, I think Arlington is somewhat unique. People move to other areas because they affirmatively want to be in that area. People move to Arlington because they need to be close to DC but are scared of DC because of black people, etc. Arlington attracts a unique brand of anxious liberal striver.

Seeing how much of DC is still cringe inducingly segregated, liberals in glass houses....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jerk parents=jerk kids.

+1

I find it peculiar that parents like the OP have to make an outsized effort to teach kindness and character to their kids. These are personality traits that they pickup and learn from the behavior of parents or other role models. Sure once in a while, I have to slow my kid down and say explicitly "That was not okay, it was a mean thing to say/do, put yourself in their shoes", or "It's wrong to do this, you need to own up and apologize". But for the most part, our kids learn to be kind to others because we demonstrate kindness to them on our daily interactions. We demonstrate character by treating others honestly and fairly, and generally working hard to earn what we have. Academic and athletic achievements don't come at the expense of being kind or good character, in fact they mostly go hand in hand. If you are finding it necessary to shift available resources from academics/athletics development to specifically teach your kids about kindness and character, I propose that you are demonstrating enough of either in your normal life.

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12:36. Maybe parents do have their own issues they are working through. Maybe parents don't have the resources you have and have a more stressful life. Maybe the child has a disability. While you make a great point to be who you want your kids to be, until you've walked in someone's shoes, you don't know what they're dealing with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jerk parents=jerk kids.

+1

I find it peculiar that parents like the OP have to make an outsized effort to teach kindness and character to their kids. These are personality traits that they pickup and learn from the behavior of parents or other role models. Sure once in a while, I have to slow my kid down and say explicitly "That was not okay, it was a mean thing to say/do, put yourself in their shoes", or "It's wrong to do this, you need to own up and apologize". But for the most part, our kids learn to be kind to others because we demonstrate kindness to them on our daily interactions. We demonstrate character by treating others honestly and fairly, and generally working hard to earn what we have. Academic and athletic achievements don't come at the expense of being kind or good character, in fact they mostly go hand in hand. If you are finding it necessary to shift available resources from academics/athletics development to specifically teach your kids about kindness and character, I propose that you are demonstrating enough of either in your normal life.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jerk parents=jerk kids.

+1

I find it peculiar that parents like the OP have to make an outsized effort to teach kindness and character to their kids. These are personality traits that they pickup and learn from the behavior of parents or other role models. Sure once in a while, I have to slow my kid down and say explicitly "That was not okay, it was a mean thing to say/do, put yourself in their shoes", or "It's wrong to do this, you need to own up and apologize". But for the most part, our kids learn to be kind to others because we demonstrate kindness to them on our daily interactions. We demonstrate character by treating others honestly and fairly, and generally working hard to earn what we have. Academic and athletic achievements don't come at the expense of being kind or good character, in fact they mostly go hand in hand. If you are finding it necessary to shift available resources from academics/athletics development to specifically teach your kids about kindness and character, I propose that you are demonstrating enough of either in your normal life.

+100

You both seem very judgmental of people. Is that a trait your kids are picking up from you?

[Anonymous]

10:04 - where did you buy? Did you take schools into account when making the largest purchase of your life, or did you wing it? I know plenty of families who decided to buy in the burbs vs. pinning all their hopes on getting into a decent charter school that wasn't miles from their home. It doesn't make you racist to want to buy into a sure thing vs. taking chances.

I also know it's not unusual to want your kid not to be the outlier. Which is why you see white UMC parents hesitating to buy in schools that are 70% hispanic or AA or FARMS, and also why you see AA or Asian parents asking about good schools where their kids won't be one of a very tiny minority. People want to fit in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:10:04 - where did you buy? Did you take schools into account when making the largest purchase of your life, or did you wing it? I know plenty of families who decided to buy in the burbs vs. pinning all their hopes on getting into a decent charter school that wasn't miles from their home. It doesn't make you racist to want to buy into a sure thing vs. taking chances.

I also know it's not unusual to want your kid not to be the outlier. Which is why you see white UMC parents hesitating to buy in schools that are 70% hispanic or AA or FARMS, and also why you see AA or Asian parents asking about good schools where their kids won't be one of a very tiny minority. People want to fit in.

It makes you against a liberal agenda which is to help redistribute wealth. If you are all about making sure that your children are always among the weathiest in the country and never around the poor, you aren't really doing your share to bring up the poor through integration and education. All you are doing is saying it's a great idea for someone else while trying to live in as much of a bubble yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:10:04 - where did you buy? Did you take schools into account when making the largest purchase of your life, or did you wing it? I know plenty of families who decided to buy in the burbs vs. pinning all their hopes on getting into a decent charter school that wasn't miles from their home. It doesn't make you racist to want to buy into a sure thing vs. taking chances.

I also know it's not unusual to want your kid not to be the outlier. Which is why you see white UMC parents hesitating to buy in schools that are 70% hispanic or AA or FARMS, and also why you see AA or Asian parents asking about good schools where their kids won't be one of a very tiny minority. People want to fit in.

It's not racism. It's classism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The monster kids I know in upper elementary have parents who are too busy with their phone to look up at their kid. They are either "doing something important" or posting more pics of parties. Their kids notice that mom & dad don't pay attention.

Agree.

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Anonymous wrote:The monster kids I know in upper elementary have parents who are too busy with their phone to look up at their kid. They are either "doing something important" or posting more pics of parties. Their kids notice that mom & dad don't pay attention.

Agree.

This is happening in our N. Arl. school.