I'm sitting at Planned Parenthood DC waiting room- AMA

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Anonymous wrote:Abortion is often presented as this heartrending decision and momentous life event that will stick with you forever but I always wondered if that's really true. Or if, for a lot of people, it's more just one of the many serious decisions adults have to make all throughout their lives.

How are you feeling about the decision currently? Momentous event that will stick with you or just a normal, important/serious but not earth shattering decision you had to make as an adult?

Not OP, but it was not that dramatic to me. I don't mourn on the anniversary of my abortion or the date the fetus would have been born. I don't light a candle or anything. I was upset the day off, and by the time I was physically recovered, I was emotionally recovered.

I think you have to know yourself. I'm moving forward with an unplanned pregnancy (birth control failure, taken correctly, etc.) because I'm an anxious, neurotic person who would have had emotional baggage. I think most people know which category they would fall into when making the decision.

Wait, you think birthing and raising a child will be EASIER than having a baby for someone who's anxious and neurotic? That seems NUTS.

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Just sending you and your wife all my support.

I hope everything goes well.

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Anonymous wrote:So now everybody is suddenly in love with this guy! May God help us all!

That happens on every thread where OP is a man.

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Why Planned parenthood, instead of her usual obgyn? Or does she usually go to PP for routine checkups?

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Anonymous wrote:DH OP: I have some advice for you, as I was your DW once, even down to this event being on a "memorable" date. I thought I'd struggle with that but went ahead anyway with the procedure. I even cried in the waiting room. Guess what? Turns out I do not struggle with it at all. It was the right choice, yet even so, it was hard to make at the time.

As she's coming down from this, her feelings might ebb and flow dramatically because, well, pregnancy hormones are involved and they've been dramatically cut off.

The surgical option is a good one but she may still bleed and that may involve passing large clots. She could feel great in 48 hours or need to be in bed for longer. She could feel great tomorrow and have a weird bleeding episode or small infection in a week. Those things are normal, so be prepared for her physical unpredictability as well. She'll be fine.

Get her the food she wants tonight and let her binge on Netflix all weekend.

And at some point, watch Season 2 of Crazy Ex Girlfriend because a character in that show makes the same decision and it's portrayed so sympathetically, honestly, and in a way that is uplifting but not heart wrenching at all.

Hugs to both of you. You'll be fine.

Great suggestion. I LOVED that story line and that scene. She just looked so palpably relieved. So authentic!

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Did you consider giving up the baby for adoption instead of PP?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Abortion is often presented as this heartrending decision and momentous life event that will stick with you forever but I always wondered if that's really true. Or if, for a lot of people, it's more just one of the many serious decisions adults have to make all throughout their lives.

How are you feeling about the decision currently? Momentous event that will stick with you or just a normal, important/serious but not earth shattering decision you had to make as an adult?

Not OP, but it was not that dramatic to me. I don't mourn on the anniversary of my abortion or the date the fetus would have been born. I don't light a candle or anything. I was upset the day off, and by the time I was physically recovered, I was emotionally recovered.

I think you have to know yourself. I'm moving forward with an unplanned pregnancy (birth control failure, taken correctly, etc.) because I'm an anxious, neurotic person who would have had emotional baggage. I think most people know which category they would fall into when making the decision.

Wait, you think birthing and raising a child will be EASIER than having a baby for someone who's anxious and neurotic? That seems NUTS.

Oh, yes, do make fun of someone who admits a mental issue by calling them nuts, Actually, I have children already, and they are very helpful for my issues - keep me focused on other things, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you consider giving up the baby for adoption instead of PP?

Why do people think this is a better solution than abortion

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Anonymous wrote:Did you consider giving up the baby for adoption instead of PP?

Why do people think this is a better solution than abortion

It is if you're against abortion. Not OP's wife, but I was between abortion and raising the baby - adoption seemed like hell for people who already have other kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Why Planned parenthood, instead of her usual obgyn? Or does she usually go to PP for routine checkups?

The regular obgyn most likely does not provide abortion services.

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OP, are you going to get a vascetomy?

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Anonymous wrote:Did you consider giving up the baby for adoption instead of PP?

Why do people think this is a better solution than abortion

What a great way to traumatized their children...

Also, I really hate how people act as if pregnancy/childbirth are risk free and have no impact on your health. Until I had my first child, I'll admit I was also clueless about the physical impact of pregnancy and difficulty in recovery. It's not something to take lightly, especially if she has other children to care for.

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OP, while it's great that you went with your wife for moral support, I cannot for the life of me understand why you don't have an appointment to get a vasectomy.

Why would you want to risk going through this again?

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Anonymous wrote:Did you consider giving up the baby for adoption instead of PP?

Gosh, PP!

Wow! Thanks for the tip! I bet they never were even aware of this option! What a help you have been! What would we do without this insightful suggestion. Thanks again!

Sincerely,
No one.

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Anonymous wrote:Why Planned parenthood, instead of her usual obgyn? Or does she usually go to PP for routine checkups?

The regular obgyn most likely does not provide abortion services.

Yeah most don't