You don't know the eggs were bad! You make all kids of assumptions. It could be a number of other issues |
Because fertility often doesn't make any sense. IVF is your best shot if you can't get pregnant. |
Because there could be a chance that DH's sperm isn't string enough to penetrate your old eggs. So the DNA material inside is fine. The sperm just needs some help getting in (ICSI). |
+1. |
I have no idea how that one egg turned out to be ok. I think that I was very, very lucky. I tried for 26 cycles for my first child before conceiving naturally with AMH of .30. Tried for the second kid for a year on our own with nothing. Decided to do NCIVF once. I also do not trust the drugs in high doses. I was also against ICSI, but eventually agreed to it. I think that's the difference. For NCIVF I didn't take any drugs besides trigget, progesterone a bit of estradiol and baby aspirin. As long as you ovulate each month, they will try it. |
OP here. We have been thinking about that possibility and my husband wants to try donor sperm IUIs before giving up entirely. He's fine with it, I'm fine with it, but would a clinic allow me to do that? His sperm tests have all been normal. |
Of course they would. |
I don't understand why you wouldn't just use your husband's sperm and do icsi/IVF, which has a better chance of working anyway? It seems strange to choose donor sperm when there isn't anything wrong with your husband's sperm and you could get pregnant via IVF with your husband's child. Fwiw donor sperm also may not solve the problem of the sperm being unable to fertilize your eggs. You probably would need icsi for that. I'm not sure what to tell you because you're refusing a treatment that might actually work for you! Also have you considered that you could do PGS and not pass along the BCRS genes? That's a huge benefit as well. |
I find this interesting. I understand medication is involved with IUIs. I also understand it has a low success rate and often takes many rounds, if one of their works. Which is why I skipped the IUI route and went straight to IVF. First round of IVF got me a bunch of frozen embryos. I would prefer to do a round or two of IVF with the medication involved versus do IUI with injectibles over and over again! Seems like this is a similar amount of medication over time but a treatment that has a much less chance of working. I also chose to do icsi and pgs testing. I wanted to pursue every treatment option possible on the first round. |
If his sperm are normal than using donor sperm is going to do anything for you. It's another treatment you're pursuing with a low chance of success. You're 40 years old and need to stop playing around. |
| ^^ meant isn't going to do anything for you! |
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I had unexplained infertility at 35. I got pregnant on the first round of IVF at 37. At 39 tried again with IVF and it took three cycles and pregnant on the fourth cycle. My eggs were older. My husband's sperm quality was actually better than the first time with IVF - it was my eggs.
OP, if IVF is an option for you (and I haven't read the entire thread, so apologies if it's not), I would absolutely explore that route ASAP - or even pursue IUI. Don't mess around - time is not your friend in the fertility arena. |
Duuddeee wtf. Becuase no one really knows why it works or doesn't work! There are like 1000 factors that go into getting and staying pregnant every month. I went 32 cycles temping and charting and only had one miscarriage to show for it! I started at 34. At 37 our first ivf worked with an Amh of .4 and a three day transfer of two "ok " embryos. I had 6 others all stop growing after day 3 -- why!?!-- who knows! Ivf takes out all the tubal and egg/sperm pitfalls. It increases your chances. Stop posting if you're going to ask silly questions in responses to someone sharing their miracle story! It's like the lotto - you can't win unless you play. OP is exasperating |
THIS. Amen! |
| ^this is the best advice of this thread. You can't win if you don't play. IVF significantly increases your chances of getting pregnant. There is simply nothing else like it out there. It has helped millions of women become pregnant. |