Thanks, yeah. You obviously have no idea what you're talking about. As if I did all that just for me. My parents didn't have to scrape by to send me to university, and I now have a doctorate, so I think I made the right trade-off. |
I too was a D-1 athlete with what sounds like a similar schedule to your. I was Academic All-American every year and managed to do all this without ever copying other people's shit, because I was disciplined, honest, and organized. Imagine that! |
| My goal is to raise good children, not children with good grades. Being truly a good person means doing the right thing, even if you won't get caught or if no one is looking. So no, I would not be ok with this and child would be punished. |
You're super human! Don't assume your experience is universal. |
| I've heard tell of a people who went through college without cheating on homework and without forcing their parents to scrape by (well, they were already scraping by). But it did require the kids in question to demand more of themselves. |
| I went through high school a decade ago at a demanding FCPS high school, and my circle of AP/Honors kids would often split homework with a friend---I got through Algebra 2 doing the even problems all year while a friend did the odd ones. I did enough to have learned the material but not waste time that could be used on other homework or my many extracurriculars. If a kid's math teacher is assigning over an hour of math homework a night, in addition to usually 2-3 hours for AP History, 1-2 hours for AP English, 1-2 hours for AP Bio, It adds up to a superhuman workload. I used to get home between 8-9 at night, work until 1 AM, sleep until 5:30 AM, arrive at school at 6:30 and study for an hour before classes started. I attempted suicide junior year two weeks before AP exams, as a result of having been out of school for two days with a serious respitory infection that caused a downward spiral of shame and fear about being behind on my workload. I know many many many women my age from similar pressure-cooker areas with similar stories. I'd be hesitant to rush to judgement here, does your DD feel as though she understands the material without doing the homework? Is she stressed out by endless worksheets and useless busy work taking time away from work that requires in-depth analysis? |
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At my child's school they would open a case of the academic honor council and the kid(s) would be held accountable. Rationalizing this kind of thinking is a sloppy slope to plagiarism, etc. Better to learn academic honesty now than in college when discipline has a great deal more at stake.
I too am surprised at folks rationalizing cheating. No wonder our society is in a deep spiral downward - no one values honesty anymore, just what it takes to advance themselves at any cost. |
Uh, I'm the pp suggesting that people thinking filling out a daily times sheet is beneath them, but it is required. You don't get to change the rule just because it doesn't suit you. Ditto letting your kid skirt homework policy that a teacher decides is non-negotiable. |
I cheated in HS on homework, but knew damn well not to plagiarize a paper in college. It is all about time management and doing an accurate risk analysis. |
| So disgusted with all the DCUMers who are trying to justify cheating on homework with terms like "risk assessment." This is the thinking of bankers who nearly brought down the world economy with cheating, but they were making lots of money and living the good life, so it's OK? |
Well, no it's about being honest. I watched 3 classmates of mine cheat on a test in high school and didn't say anything because I thought it was none of my business. Until I saw that all three of them ranked higher than I did at graduation. I still don't cheat and they probably still do. |
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Ron and Harry copied off of Hermione ALL THE TIME and they managed to get through Hogwarts.....
(Well actually they didn't, but that's only because they all had to drop out senior year. Because Voldemort. But they all went on to have very successful careers.) |
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I've noticed teachers load grades with a shit ton of homework so everyone who turns in homework can hardly get anything lower than a B-, i.e. grade inflation. Getting a B in high school math is SUSPECT, as is copying what is very easy homework.
Your child likely needs a math tutor. I guarantee they are developing math gaps that will screw them over when math gets challenging, e.g. pre-calc. |
You don't get to publicly change rules, but if the rule is stupid and deserves to be violated, you violate it, secretly, but take the consequences if they come to you. |
How do you know they still cheat? I cheated on HS homework, haven't since because I didn't want to get kicked out of college and nor do I have any desire to lose my professional certification. Seriously, HS activity does not necessarily translate to adulthood. |