My friend dresses like a slut.

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Anonymous wrote:I was like you OP, I met this woman who dressed very different from me (I dress DC-lawyer) and she is in an a-typical DC job. I knew I would never be her friend.

Turns out, she is the nicest, kindest, most wonderful person I know. And honestly, I realized I am the judgemental B for even caring that her pants were tight or shirts were low cut (and honestly, and 40 she can rock it!)

Is your friend a good person? Yes? Then take a lesson from what we tell our kids and don't judge the outside. Otherwise it really says more about you - then her.

Okay for your kids' teachers at work?

Great. Now I have to go through the day with Van Halen's "Hot for Teacher" running through my mind.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6M4_Ommfvv0

LOL! Great response! (I'm an educator and posted the pic.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She cannot go anywhere without wearing something skintight - breasts out to there and skirts cut very short. All the time. She tends to bend over and squat alot.

She is nearing 50. She can still put this off but it's just that I would like to go somewhere with her without having her half undressed.

I've never said anything but others do.

I am not jealous - just want her to put something on. Advice?

Thanks for sharing. Other than a dcum rant, tou can bring it to her attention. If it's a "so what?" for her, let it be a "so what?" for you too. On the other hand, maybe she's not away of how it's shaking and will thank you for sharing.

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Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

[Anonymous]

So here's my edit.

My friend dresses in a revealing way that I feel is inappropriate for the situation.

I'm not ENVIOUS. Advice?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:+1K

Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

There are many, starting with horndog, which Bill Clinton has been called many times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So here's my edit.

My friend dresses in a revealing way that I feel is inappropriate for the situation.

I'm not ENVIOUS. Advice?

Really nothing op can do. If it's an obvious situation, like a funeral or a wedding where she is stealing the spotlight from the bride, then try to kindly encourage her to wear something a little less revealing. This is the image she likes to project to the world, and there is a lot of media out there telling her is the right one. She has to be the one who wants to change.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Adults don't get to tell other adults how to dress Accept her for who she is or don't hang out with her


And never say slut again. Ever.

What would you prefer? Here are some options from the thesaurus:


slut (noun)
A vulgar promiscuous woman who flouts propriety:

baggage, hussy, jade, slattern, tart, tramp, wanton, wench, whore, floozy.

Or should i have said "fashionably challenged"?

ooh, I like slattern. She dresses slatternly.

[Anonymous]

I'm a man who enjoys seeing women in revealing clothing. My advice is that you leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:+1K

Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

There are many, starting with horndog, which Bill Clinton has been called many times.

And is that word nearly as common as slut? Why not (because I can assure you that the answer is "no")?

There is no male equivalent, because men are not subject to the same scrutiny or damnation. They are free to be sexual and it is viewed as natural.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. I'd like to go back to the intent of OP's question, because I had this situation and was also unsure how to deal with it.

Several people already addressed this- you deal with it or you stop hanging out. I don't know if you want to hear someone advise that you should tell your friend want to wear, or how her clothes make you feel, but that's not the right answer.

When you go reply to a post made at 11pm and there have been two pages of replies since then, yes, I suppose this has now been addressed.

Maybe you need to read the first two pages, because it was addressed then as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So here's my edit.

My friend dresses in a revealing way that I feel is inappropriate for the situation.

I'm not ENVIOUS. Advice?

The advice to myob hasn't changed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:+1K

Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

There are many, starting with horndog, which Bill Clinton has been called many times.

And is that word nearly as common as slut? Why not (because I can assure you that the answer is "no")?

There is no male equivalent, because men are not subject to the same scrutiny or damnation. They are free to be sexual and it is viewed as natural.

Having a lot of sexual partners is not really an "accomplishment" for a woman. They can pretty much walk into a room with men in it and point to the one they want and say "now", and it will happen 90% of the time. Sorry to be so un-PC but women are judged differently on this topic. Men are assumed to be constantly seeking sex and mostly being rejected. So if a guy is "promiscuous" everyone says good job. Women get the "perks" (sex anytime they feel like it) so they have to live with the downside as well -- a bad reputation if they partake too much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adults don't get to tell other adults how to dress Accept her for who she is or don't hang out with her


And never say slut again. Ever.

politically insensitive language police laying down the rules.

Yeah, I much prefer, "my friend dresses like a whore."

This is funny!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:+1K

Anonymous wrote:As for the word slutty, I work with words all day for a living, and I've done this for 25 years. And I like that word. Everyone is free to interpret it in any way they like, but when OP wrote "slutty" we all knew exactly what she meant, and we all got a picture in our heads. That's just good, descriptive writing. Let's face it, some clothing is slutty.

So if it's not a judgemental, value-laden word, oh wise wordsmith....what's the male equivalent?

sleaze bag?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man who enjoys seeing women in revealing clothing. My advice is that you leave her alone.

Nearing 50?

Ehh...