Worried about son's circumcision

[Anonymous]

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If you're going to do this to your child, you owe it to him to give him absolutely the best pain relief possible.

What if the pain relief hurts more than the actual surgery?

Then maybe that's yet another sign that you shouldn't be consenting to this unnecessary procedure being done to your child. So much ignorance on this thread. Circumcision is an outdated tradition and I'm glad people are starting to wise up.

And you're adding to the ignorance. Boys don't need foreskin and there are long-term benefits to getting it removed. Those are the facts. If you choose not to do it because of whatever reason you come up with that's fine, but don't deny there are benefits. And i'm not even talking about the aesthetics or potential odor if not meticulously cleaned. And you tell me how many boys do any meticulous cleaning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It will hurt him. How he will react is anyone's guess but don't kid yourself that it won't hurt him. They are slicing off a piece of his genitals with no anesthetic.

It is your choice to bow down to your boyfriend and also your choice not to seek out another doctor but reality is reality.

They use a local and it's skin, sad that you lie

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honey, don't cut your son's foreskin off because your boyfriend wants you to. Sorry to be so frank, but the statistics are not in your favor of being with him long term. You will always be your son's mother.

Who cares what a boyfriend thinks anyway. Whose to say he'll even be involved in the kids life. Let him put a ring on it if he wants to make decisions about the kids.

[Anonymous]

Why not just cut the breasts off at puberty, then no breast cancer!

Better yet, why not wear a CONDOM to prevent STDs instead of relying on biased studies done in Africa.

Most men in this country are circumcised and yet we still had a HUGE AIDS epidemic. What stemmed the tide--it sure as sunshine wasn't ripping the foreskin off of a newborn! It was SAFE SEX PRACTICES.

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Anonymous wrote:Honey, don't cut your son's foreskin off because your boyfriend wants you to. Sorry to be so frank, but the statistics are not in your favor of being with him long term. You will always be your son's mother.

true don't just rely on your boyfriend, just follow the science and make a decision.

What are the benefits of circumcision?

A decreased risk of urinary tract infections.
A reduced risk of some sexually transmitted diseases in men.
Protection against penile cancer and a reduced risk of cervical cancer in female sex partners.
Prevention of balanitis (inflammation of the glans) and balanoposthitis (inflammation of the glans and foreskin).
Prevention of phimosis (the inability to retract the foreskin) and paraphimosis (the inability to return the foreskin to its original location).
Circumcision also makes it easier to keep the end of the penis clean.

http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/guide/circumcision

http://www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/news/20141202/cdc-endorses-circumcision-for-health-reasons

http://www.pepfar.gov/press/releases/2013/210128.htm

https://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/pages/newborn-male-circumcision.aspx

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why in gods name wouldn't they use a numbing agent? I've never heard of such a thing until now. There are hospitals that will numb the area with a local anesthesia or cream and I highly recommend you find one of those places. LMAX 'numbing' cream is a joke; we RNs know that's more to placate worried parents than to actually dull any pain. The cuts go way deeper than any topical numbing agent.

We had our son's done in the hospital three days after he was born. They used a local anesthesia and a sugar pacifier. Of course it's not a pleasant thing, and you have to make the decision for yourself if you think it's worth it, like every decision you make for your child. A PP listed the medical benefits, which were all important to us. And then there's the aesthetic benefits. Perhaps some women like skin over the penis, but I personally haven't met them. Again, just my experience.

The idea that it can be done later is nice to have in your back pocket, but recovery time is exponentially longer and more difficult the older they get. And of course they would have a vivid memory of the event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son slept through it. It heals VERY quickly. Do not fret over this.

Some babies die from it, here in the USA, every year. Even more have a little too much snipped off the end and end up with a deformed penis forever. All because their parents wanted a nice, neat penis on their son.

http://www.circinfo.org/USA_deaths.html

[Anonymous]

OP - Please don't mutilate your son like this! His foreskin is part of his body and it doesn't need to be removed. You're literally cutting away part of his genitals.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Given what the surgery entails, there is no way that the needles hurt more than the surgery, especially if numbing cream is used first to help with the needles.

Given the documented impacts of trauma and pain on the newborn brain, it is absolutely worth minimizing the potential impacts of pain.

Of course that begs the question of why take the risks in the first place, especially for a surgery that is not medically necessary. Most men will never have any medical problems with their penises that circumcision would have prevented, just as most women never have problems with their foreskins or genitals in general that surgery would have prevented. (Women have foreskins, too -- the hood of the clitoris develops from the same fetal structure that turns into the foreskin). It's not any cleaner to be circumcised (any more than it would be cleaner for a woman to have her foreskin and possibly labia removed).

Sorry, been to a lot of brises, this is not accurate.

A standard bris is performed very quickly with minimal distress to the baby. Seconds. A standart bris is disgusting and should be illegal. Babies got herpes from the rabbi's performing the ceremony. [b]

If you try to apply pain relief through needles, etc., that adds to the time of the procedure itself, causing more distress to the baby.

If your position is "don't circumcise," that's fine, but it's kind of silly to suggest that you, an anti-circ advocate, knows how to circumcise better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - Please don't mutilate your son like this! His foreskin is part of his body and it doesn't need to be removed. You're literally cutting away part of his genitals.

Oh goody the lunatic clown parade has arrived

[Anonymous]

I do love how all the pro-intact arguments are made with love and compassion for the child, and all the pro-circ arguments are simply insults, bad mouthing and spewing out "facts." Equality and justice will eventually end this cutting epidemic we have here in the US and when it does, all the cut boys will be DEMANDING answers. Why didn't they get a say in how much of their genitals they got to keep? THEIR genitals, not their parent's genitals, not the doctor's genitals. Theirs. We don't cut our girls, we need to wise up and stop cutting out boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do love how all the pro-intact arguments are made with love and compassion for the child, and all the pro-circ arguments are simply insults, bad mouthing and spewing out "facts." Equality and justice will eventually end this cutting epidemic we have here in the US and when it does, all the cut boys will be DEMANDING answers. Why didn't they get a say in how much of their genitals they got to keep? THEIR genitals, not their parent's genitals, not the doctor's genitals. Theirs. We don't cut our girls, we need to wise up and stop cutting out boys.

Love and compassion? Hardly. The pro-intact crowd is all about shaming people who make different decisions than they do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do love how all the pro-intact arguments are made with love and compassion for the child, and all the pro-circ arguments are simply insults, bad mouthing and spewing out "facts." Equality and justice will eventually end this cutting epidemic we have here in the US and when it does, all the cut boys will be DEMANDING answers. Why didn't they get a say in how much of their genitals they got to keep? THEIR genitals, not their parent's genitals, not the doctor's genitals. Theirs. We don't cut our girls, we need to wise up and stop cutting out boys.

Love and compassion? Hardly. The pro-intact crowd is all about shaming people who make different decisions than they do.

There are obnoxious people on both sides. I think the risk/reward to infant circumcision is pretty small both ways, but in this case we have a woman who does not want to circ her baby and is being pressured into it by her boyfriend. To me, that's a much bigger problem than either an increased sensitivity to pain or a greater likeliness of a UTI.

OP, if you don't want to, DON'T.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why not just cancel? It's unnecessary.

My boyfriend would be pissed if I did that, I let him make this decision, but I was on the fence about it after the doctor said he wouldn't use pain relief. My boyfriend still wants it done though

Have your boyfriend do more research and then if he for some reasons insists on doing this to his baby, find a doctor you're both happy with.

And go to a pediatric urologist.

And really, don't do it.

Signed, a cut father who didn't cut his son

[Anonymous]

My boys (now young adult men) and my dh are intact. I'm not into shaming anyone...but I am going to speak up when I see stuff thrown around that is simply not true.

Ps, dh and I told the boys that if they ever chose to be circ'd, we'd pay. It's their bodies, and we'd support them.

To date, they have told dh that they are VERY happy that they are intact and have no intent of changing that. Dh is very happy intact as well, and none of them have ever had any issues. As my dh's sex partner, neither have I.

Granted, I don't know everyone in the world. But I know many intact males, and families where the males are intact, and dont know anyone who's ever had any issues related to that. To be fair, I don't know anyone with a botched circ either, although I do know two boys who had to have it re-done in adolesence.

[Anonymous]

My brother's circ was botched. He peed sideways until he was 7. And then had it corrected when he was 7.