is it "humiliating" for men to buy pads/tampons for GF/DW?

[Anonymous]

Man here and buying ky is very exciting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've done it. I was neither embarrassed nor humiliated. They're menstrual products. So what?

This is my husband's attitude. He has even called me while there asking if I wanted this size or that, scented or unscented, etc. He then has checked out with a clerk buying only those products, or perhaps some milk, etc. He doesn't see a reason to be embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

I think being slightly embarrassed (but still able to get it done, if needed) is understandable. Being "humiliated" and making a big deal about it is a bit much.

[Anonymous]

I guess it was a big deal when I was in my 20s and buying it for my girlfriend when she was sick.

When I was 35, married and had kids, it was no longer an issue. After you've caught your kid's vomit in your cupped hands at the shopping mall, you're pretty much over being embarrassed by stuff like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Like others have said, if they are totally immature, they may mind. After we had our son my husband went out and bought me some gigantic pads because I was still bleeding heavily and he had no problem with it. In fact I think he even had a measure of pride doing it, like yeah, I'm a married man with a son, this is just part of the deal.

I agree that the key is to give them explicit directions, preferably with a picture, of what you want, so you don't end up with something awful like OB tampons or something.

My tampon of choice

Ha sorry to insult your preferred brand. =) My mom bought them for me when I first got my period, thinking they would be easier for me without an applicator, and I passed out the first time I tried to put one in. =) I can use them now if I have to, but I always remember that first experience!

I use a diva cup so DH isn't out there buying tampons and pads for me, but if a no applicator OB tampon grosses you out, this is probably not an option.

[Anonymous]

When my water broke my DH had to run and get pads before the CVS closed for the night. I just sent him a picture of what I wanted and he was able to get exactly that. Really not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

I do not expect dh to buy them on a regular basis-I'm capable of going to the store myself-but he has gotten them cheerfully, in a pinch (sick kiddos at home so I couldn't leave, he was coming home from work).

[Anonymous]

I think the humiliation is standing in the aisle trying to figure out how so many products exist and not wanting any part in judging a woman's flow, especially for those squeamish about blood.

My husband doesn't mind on occasion, as long as I provide a picture of which product he can hold up in the aisle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friend and I visited another friend who recently had a DS and asked if we could do any errands/shopping for her but she said her DH was keeping up with it. She joked that he even had run out to get her the monster size pads one needs postpartum. When we left my friend was mortified and said she would never "humiliate" her DH like that. I said a man might be embarrassed by it but that's not the same as humiliation. We argued it out over the car ride back and agreed to pose it to DCUM for arbitration. Thoughts?

The only time it is humiliating to buy pads is when you are 14 years old and BMOC Donny Maclemora is at the cash register and there is only one cash register open.

[Anonymous]

If was a few days postpartum and my DH complained about buying pads, I think I would be in jail now for homicide.

[Anonymous]

I am a mature adult. So I don't feel uncomfortable buying tampons, condoms, ky, etc.

[Anonymous]

When I was younger I was slightly embarrassed by buying condoms and would never by them without also buying other stuff like shampoo, shaving creme, etc. Seems silly now but for some reason buying only condoms and nothing else felt weird.

No need for condoms now but if I had to buy them today I'd probably buy them along with a fifth of whisky and a can of cheeze whiz...and give the clerk a knowing wink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was younger I was slightly embarrassed by buying condoms and would never by them without also buying other stuff like shampoo, shaving creme, etc. Seems silly now but for some reason buying only condoms and nothing else felt weird.

No need for condoms now but if I had to buy them today I'd probably buy them along with a fifth of whisky and a can of cheeze whiz...and give the clerk a knowing wink.

My boyfriend in my 20s went to the store to buy condoms. He also bought a one-pound bag of M&Ms and a case of beer. Turns out...the checkout clerk is someone he knew from high school, who just looked at him and said, "Looks like a fun night to me!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess it was a big deal when I was in my 20s and buying it for my girlfriend when she was sick.

When I was 35, married and had kids, it was no longer an issue. After you've caught your kid's vomit in your cupped hands at the shopping mall, you're pretty much over being embarrassed by stuff like this.

Ha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess it was a big deal when I was in my 20s and buying it for my girlfriend when she was sick.

When I was 35, married and had kids, it was no longer an issue. After you've caught your kid's vomit in your cupped hands at the shopping mall, you're pretty much over being embarrassed by stuff like this.

Ha!

Good thing I didn't have coffee in my mouth just now. I'm cracking up! So true, right?