is it "humiliating" for men to buy pads/tampons for GF/DW?

[Anonymous]

Only humiliating if the man is tragically immature. By the time they are cohabitating with women, they should be over this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the truth is somewhere in the middle between embarrassment and humiliation. I'd do anything for DW but would really HATE doing that...

can I ask why, are you worried people will think they are for you? Does doing a kindness for your SO make you worry others will think you are a wimp or something? I really can't understand why a grown man would HATE it or feel humiliated. I teenager, sure you haven't lived long enough in the world to realize how not-a-big-deal it is, and are still consumed with how others see you... but grown-ups? I really need this explained

[Anonymous]

I've only asked him maybe twice and it wasn't a big deal. Why would it be humiliating? Is someone going to mistake him for a woman?

[Anonymous]

There is nothing humiliating about menstuation or postpartum bleeding - so no, it's not humiliating. Your friend needs to get over her body shame.

[Anonymous]

DH orders them online when there is a sales.

[Anonymous]

So long as you tell me specifically what pads/tampons to buy I don't see what the big deal is. DW has only asked me a couple of times in 20 years though. She probably figures it's not something I'd be anxious to buy, or more likely she figures I'd be too stupid to buy the right thing.

When you get to be a certain age you cease caring what clerks might or might not think about you. If I need hemorrhoid cream I'll slap the stuff down on the counter and buy it and not care a whit if the teenage goof gets a snicker out of it. Better than an itchy butt. They'll get theirs one day.

[Anonymous]

Oh, please grow up. I'll never forget going on a college tour with my dad when I was in 11th grade. I miscalculated the dates and got my period. Totally unprepared.

I asked my dad to get some pads, and he was a champ. No embarrassment. No shame. It's just life.

[Anonymous]

I would say mildly embarrassing at worst, like when I buy condoms or lube. He would only get annoyed if I didn't give him specific instructions about which to get. Even I get overwhelmed by the options sometimes.

[Anonymous]

I'm a guy and I've purchased tampons, panty liners (pads), hemorrhoid creams and pads, breast pads to absorb the leaking milk and damn near every other feminine product on the market at one time or another.

Unless someone is childish, there's nothing to be embarrassed or humiliated about. Like a previous poster mentioned ~ if other people think that I'm using that stuff on or for me, then that's their problem. They should just mind their own business!

I have gotten a little impatient when trying to purchase condoms that were behind the counter. That's more of a personal choice and if they're behind the counter it's hard to see all of the differences between them. Because of modern technology they sure have changed over time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So long as you tell me specifically what pads/tampons to buy I don't see what the big deal is. DW has only asked me a couple of times in 20 years though. She probably figures it's not something I'd be anxious to buy, or more likely she figures I'd be too stupid to buy the right thing.

When you get to be a certain age you cease caring what clerks might or might not think about you. If I need hemorrhoid cream I'll slap the stuff down on the counter and buy it and not care a whit if the teenage goof gets a snicker out of it. Better than an itchy butt. They'll get theirs one day.

LOL!!

[Anonymous]

Is your friend 13? My husband has no problem buying pads or tampons as long as I'm clear on what kind.

[Anonymous]

yeah IME what makes men most nervous about stuff like this is getting the wrong one of something in one of those aisles where there's a million options. A friend who worked in a pet store said she often dealt with men who came in with the empty litter bag so they wouldn't get it wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy and I've purchased tampons, panty liners (pads), hemorrhoid creams and pads, breast pads to absorb the leaking milk and damn near every other feminine product on the market at one time or another.

Unless someone is childish, there's nothing to be embarrassed or humiliated about. Like a previous poster mentioned ~ if other people think that I'm using that stuff on or for me, then that's their problem. They should just mind their own business!

I have gotten a little impatient when trying to purchase condoms that were behind the counter. That's more of a personal choice and if they're behind the counter it's hard to see all of the differences between them. Because of modern technology they sure have changed over time!

I haven't needed condoms for years but back when I bought them I would never get them from a place that had them locked up and forced you to flag down someone to open the case, and then they'd have to stand there and wait for you to pull out the ones you wanted all the while thinking..."oh, a ribbed man." That process actually was a bit embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked DH to do it once and thought he would be mortified. But no, he was like, "OK. Blue box, yellow writing." Then I believe he made a joke about flow. Sometimes I do not give him enough credit.

This sounds like my DH. When I've asked him to get stuff for me, he's never embarrassed, but is very focused in order to get the right specifications. He once called me from the cvs very concerned because there were only boxes of tampons with multiple sizes (super, regular, etc) instead of just the regular I asked for.

[Anonymous]

I find it slightly less awkward than running to CVS for condoms.