A situation with my son going on vacation with his friend and family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I agree with the other PPs--that your mind was already made up about sending him, so why bother to be peeved.

You seem to be way too enamored with the couple's generous ski budget. Many families invite their children's friends to accompany them on lavish vacations and would never stiff a kid with a last minute, first- class ticket change.

Asking a guest to pay for a last minute flight change is crude and second-class.

Agree. This friend's mom cares more about $600 that she won't even feel than being a class act.

[Anonymous]

When you give up control to take advantage of a favor, this is the very likely risk you face. Something will change and it's not your business to judge.

Your son could take a taxi or something to the airport and travel back by himself on the original day. Even if it's inconvenient or expensive. And not make a big deal about it (you or your son)

Or shallow the cost of the first class return - and again keep you mouth shut re the frustration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you give up control to take advantage of a favor, this is the very likely risk you face. Something will change and it's not your business to judge.

Your son could take a taxi or something to the airport and travel back by himself on the original day. Even if it's inconvenient or expensive. And not make a big deal about it (you or your son)

Or shallow the cost of the first class return - and again keep you mouth shut re the frustration.

OP and her DH are not comfortable with their 16 yo son taking a taxi or bus to the airport and flying by himself. Which I don't get. He's off to an Ivy League school in two years, right?

[Anonymous]

^ well that's just odd.

[Anonymous]

I honestly don't care if you do not agree with our decision to not have him stay over an extra night by himself in a city he does not and get himself to the airport almost an hour and a half away on his own, TO US that would not work. He is a typical 16 year old and I would not feel comfortable with this arrangement and frankly most people I know felt the same way. I find it surprising that anyone would do that.

The reason I started this was because when I told my sister this story her attitude was "no biggie, they are doing you a huge favor so you kind of have to just go with it" and then I started to second guess myself as to whether I was overreacting or not being fair hence why I posted this thread. I was curious once the facts were laid out if others would have felt the same way.

And everyone seems all over the map from cancel the trip to just suck it up. I never said I would not do it but I did somewhat begrudgingly, and again i was just curious how many others would have been annoyed or if I am just not being considerate of what they are treating my son to , a very nice trip.

NO I am not enamored as someone suggested, with them or their money. I was just taken aback by the sudden change and in the extra money I had to lay out, but when I asked her yesterday, about what I could pay for, and sending him with extra money she was very adamant bout "everything being taken care of and he won't need a cent".

Have no idea why someone said my S is going to an Ivy League??? Though it would be awfully nice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I agree with the other PPs--that your mind was already made up about sending him, so why bother to be peeved.

You seem to be way too enamored with the couple's generous ski budget. Many families invite their children's friends to accompany them on lavish vacations and would never stiff a kid with a last minute, first- class ticket change.

Asking a guest to pay for a last minute flight change is crude and second-class.

If I were hosting I would eat the fee and not utter a word. Poor form.

[Anonymous]

If the agreement was that you were paying for the ticket, then I see why she called you about the change. That was the agreement even if the terms were changed, given the scope of the trip and that they are apparently paying for everything its safe to say they will spend thousands on your son. I really dont' see the big deal UNLESS you could not afford it which does not seem to be the case.

Be thankful he is getting to go on such a nice trip and don't say a word to her about it. There is obviously a reason they had to make the change, and thats just the way the cookie crumbles!

[Anonymous]

Assuming you can afford the extra money, I would roll with it. It is off putting that the other family assumed you could afford it, but since they are treating your son to a very nice ski vacation, I would not say anything. It sounds like they are super rich, so money may not mean anything to them or they just assume everyone is rich like they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just suck it up if you can afford it.
Not worth the battle.
We were upgraded to first class once and my kids still rave about it,

Why pass up on a life lesson because it's not worth a "battle"? How lame.

Maybe the life lesson is when you travel with others, sometimes you have to suck it up.

Exactly. That is why I avoid traveling with other people in the first place.