S/o where does picky eating come from?

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lazy parenting.

"I'm not lazy, I just don't want to fight with my kids over how much tv they can watch. I'm not lazy, I just don't want to fight with my kids over saying please and thank you. I'm not lazy, I just don't want to here my kids fight over the ipda, so I bought them both one."

The excuses can go on and on. You may think I suck, but I'm not a lazy parent.

You show those kids who's boss. Nobody's going to talk back to you. You're the adult and you're going to call the shots. You're going to get them to eat what you say and you're going to WIN. Am I right?

Yes. You are right, I do win. And, until they can start making their own meals, i am the boss. I don't make multiple meals. I make one that includes one thing i know they like. I don't force feed them, but I'm no short order cook. If they don't eat everything they can have a piece of fruit or raw vegetables.

Do you really think it's ok for your kids to talk back to you? In my world that's disrespectful and rude regardless of the ages of the people involved.

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Anonymous wrote:60% lazy parenting
40% actual physical or psychological issues with the child.

You suck. I have cooked meals for my children every night since they were born. I've tried kid friendly, not kid friendly, ethnic, all sorts of options. I am not lazy. I just don't want to fight with my children over food. And the "a hungry child will eat if you provide them food" thing doesn't really work with at least one of my children -- she says she isn't hungry and asks to be excused and then wakes up at midnight asking for a snack since she didn't eat dinner and is hungry.

lazy parenting.

"I'm not lazy, I just don't want to fight with my kids over how much tv they can watch. I'm not lazy, I just don't want to fight with my kids over saying please and thank you. I'm not lazy, I just don't want to here my kids fight over the ipda, so I bought them both one."

The excuses can go on and on. You may think I suck, but I'm not a lazy parent.

NP here. You SUCK, and you are an evil ogre.

You are also completely clueless as to what it's like to have a picky eater.

I was a short-order cook because it was much more important to me that my child ate a good meal then to not be a "lazy parent." And as he ages, he adds more and more and more things to his menu.
Oh, and we have nice family meals with no tantrums or begging or going to bed hungry.

I win.

I'm not sure exactly what you "win". Do you want a sticker? That seems to appease my 4 year old, who tries her best to eat pb&j every lunch and pancakes every breakfast. But we establish boundaries, deal with the whining and she eats what is provided or she doesn't. There's always at least one thing I know she likes, but we won't let her take triple portions of that item so her meal turns into all plain butter pasta and no vegetables. I don't like to argue about food either, I just don't cater to a preschooler's wishes. Life doesn't work that way. Your children will not always be provided with a short order cook, unless you plan on helicoptering them forever.

I presented two possibilities on picky eating, neither of you presented the possibility that the issue is with your child, not your parenting. You both immediately put yourselves into the lazy parent category. I didn't to that to you, you did it to yourselves. Do you absolutely, unequivocally deny that a picky eater could be caused by a lazy parent?

Finally, I'm not sure why you are both resorting to calling names. Don't you know it undermines your argument and makes you look defensive? It is like you know you already "lost".

I am the second poster. I win because I have a child who got plenty to eat every day and never went hungry. We had nice family meals with no tantrums. My reward is happy mealtimes and a happy, pleasant child.

Who, as I said, is dropping his aversions and trying more foods all the time. On his timetable, not mine.

I wasn't really a picky eater as a child, but I hated fruit. Can't stand the texture of it. Still don't really like it. It feels like I'm eating sand and gravel. I knew for my son it was a texture issue as well, and forcing the issue would be abuse, basically. My parents pulled the bullshit "sit at the table until you eat this horrible piece of crap" one time, and I've never forgotten or forgiven them for it. It was a dick move, and I won't do it to my child.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:60% lazy parenting
40% actual physical or psychological issues with the child.

You suck. I have cooked meals for my children every night since they were born. I've tried kid friendly, not kid friendly, ethnic, all sorts of options. I am not lazy. I just don't want to fight with my children over food. And the "a hungry child will eat if you provide them food" thing doesn't really work with at least one of my children -- she says she isn't hungry and asks to be excused and then wakes up at midnight asking for a snack since she didn't eat dinner and is hungry.

lazy parenting.

"I'm not lazy, I just don't want to fight with my kids over how much tv they can watch. I'm not lazy, I just don't want to fight with my kids over saying please and thank you. I'm not lazy, I just don't want to here my kids fight over the ipda, so I bought them both one."

The excuses can go on and on. You may think I suck, but I'm not a lazy parent.

NP here. You SUCK, and you are an evil ogre.

You are also completely clueless as to what it's like to have a picky eater.

I was a short-order cook because it was much more important to me that my child ate a good meal then to not be a "lazy parent." And as he ages, he adds more and more and more things to his menu.
Oh, and we have nice family meals with no tantrums or begging or going to bed hungry.

I win.

I'm not sure exactly what you "win". Do you want a sticker? That seems to appease my 4 year old, who tries her best to eat pb&j every lunch and pancakes every breakfast. But we establish boundaries, deal with the whining and she eats what is provided or she doesn't. There's always at least one thing I know she likes, but we won't let her take triple portions of that item so her meal turns into all plain butter pasta and no vegetables. I don't like to argue about food either, I just don't cater to a preschooler's wishes. Life doesn't work that way. Your children will not always be provided with a short order cook, unless you plan on helicoptering them forever.

I presented two possibilities on picky eating, neither of you presented the possibility that the issue is with your child, not your parenting. You both immediately put yourselves into the lazy parent category. I didn't to that to you, you did it to yourselves. Do you absolutely, unequivocally deny that a picky eater could be caused by a lazy parent?

Finally, I'm not sure why you are both resorting to calling names. Don't you know it undermines your argument and makes you look defensive? It is like you know you already "lost".

I am the second poster. I win because I have a child who got plenty to eat every day and never went hungry. We had nice family meals with no tantrums. My reward is happy mealtimes and a happy, pleasant child.

Who, as I said, is dropping his aversions and trying more foods all the time. On his timetable, not mine.

I wasn't really a picky eater as a child, but I hated fruit. Can't stand the texture of it. Still don't really like it. It feels like I'm eating sand and gravel. I knew for my son it was a texture issue as well, and forcing the issue would be abuse, basically. My parents pulled the bullshit "sit at the table until you eat this horrible piece of crap" one time, and I've never forgotten or forgiven them for it. It was a dick move, and I won't do it to my child.

Then you fall into the 40%, but you argued the lazy parent side. Why? Do you truly believe lazy parents cannot be the cause of a picky eater?

We don't have drama at the table either. I won't engage in an argument about food. Our kids are provided two choices: eat what is given or don't and you can have fruit or raw vegetables. No drama and no short order cook. Does that mean I win too?