Basketball hoop at our house and we are caught between multigenerational neighbors

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Anonymous wrote:I am not old but the constant noise from that hoop would drive me crazy.

Me too. If it's half hour a day or so during the afternoon that's one thing but hours and hours?

+1. I couldn't stand it!

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I call bs. I have above average hearing and I grew up in a small house on a small lot. I could only hear basketball, lawn mowers car engines etc if I went into the garden. Go away troll.

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Anonymous wrote:^ Which question did your post answer?

All of them. Which did you answer?

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Anonymous wrote:You must have a really poorly insulated house if you can hear the dribbling of a basket ball outside from inside your house. You'd have to be completely quite while inside and actually listening for the sound. If you were busy doing something, watching tv or whatever, you'd never hear it.[/quote

The aggrieved poster must live in Ashburn rather than Arlington. You can't hear anything inside the brick shitshacks of Arlingtom

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are in college but the family next door uses our hoop and my senior citizen neighbors on the other side of my house don't like the noise. I have voluntarily restricted playing before noon (I do try to respect our neighbors). I don't have an ending time but they don't play much past dinner/dusk. The daughter is eight and is trying to learn how to play. She usually plays first by herself (I lowered the hoop for her) but sometimes with cousins her age. The older brother, late 20s plays with a friend or two (he raises the hoop but it is a small court and does not accommodate many) and they play hard as in the ball shakes the backboard or rim. They don't do any loud thrashing talking but do ooh and aah while scoring.

They all played this afternoon and I received a call from the senior citizen husband which did not set well with me from the beginning. The wife and I very close friends and I feel strongly she should have called me. He said that I have a problem because the neighbors don't like the playing all afternoon. I don't watch football but I can tell you it was quiet during the Washington game. He wants me to tell them they can't play "all afternoon."

I told him I would think about his call but if my son was still in high school (4 years ago), I would allow him to play "all afternoon." How should all of us handle this in a multi-generational neighborhood? I only want to regulate the times and not implement and enforce breaks.

Thanks.

Your elderly neighbor is a cranky ass-hole. I could understand before 9am and after 8pm but he is out of control.

I bet "back in his day", before kids were glued to their electronics - all he/they did all day long was raise hell outside. We constantly moan about how much our kids no longer spend time outside playing and exercising - now we have kids who want to do that and some old dude wants to take that joy away!

I would ignore him but continue to be respectful as you have been.

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Anonymous wrote:Do everyone a favor and remove the basketball hoop without comment. The slapping of the basketball is loud and annoying. There are some places that do not allow basketball hoops for that reason. I can understand why the neighbor does not want the noise or hang out of a hoop used by "whoever" the neighbors invite. I am sorry that the neighbor had to call and tell you this, but he is right. Your front yard is not a hang out, particularly for your older neighbor. Be a good neighbor -- those HS kids can find a place to play -- your neighbor cannot move.

PP, I am curious: what do you think a front yard is for?

What it is NOT for is having groups of teens and college students hang out and make noise with their shrieks and basketballs -- but I am pretty sure you can't afford a yard in the first place, so you think why not use someone else's yard?

Aw, are you having a bad day?

PP's neighbor probably painted his front door charcoal gray instead of the HOA-approved dove gray. It's ruined her entire week!

Sense of entitlement to use other people property is amazing. But it is clear that most of these PP do not own their own homes. College age kids -- go to a park.

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Anonymous wrote:Do everyone a favor and remove the basketball hoop without comment. The slapping of the basketball is loud and annoying. There are some places that do not allow basketball hoops for that reason. I can understand why the neighbor does not want the noise or hang out of a hoop used by "whoever" the neighbors invite. I am sorry that the neighbor had to call and tell you this, but he is right. Your front yard is not a hang out, particularly for your older neighbor. Be a good neighbor -- those HS kids can find a place to play -- your neighbor cannot move.

PP, I am curious: what do you think a front yard is for?

What it is NOT for is having groups of teens and college students hang out and make noise with their shrieks and basketballs -- but I am pretty sure you can't afford a yard in the first place, so you think why not use someone else's yard?

Aw, are you having a bad day?

PP's neighbor probably painted his front door charcoal gray instead of the HOA-approved dove gray. It's ruined her entire week!

Sense of entitlement to use other people property is amazing. But it is clear that most of these PP do not own their own homes. College age kids -- go to a park.

Are you saying that OP's neighbors are using her hoop without asking? Where are you getting this info?

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Sense of entitlement to use other people property is amazing. But it is clear that most of these PP do not own their own homes. College age kids -- go to a park.

Who is feeling entitled to use whose property here? OP is allowing the neighbor children to use the hoop. The person who feels entitled to a say about somebody else's property is the other neighbor -- the complaining one.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it sounds as if you set reasonable limits so I would just ignore your senior citizen neighbor. The reality is that we live in a crowded area and reasonable noise level, such as the basketball playing as you described, is normal.

Yes, your neighbor is being unreasonable. (There are posted loud hours in most cities/counties, and the kids are in violation of those.) Children's physical exercise trumps crotchety neighbors.

+2. His request is unreasonable. Kids play. And, you've set reasonable limits.

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Cranky old folks socialize mainly by complaining to people about something that is not worth worrying about. Their spouses are saints.

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^ So true!