44 years old. What are my chances?

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Anonymous wrote:Had healthy baby at 40. Couldn't conceive another naturally.

Tried Clomid with monitored IUI. Then moved to IVF at 43.

I had the best possible test results for hormones and "plumbing" a woman at 43 could ask for. DH has great sperm.

Made great quantity of eggs (21) with 18 fertilizing. They transferred 3 great embryos. Results = No Pregnancy.

Go straight to donor eggs.

Yep. This and the other stories like this are similar to what I experienced when trying for my second child. I kept getting pregnant easily on my own, but I always miscarried. I went to donor eggs and got pregnant on the first try, and I carried to term. No regrets.

I just want to say, gently, that I'd heard from many people in the same boat that they wish they'd gone to donor eggs sooner. I'm glad I took their advice and didn't spend more time trying with my own eggs.

Agree 100%. Once you put OE behind you and embrace DE, you will be very happy. For me (43, with a newborn) it was not a matter to OE baby or De baby. It was a matter of NO baby or DE baby.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I

had my first child just before I turned 43 and my second just before 45. Both naturally conceived

. It's definitely possible. Also have two friends who did IVF at 46. And there's Halle Berry too. It's definitely possible, but obviously trying sooner rather than later is recommended.

That is sosososo rare, possible yes, but rare. I was given 8% chance at 41 and tried 4 times with OE IVF anyway. Nothing was "wrong" with me or my husband, just age. Any sane person would not expect to get pregnant with odds like that but I was in denial & threw out so much money. I do wish I had listened to reason and moved on to DE sooner. Is it possible I would have gotten pregnant with my own eggs with IVF #5? Yes. But I was okay with moving on to something that presented me with 65% chance of success.

You need to choose what is best for you, of course, but that is what I chose for me. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I really want to try with my own eggs first. The responses have certainly been eye opening. I guess I was thinking that since it was easy for me at 39 (which certainly is not young), that my fertility must be pretty good. I will contact GW and CFA. I guess I will try dominion too? I am confused about whether or not I could do the natural IVF with someone at my age. I may be open to DE if my own eggs don't work but am not quite ready for that yet.

If you really have your heart set on trying IVF (before DE) then go out of state. Go to the best clinic you can afford.Don't mess around with the local clinics... they do not specialize in AMA. Make sure they are looking at the right things and not just giving you the same protocols they give everyone. It is not a cheap endeavor and you want to make sure you are not throwing your money away. It might seem like money is no object right now, but after several failed cycles the finances can add even more stress to the situation.

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Anonymous wrote:OP again. I really want to try with my own eggs first. The responses have certainly been eye opening. I guess I was thinking that since it was easy for me at 39 (which certainly is not young), that my fertility must be pretty good. I will contact GW and CFA. I guess I will try dominion too? I am confused about whether or not I could do the natural IVF with someone at my age. I may be open to DE if my own eggs don't work but am not quite ready for that yet.

If you really have your heart set on trying IVF (before DE) then go out of state. Go to the best clinic you can afford.Don't mess around with the local clinics... they do not specialize in AMA. Make sure they are looking at the right things and not just giving you the same protocols they give everyone. It is not a cheap endeavor and you want to make sure you are not throwing your money away. It might seem like money is no object right now, but after several failed cycles the finances can add even more stress to the situation.

+100

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Anonymous wrote:Even though the odds are against me, I hold on to the hope that my grandmother got pregnant naturally at 45. Yea, times have changed but I am still going forward. As long as Dr. F will do the procedure, I want to try.

Not to be a downer, but most women who conceive on their own at 45 and up, had multiple children beforehand. Their fertility is preserved because they spent so much time pregnant. My great aunt got pregnant on her own at 48--with her 9th child.

My mother naturally got pregnant with my youngest sister at 46. She was her 10th child, 14th pregnancy.

Several of her sisters had babies naturally well into their 40s--the oldest was 48.

It is true that women who are open to children can keep their fertility longer. I was recently a doula for a natural pregnancy at 46, and another at 47--both the youngest of large families.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even though the odds are against me, I hold on to the hope that my grandmother got pregnant naturally at 45. Yea, times have changed but I am still going forward. As long as Dr. F will do the procedure, I want to try.

Not to be a downer, but most women who conceive on their own at 45 and up, had multiple children beforehand. Their fertility is preserved because they spent so much time pregnant. My great aunt got pregnant on her own at 48--with her 9th child.

My mother naturally got pregnant with my youngest sister at 46. She was her 10th child, 14th pregnancy.

Several of her sisters had babies naturally well into their 40s--the oldest was 48.

It is true that women who are open to children can keep their fertility longer. I was recently a doula for a natural pregnancy at 46, and another at 47--both the youngest of large families.

Were those natural pregnancies at 46 & 47 their first pregnancies? Likely not.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even though the odds are against me, I hold on to the hope that my grandmother got pregnant naturally at 45. Yea, times have changed but I am still going forward. As long as Dr. F will do the procedure, I want to try.

Not to be a downer, but most women who conceive on their own at 45 and up, had multiple children beforehand. Their fertility is preserved because they spent so much time pregnant. My great aunt got pregnant on her own at 48--with her 9th child.

My mother naturally got pregnant with my youngest sister at 46. She was her 10th child, 14th pregnancy.

Several of her sisters had babies naturally well into their 40s--the oldest was 48.

It is true that women who are open to children can keep their fertility longer. I was recently a doula for a natural pregnancy at 46, and another at 47--both the youngest of large families.

Were those natural pregnancies at 46 & 47 their first pregnancies? Likely not.

In her post it says they were the youngest of large families so not their first pregnancies.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even though the odds are against me, I hold on to the hope that my grandmother got pregnant naturally at 45. Yea, times have changed but I am still going forward. As long as Dr. F will do the procedure, I want to try.

Not to be a downer, but most women who conceive on their own at 45 and up, had multiple children beforehand. Their fertility is preserved because they spent so much time pregnant. My great aunt got pregnant on her own at 48--with her 9th child.

My mother naturally got pregnant with my youngest sister at 46. She was her 10th child, 14th pregnancy.

Several of her sisters had babies naturally well into their 40s--the oldest was 48.

It is true that women who are open to children can keep their fertility longer. I was recently a doula for a natural pregnancy at 46, and another at 47--both the youngest of large families.

Were those natural pregnancies at 46 & 47 their first pregnancies? Likely not.

In her post it says they were the youngest of large families so not their first pregnancies.

One of us is mis-reading that sentence. I'm the youngest of a large family and currently TTC #1 at age 41.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even though the odds are against me, I hold on to the hope that my grandmother got pregnant naturally at 45. Yea, times have changed but I am still going forward. As long as Dr. F will do the procedure, I want to try.

Not to be a downer, but most women who conceive on their own at 45 and up, had multiple children beforehand. Their fertility is preserved because they spent so much time pregnant. My great aunt got pregnant on her own at 48--with her 9th child.

My mother naturally got pregnant with my youngest sister at 46. She was her 10th child, 14th pregnancy.

Several of her sisters had babies naturally well into their 40s--the oldest was 48.

It is true that women who are open to children can keep their fertility longer. I was recently a doula for a natural pregnancy at 46, and another at 47--both the youngest of large families.

Were those natural pregnancies at 46 & 47 their first pregnancies? Likely not.

In her post it says they were the youngest of large families so not their first pregnancies.

One of us is mis-reading that sentence. I'm the youngest of a large family and currently TTC #1 at age 41.

You're right I probably misread it.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for all the responses. Do you think practices will reject me since we have been trying awhile? Should I tell them we have been trying two years instead of four? We cannot afford to go out of state unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the responses. Do you think practices will reject me since we have been trying awhile? Should I tell them we have been trying two years instead of four? We cannot afford to go out of state unfortunately.

No, you shouldn't say two years. You should be as honest as possible so they can give you the best advice possible. Clinics have age cut-offs for trying with your own eggs. At 44 you should be under those, but ask when making your appt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the responses. Do you think practices will reject me since we have been trying awhile? Should I tell them we have been trying two years instead of four? We cannot afford to go out of state unfortunately.

Maybe. Depends on how open you are to DE. If you say 4 years, the pressure will start immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree!! Believe Halle for her seemingly genuine surprise. Not all older celebs seek fertlity treatments ... Although of course many do.... I tend to believe Halle.

You realize she's a professional actress, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Agree!! Believe Halle for her seemingly genuine surprise. Not all older celebs seek fertlity treatments ... Although of course many do.... I tend to believe Halle.

You realize she's a professional actress, right?

This made me LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the responses. Do you think practices will reject me since we have been trying awhile? Should I tell them we have been trying two years instead of four? We cannot afford to go out of state unfortunately.

You say you cannot afford to go out of state but I am willing to bet you will be upset if the money you did spend locally (which is not that much less in some instances) resulted in failure. I am on the lower end of income levels on this board and wish I had looked into it. It may sound mercenary but you need to look at ROI not just costs.