Remorse Upon Remorse

[Anonymous]

SS is exurbs? LOL! You really ARE a moron. How is leaving at 6 am not normal? I work PT and home by 1 pm, which leaves time to do some consulting. That's abnormal?

What planet are you on?

And yes, Ho Co is Howard County. We are a mile away, and we live on two acres in a lovely subdivision. It's worth the "abnormal" 6 am commute!

again - sorry your life sucks - But that's YOUR problem and not mine.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You seem to be quite the jealous bitch, PP. You make me laugh.

I live in the outer burbs (near W. parts of Ho Co) and commute into Silver Spring.

30 minutes tops b/c I leave around 6 am. to get to work by 6:30 - and not at "some little office out in the exurbs" - condescending little minx, aren't you?

I work PT at my NON-little office out in the exurbs, and I also do consulting.

BTW - DC is not the end all for everyone. I worked in DC when I was single and chose to do something else for a better work-life balance. sorry if you can't seem to do the same

So call me a liar. I could give a rat's ass. My life is good! And I have no complaints! Don't project your issues onto everyone else b/c you're miserable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for telling your story. Confirms our decision to stay in our house and all the crap DC has to offer for our 15 minute walk to work. No house, yard, space, whatever is worth a 1.5-2hr commute one way, everyday. Sounds truly soul sucking.

There's a happy medium.

If I were single, I'd probably opt for a nice condo closer in. But with kids, I don't regret moving farther out. My commute is only 30 minutes - on a bad day, and we are out there, as there's only one way into our neighborhood.

So if OP likes a bigger house in a quiet area, I'm sure there are other options that don't such the life out of her b/c of a miserable commute.

Where do you live and what time are you commuting? Are you commuting to DC or to somewhere else (some little office out in the exurbs?).

Because if you claim to be living far out and commuting to DC, I'm calling BS on you.

I live in North Arlington, and at rush hour, my commute can be 30 minutes for the 4 miles I have to drive to Farragut West (granted, I usually just take metro or the bus, both of which I live near). Off hours that drive is 8 minutes, but that hardly counts unless you have accommodations at work (early schedule, flexible hours, etc).

You most certainly are lying if you really live "out there" and commute to DC.

silver spring is still the exurbs in my book... and you're completely missing the point, leaving at 6 am is not normal commuting hours

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:wtf, commuting to silver spring at 6am is great for you, but the fact that it's quick for you is not relevant in a discussion of commuting to DC.

Why is DC always the center? A commute is a commute. Would you be saying the same thing about those commuting to Baltimore? My husband does this each day and is out of the house before I am.

Again, people make choices. If you can live with a longer commute b/c quality of life is better in Area X - and better overall for your kids - then you've made the right decision.

For the rest of you trying to outdo each other, the martyrdom is ridiculous. You're big girls. Deal

[Anonymous]

I don't know why people on this thread are fighting. We should be venting and giving each other sympathy because we are all in the same sucky boat together.

[Anonymous]

Are your kids older, dop you have a nanny/AP? If you leave a 6am and your H leaves before that, who is getting the kids off to school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are your kids older, dop you have a nanny/AP? If you leave a 6am and your H leaves before that, who is getting the kids off to school?

exactly why 6 am is not normal... and my god can't you people take a joke about silver spring being the exurbs for some people? for those that live and spend time near downtown dc, it's always been quite a haul to get up that way compared to some of the other areas that are similar.

[Anonymous]

Re childcare and leaving at 6am: I commute to dc from olney so I leave super early most days and DH handles the morning routine with the kids since his commute is much shorter than mine. Lots of my friends do the same thing. When both parents have bad commutes or demanding jobs (hello soul sucking Big Law) they either have an au pair or nanny or do before care at school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Re childcare and leaving at 6am: I commute to dc from olney so I leave super early most days and DH handles the morning routine with the kids since his commute is much shorter than mine. Lots of my friends do the same thing. When both parents have bad commutes or demanding jobs (hello soul sucking Big Law) they either have an au pair or nanny or do before care at school.

Or they live close in with a short commute and actually get to see their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:@10:33 which parts of PG county are gems? Just curious.

NP here. Cheverly, University Park, and north Bowie have beautiful homes with lots of trees and don't feel low-class at all.

[Anonymous]

Hey snarky 22:27 - since I leave for work super early, I get home in time to pick my kids up at the bus stop and DH gets home shortly before dinnertime (and has never missed one of our kids sports practices or games during the week). So let me dispel the URBAN SNOB myth that everyone living out the burbs are miserable/never see their kids/left the city for a showy McMansion in the burbs/etc. Not everyone wants to live in dc or the close in burbs (even if we can afford to).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey snarky 22:27 - since I leave for work super early, I get home in time to pick my kids up at the bus stop and DH gets home shortly before dinnertime (and has never missed one of our kids sports practices or games during the week). So let me dispel the URBAN SNOB myth that everyone living out the burbs are miserable/never see their kids/left the city for a showy McMansion in the burbs/etc. Not everyone wants to live in dc or the close in burbs (even if we can afford to).

no one ever said you weren't happy, but you ARE making sacrifices to live out and do shifted commutes. If it works for you, so be it, but that's why those of us who live in the city, make DIFFERENT sacrifices. I have plenty of co-workers and friends who do this, and while they are perfectly happy, I know for a fact that they spend less time with their children unless they are not working full time jobs.

[Anonymous]

Exactly! It's all about trade offs or a you cle it sacrifices....and thats what the op needs to evaluate. Just bc his commute sucks, does that justify uprooting the family? Is life better for his family overll (schools, community, etc) out there? If so, then he should suck it up. If not, then they should move on. Its not a burbs vs city debate since its a very personal decision that should be based on what's best for his family. I just hate the dcum posters who think everyone who lives out in the burbs is a moron.

[Anonymous]

Aren't you posters smug. Giving yourself a pat on the back for "getting to see your kids" when you probably only see them for an hour before you put them to bed, or start farting away on your ipads all night. Give a rest.

[Anonymous]

The people I know who work close to home are the ones working the latest. They usually say "I can be home in 5 minutes"... But does it really matter when you are not leaving work until after 7?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aren't you posters smug. Giving yourself a pat on the back for "getting to see your kids" when you probably only see them for an hour before you put them to bed, or start farting away on your ipads all night. Give a rest.

yep, living in the city is just horrible... i walk over at 5:30 every day, do my pick up, we drive home in less than 20 min., talk about what we did that day, make some dinner, might even have time for a walk around the block, bath, books, and down around 8:30... and yes, I actually see them in the morning as well, instead of having to leave at some god awful early time at 6:00 am...

and what's so bad about having an hour or two with you're ipad after putting your kid to bed after a long day?

[Anonymous]

SS is not the exurbs, barely the burbs. Leaving at 6am is not normal.