Kids can't play on the lawn - are you kidding?!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm new poster but to the pp above it sounds like you are having some parenting/ marital issues. I don't think you get it. There is nothing wrong with a woman on here without a child. What if she can't get pregnant what if she is trying. You should ne ashamed of yourself for being discriminatory.

I'm not in charge of this site, I only use it. I already said it was a site for parents or those who want to be parents. Also for nannies or anyone dealing with parenting. I'm not ashamed of not wanting people who I assume are giving me advice from the perspective of someone who has BTDT to actually have BTDT.

I also don't expect to go on a parenting site and have someone try to insult me precisely because I am a parent. Go to any one of the billions of other sites if you don't want to interact with boring people who think issues like breastfeeding are interesting, or who don't have a "fresh uterus" or if you find the sounds of children playing outside annoying.

It's obvious you're not the owner of the site. Jeff Steele has stated that he wants non-parents on DCUM as well.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

OP, we used to live in a condo complex that sounds like yours..about a thousand units, lots of families, and we had the misfortune to have the nastiest, grouchiest neighbors in the whole place. They complained to management about the "noise" our toddler made inside, but when we took him outside to play then we got the same "against policy to play on the grass" notice. All attempts we made at friendship were completely ignored, and any face-to-face interactions were just opportunities to berate us further for our "unruly child." We even met with management to counter-complain about all the harassment for non-issues ("excessive noise" at 2pm? really?) and they were sympathetic but had rules to follow so not much could be done. Any chance you're in Rockville/Bethesda area, just outside the beltway? Anyway we eventually moved to another apt. in the same complex and had the completely opposite experience..lovely neighbors who adored our child and actually came outside to play with him. These people became good friends we still keep in touch with even though we don't live there anymore. Anyway if that's your case perhaps you can move to another part of the complex. I hope so, as I know what hell it can be to not feel comfortable in your own home and to be constantly telling your child "be quiet" when all they're doing is just being a kid. My sympathies are with you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, we used to live in a condo complex that sounds like yours..about a thousand units, lots of families, and we had the misfortune to have the nastiest, grouchiest neighbors in the whole place. They complained to management about the "noise" our toddler made inside, but when we took him outside to play then we got the same "against policy to play on the grass" notice. All attempts we made at friendship were completely ignored, and any face-to-face interactions were just opportunities to berate us further for our "unruly child." We even met with management to counter-complain about all the harassment for non-issues ("excessive noise" at 2pm? really?) and they were sympathetic but had rules to follow so not much could be done. Any chance you're in Rockville/Bethesda area, just outside the beltway? Anyway we eventually moved to another apt. in the same complex and had the completely opposite experience..lovely neighbors who adored our child and actually came outside to play with him. These people became good friends we still keep in touch with even though we don't live there anymore. Anyway if that's your case perhaps you can move to another part of the complex. I hope so, as I know what hell it can be to not feel comfortable in your own home and to be constantly telling your child "be quiet" when all they're doing is just being a kid. My sympathies are with you!

I've come on a couple of times already to say I have a kid and sort of understand but also suffer under (literally) a couple of sweet but truly unruly kids. I really think that when living in close quarters with other families parents do have an obligation to proactively remind children to lower their voices and curb their energy a little indoors. There's a difference between telling kids to simply keep it down and to be actually silent. When they start out with the expectation that they have to be considerate, they learn it just fine with occasional reminders along the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm new poster but to the pp above it sounds like you are having some parenting/ marital issues. I don't think you get it. There is nothing wrong with a woman on here without a child. What if she can't get pregnant what if she is trying. You should ne ashamed of yourself for being discriminatory.

I'm not in charge of this site, I only use it. I already said it was a site for parents or those who want to be parents. Also for nannies or anyone dealing with parenting. I'm not ashamed of not wanting people who I assume are giving me advice from the perspective of someone who has BTDT to actually have BTDT.

I also don't expect to go on a parenting site and have someone try to insult me precisely because I am a parent. Go to any one of the billions of other sites if you don't want to interact with boring people who think issues like breastfeeding are interesting, or who don't have a "fresh uterus" or if you find the sounds of children playing outside annoying.

It's obvious you're not the owner of the site. Jeff Steele has stated that he wants non-parents on DCUM as well.

Sounds like the end of the usefulness of this site for most of us, judging by the quality of the arguments made by non-parents on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haven't read all the threads. We used to live in a condo townhome. We had issues with other people's kids playing baseball on the lawn right outside our small townhouse near our new windows. They also played with various other balls right in front of our home. Our window had been hit, but not damaged. I had to dodge a ball while carrying my newborn. My car was dented and while I don't have proof, I suspected it was these kids playing ball. Oh and they were unsupervised and below the age where that is allowed by law. We had to get the condo association board involved since the kids refused to play ball at the park a block or 2 away instead and the parents felt they could do as they please. Luckily the board supported us. Your post initially made me think..wow, let the kids play on the lawns, but then I recalled our own experience and perhaps this is where the issue stems from. We had PLENTY of parks around and these people had a patio and small lawn near their place too.

I think we moved into your TH...and the mommies are on the board now so we can't even complain. Can't wait to move!

[Anonymous]

OP,

Did you review these rules when you bought your place? Sorry but condos and co-ops are notorious for having crazy rules for everything from holiday displays and exterior paint colors. I've sublet from a few condo-co-op owners and the newsletters and meetings were exercises in competing interests.