After struggling with infertility, finally pregnant, husband not interested to see ultrasound

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Anonymous wrote:

I actually did go for therapy but stopped after one session when the therapist wasn't supportive of my initial decision to stick with one child (this was right after the miscarriage).

Because your therapist, like probably many who read this, can see pretty clearly that your husband didn't want a second child. That it is clearly leading to big problems in your relationship. That having other people tell you that you "should have more for the sake of your child" (utter nonsense, by the way) is no reason to have more. Your decision making in this case certainly comes across as flawed, and you clearly don't want to hear it. Your husband agreed to it for your sake. While that doesn't necessarily justify some of his actions, it certainly explains his indifference.

I agree with the PP here. You need to seriously reconsider having another child. Your DH is already not doing his share with the first and you resent it. Another child is only going to make all of this way worse. I think you have two options (if you don't want to leave him): 1) through counseling and hard work to achieve better communication, a balance you're both happy with in terms of household and child duties, AND consensus on another child, and have one; or 2) do not have a second child. Please don't have a second child without working out your marriage and household balance.