Cash for teacher appreciation week

[Anonymous]

I don't think that anyone expects everyone to give cash or gift cards.

What people are pushing back against is PPs actively *discouraging* people from giving cash or gift cards by calling those gifts insulting or degrading. Or people railing against the concept of Teacher Appreciation because they don't want to think about anyone but themselves in the week leading up to Mother's Day (?!?!).

Give what you want or nothing at all. But stop trying to prevent other people from giving gifts so that you can feel like your non-gift is the Correct, Moral Choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are we doing teacher appreciation week gifts now? I thought we saved gifts until the last week of school?

Don’t you know? Moms have to EARN Mother’s DAY by spending the entire week before doing Teacher Appreciation WEEK. Multiple handwritten cards, gift cards and more, including instructions on each teacher’s favorite color, flower, candy, restaurant, etc. Don’t forget to do all of this emotional labor and recognition of others for a full week, on top of everything else you have to do, so you can earn one day of rest.

Oh poor baby it takes 10 minutes of your time

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I make less than my kid's teachers. We are in DCPS and teachers are well compensated here compared to other places. Are they well compensated compared to doctors and lawyers? No, but neither am I (I'm a librarian, spouse is in public service similar to teaching). Yes, this area is expensive. Guess what, it's expensive for me, too.

I actually still gave teachers gift cards the first few years because it felt compulsory. But I stopped, because it makes no sense. I write heartfelt thank you notes to teachers. That is gratitude. I also pay my taxes, which I think entitled my kid to public school without an obligation to "tip" teachers.

If this offends you, me don't care.

I’m not offended but I would just remind you that other kids in your kids class are still gifting cash/cards.

Teachers are human. One piece of advice I was given when my daughter started daycare (from a retired daycare provider) was always make sure to send your kid with a dry diaper, clean clothes, and a washed face. Because if a teacher has time to wash one face or change one diaper, they will pick the kid whose parent is on top of that. That same logic underpins my decision about who gets financial appreciation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I make less than my kid's teachers. We are in DCPS and teachers are well compensated here compared to other places. Are they well compensated compared to doctors and lawyers? No, but neither am I (I'm a librarian, spouse is in public service similar to teaching). Yes, this area is expensive. Guess what, it's expensive for me, too.

I actually still gave teachers gift cards the first few years because it felt compulsory. But I stopped, because it makes no sense. I write heartfelt thank you notes to teachers. That is gratitude. I also pay my taxes, which I think entitled my kid to public school without an obligation to "tip" teachers.

If this offends you, me don't care.

I’m not offended but I would just remind you that other kids in your kids class are still gifting cash/cards.

Teachers are human. One piece of advice I was given when my daughter started daycare (from a retired daycare provider) was always make sure to send your kid with a dry diaper, clean clothes, and a washed face. Because if a teacher has time to wash one face or change one diaper, they will pick the kid whose parent is on top of that. That same logic underpins my decision about who gets financial appreciation.

What does this mean? This retired daycare worker was leaving kids in dirty diapers if she thought their parents were slackers? This is a crazy statement.

[Anonymous]

Target giftcard has been well liked by teachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I make less than my kid's teachers. We are in DCPS and teachers are well compensated here compared to other places. Are they well compensated compared to doctors and lawyers? No, but neither am I (I'm a librarian, spouse is in public service similar to teaching). Yes, this area is expensive. Guess what, it's expensive for me, too.

I actually still gave teachers gift cards the first few years because it felt compulsory. But I stopped, because it makes no sense. I write heartfelt thank you notes to teachers. That is gratitude. I also pay my taxes, which I think entitled my kid to public school without an obligation to "tip" teachers.

If this offends you, me don't care.

I’m not offended but I would just remind you that other kids in your kids class are still gifting cash/cards.

Teachers are human. One piece of advice I was given when my daughter started daycare (from a retired daycare provider) was always make sure to send your kid with a dry diaper, clean clothes, and a washed face. Because if a teacher has time to wash one face or change one diaper, they will pick the kid whose parent is on top of that. That same logic underpins my decision about who gets financial appreciation.

So the cash/gift card is a bribe to ensure my child gets necessary care and attention at school? Does amount make a difference too? So the parent who sends $50 in cash will get better "service" fir their kid than the one who sends a $5 gift card?

So it's like tipping so the waiter doesn't spit in your food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I make less than my kid's teachers. We are in DCPS and teachers are well compensated here compared to other places. Are they well compensated compared to doctors and lawyers? No, but neither am I (I'm a librarian, spouse is in public service similar to teaching). Yes, this area is expensive. Guess what, it's expensive for me, too.

I actually still gave teachers gift cards the first few years because it felt compulsory. But I stopped, because it makes no sense. I write heartfelt thank you notes to teachers. That is gratitude. I also pay my taxes, which I think entitled my kid to public school without an obligation to "tip" teachers.

If this offends you, me don't care.

I’m not offended but I would just remind you that other kids in your kids class are still gifting cash/cards.

Teachers are human. One piece of advice I was given when my daughter started daycare (from a retired daycare provider) was always make sure to send your kid with a dry diaper, clean clothes, and a washed face. Because if a teacher has time to wash one face or change one diaper, they will pick the kid whose parent is on top of that. That same logic underpins my decision about who gets financial appreciation.

What does this mean? This retired daycare worker was leaving kids in dirty diapers if she thought their parents were slackers? This is a crazy statement.

It means if its 4:50, and pickup is at 5, and your kid has a wet diaper, the kid next to him has a snotty nose and the kid next to HIM has spit up on himself, the one who is getting attention is the one who the teacher perceives the parents are going to notice the most/care the most. If you sent your kid with a wet diaper they will return your kid with a wet diaper and change the kid who was sent in clean clothes into clean clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I make less than my kid's teachers. We are in DCPS and teachers are well compensated here compared to other places. Are they well compensated compared to doctors and lawyers? No, but neither am I (I'm a librarian, spouse is in public service similar to teaching). Yes, this area is expensive. Guess what, it's expensive for me, too.

I actually still gave teachers gift cards the first few years because it felt compulsory. But I stopped, because it makes no sense. I write heartfelt thank you notes to teachers. That is gratitude. I also pay my taxes, which I think entitled my kid to public school without an obligation to "tip" teachers.

If this offends you, me don't care.

I’m not offended but I would just remind you that other kids in your kids class are still gifting cash/cards.

Teachers are human. One piece of advice I was given when my daughter started daycare (from a retired daycare provider) was always make sure to send your kid with a dry diaper, clean clothes, and a washed face. Because if a teacher has time to wash one face or change one diaper, they will pick the kid whose parent is on top of that. That same logic underpins my decision about who gets financial appreciation.

So the cash/gift card is a bribe to ensure my child gets necessary care and attention at school? Does amount make a difference too? So the parent who sends $50 in cash will get better "service" fir their kid than the one who sends a $5 gift card?

So it's like tipping so the waiter doesn't spit in your food.

You could look at it that way if you want to feel resentful about it.

Another way is to think of it like Christmas gifts. If you have one Aunt who sends you a card in the mail every year and one Aunt who always remembers your favorite author and sends you a book every year, which aunt do you call more often?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think that anyone expects everyone to give cash or gift cards.

What people are pushing back against is PPs actively *discouraging* people from giving cash or gift cards by calling those gifts insulting or degrading. Or people railing against the concept of Teacher Appreciation because they don't want to think about anyone but themselves in the week leading up to Mother's Day (?!?!).

Give what you want or nothing at all. But stop trying to prevent other people from giving gifts so that you can feel like your non-gift is the Correct, Moral Choice.

Ok, then please stop soliciting “donations” and contributions for teacher’s appreciation week. Just shut up about it and you give what you want without pressuring or guilting others to join in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I make less than my kid's teachers. We are in DCPS and teachers are well compensated here compared to other places. Are they well compensated compared to doctors and lawyers? No, but neither am I (I'm a librarian, spouse is in public service similar to teaching). Yes, this area is expensive. Guess what, it's expensive for me, too.

I actually still gave teachers gift cards the first few years because it felt compulsory. But I stopped, because it makes no sense. I write heartfelt thank you notes to teachers. That is gratitude. I also pay my taxes, which I think entitled my kid to public school without an obligation to "tip" teachers.

If this offends you, me don't care.

I’m not offended but I would just remind you that other kids in your kids class are still gifting cash/cards.

Teachers are human. One piece of advice I was given when my daughter started daycare (from a retired daycare provider) was always make sure to send your kid with a dry diaper, clean clothes, and a washed face. Because if a teacher has time to wash one face or change one diaper, they will pick the kid whose parent is on top of that. That same logic underpins my decision about who gets financial appreciation.

So the cash/gift card is a bribe to ensure my child gets necessary care and attention at school? Does amount make a difference too? So the parent who sends $50 in cash will get better "service" fir their kid than the one who sends a $5 gift card?

So it's like tipping so the waiter doesn't spit in your food.

Yes. I don’t understand why school administrators even allow this. It’s insane. I’m not even allowed to give cash, gift cards, or gifts to my kids’ sleepaway camp counselors at the end of session. Yet teachers that make above national average, for far fewer hours and every single holiday off, can accept cash and gifts from families?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think that anyone expects everyone to give cash or gift cards.

What people are pushing back against is PPs actively *discouraging* people from giving cash or gift cards by calling those gifts insulting or degrading. Or people railing against the concept of Teacher Appreciation because they don't want to think about anyone but themselves in the week leading up to Mother's Day (?!?!).

Give what you want or nothing at all. But stop trying to prevent other people from giving gifts so that you can feel like your non-gift is the Correct, Moral Choice.

Ok, then please stop soliciting “donations” and contributions for teacher’s appreciation week. Just shut up about it and you give what you want without pressuring or guilting others to join in.

I haven't asked anyone for anything, let alone guilted you. I'm commenting on a thread that someone started about a topic, and staying on topic. If you are so very triggered (and I never use that word online, but it's the only thing that fits here) by the concept of giving a gift to a teacher to show appreciation, then the title of the thread was probably your warning that this might not be the right thread for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I make less than my kid's teachers. We are in DCPS and teachers are well compensated here compared to other places. Are they well compensated compared to doctors and lawyers? No, but neither am I (I'm a librarian, spouse is in public service similar to teaching). Yes, this area is expensive. Guess what, it's expensive for me, too.

I actually still gave teachers gift cards the first few years because it felt compulsory. But I stopped, because it makes no sense. I write heartfelt thank you notes to teachers. That is gratitude. I also pay my taxes, which I think entitled my kid to public school without an obligation to "tip" teachers.

If this offends you, me don't care.

I’m not offended but I would just remind you that other kids in your kids class are still gifting cash/cards.

Teachers are human. One piece of advice I was given when my daughter started daycare (from a retired daycare provider) was always make sure to send your kid with a dry diaper, clean clothes, and a washed face. Because if a teacher has time to wash one face or change one diaper, they will pick the kid whose parent is on top of that. That same logic underpins my decision about who gets financial appreciation.

So the cash/gift card is a bribe to ensure my child gets necessary care and attention at school? Does amount make a difference too? So the parent who sends $50 in cash will get better "service" fir their kid than the one who sends a $5 gift card?

So it's like tipping so the waiter doesn't spit in your food.

Yes. I don’t understand why school administrators even allow this. It’s insane. I’m not even allowed to give cash, gift cards, or gifts to my kids’ sleepaway camp counselors at the end of session. Yet teachers that make above national average, for far fewer hours and every single holiday off, can accept cash and gifts from families?

People do realize that they make above the national average because this is a HCOL area, right? It's not like they're taking that $74k back to Tuscaloosa each night and living like kings.

[Anonymous]

I once sent a gift card with a nice note and never received any acknowledgement (ie a thank you), so that was the last time I have done anything.

[Anonymous]

I love honoring the teachers who play such a huge role in shaping the future of our kids.

I usually give around $100 per teacher in red envelopes from the family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I make less than my kid's teachers. We are in DCPS and teachers are well compensated here compared to other places. Are they well compensated compared to doctors and lawyers? No, but neither am I (I'm a librarian, spouse is in public service similar to teaching). Yes, this area is expensive. Guess what, it's expensive for me, too.

I actually still gave teachers gift cards the first few years because it felt compulsory. But I stopped, because it makes no sense. I write heartfelt thank you notes to teachers. That is gratitude. I also pay my taxes, which I think entitled my kid to public school without an obligation to "tip" teachers.

If this offends you, me don't care.

I’m not offended but I would just remind you that other kids in your kids class are still gifting cash/cards.

Teachers are human. One piece of advice I was given when my daughter started daycare (from a retired daycare provider) was always make sure to send your kid with a dry diaper, clean clothes, and a washed face. Because if a teacher has time to wash one face or change one diaper, they will pick the kid whose parent is on top of that. That same logic underpins my decision about who gets financial appreciation.

So the cash/gift card is a bribe to ensure my child gets necessary care and attention at school? Does amount make a difference too? So the parent who sends $50 in cash will get better "service" fir their kid than the one who sends a $5 gift card?

So it's like tipping so the waiter doesn't spit in your food.

Yes. I don’t understand why school administrators even allow this. It’s insane. I’m not even allowed to give cash, gift cards, or gifts to my kids’ sleepaway camp counselors at the end of session. Yet teachers that make above national average, for far fewer hours and every single holiday off, can accept cash and gifts from families?

People do realize that they make above the national average because this is a HCOL area, right? It's not like they're taking that $74k back to Tuscaloosa each night and living like kings.

The point is they have a fair salary. Especially considering it is far fewer hours worked than any other job. They have the entire summer and every holiday off for days/week at a time. Plenty of people with degrees are making 90k or less and have to work over 40 hrs per week, all year long, with maybe 2 weeks vacation. Teachers dont work harder than anyone else. Few are actually making and teaching their own lessons and material. So no, I don’t feel compelled to leave them cash in an envelope