Made a mistake? Go take your meds and work on some PTA stuff. |
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I think I’m close to making a choice not to date and just stay single. I was married for 15 years. But dating in the 40s just doesn’t appeal to me. Everyone has some prior history; kids; their own lifestyle . I like to enjoy my freedom just to take off and travel wherever I want. I don’t want to take on more responsibilities for anyone than what I already have in my “baggage”.
I still need men for sex bur hopeful with menopause this need would go away so I can be free of them |
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There are many types of single women.
I would not classify a single mom or a marriage didn’t work out for a woman as someone who is a forever bachelorette. A woman who chooses to be single and childless is different than someone who never found her match or didn’t want to settle. |
| They were smart and I am jealous. |
Marriage destroyed my life. Speak for yourself. I am envious of single women who chose not to marry. |
Have another Chablis, troll. |
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Unfortunately, women will probably be classified as old maids or spinsters, not a forever bachelorette. It is such a double standard.
I also don’t consider divorcees or single moms a forever bachelorette. |
Agreed on both. |
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My boyfriend dated two women who were in their mid/late 50's and had never been married and no kids. He said that they were both interesting and fairly attractive women, educated and professionally accomplished, but also very dismissive-avoidant and they both had a hard time relating to someone who has children from a previous relationship. If they never had kids, then it may be very difficult for them to be able to compromise or even get along with the kids. I personally had the same issue with one guy who was widowed after a long marriage, but he did not have children with his late wife. He was insanely jealous of my two boys.
I think that 'forever bachelorettes' are absolutely relationship material, but it has to be the right guy. |
| I'm jealous of their freedom and clean houses. |
This. But also I think there is a big difference between women who have had children and are single vs women who have not had children, never tried, did not adopt and just never met a man whose standards met their own. I know many women like this. I have to say that the women who I know are generally fit, successful and happy BUT extremely selfish, not flexible. I am finding it worse as we all age. They have never had to sacrifice for or with anyone in partnership. This makes a huge difference and because of this I have started putting less energy into those relationships. |
| If anything ever happens to DH, I'm totally shacking up golden girls style with a friend. |
| I really don't care. |