What are your honest thoughts on forever bachelorettes

[Anonymous]

I'm happy for the ones who are happy and pulling for the ones who aren't, same as with my married friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm happy for the ones who are happy and pulling for the ones who aren't, same as with my married friends.

This is the only acceptable answer to me, so I'm repeating it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm one of them, and have a number of friends who are. It wasnt the plan, and it's not ideal, but it's better to be single than unhappily partnered. I do know happy couples but I also know so many unhappy ones.

I have a child, a decent job, hobbies, a home and many friends. I date when someone comes along, but I'm otherwise busy with my commitments.

This seems not what I consider a forever bachelorette. You sound like a single mom whether you are one by choice or no longer with the father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the ones I know had divorced parents.

Several come to mind for me, and none of them had divorced parents.

[Anonymous]

Statistically they’re very happy, productive and safe members of society. So, very supportive!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the ones I know had divorced parents.

Several come to mind for me, and none of them had divorced parents.

Same. None of their parents are divorced

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm one of them, and have a number of friends who are. It wasnt the plan, and it's not ideal, but it's better to be single than unhappily partnered. I do know happy couples but I also know so many unhappy ones.

I have a child, a decent job, hobbies, a home and many friends. I date when someone comes along, but I'm otherwise busy with my commitments.

This seems not what I consider a forever bachelorette. You sound like a single mom whether you are one by choice or no longer with the father.

This^. Not the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm happy for the ones who are happy and pulling for the ones who aren't, same as with my married friends.

Perfect answer.

[Anonymous]

I knew two closely, they had good youth and average midlife but felt lonely afterwards and regretted not trying harder to marry and have kids. They also had simpler and calmer lives with no stressors which come with having a partner and kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm one of them, and have a number of friends who are. It wasnt the plan, and it's not ideal, but it's better to be single than unhappily partnered. I do know happy couples but I also know so many unhappy ones.

I have a child, a decent job, hobbies, a home and many friends. I date when someone comes along, but I'm otherwise busy with my commitments.

This seems not what I consider a forever bachelorette. You sound like a single mom whether you are one by choice or no longer with the father.

This^. Not the same.

What distinction are you making from a “forever bachelorette” and a SMBC who decides marriage isn’t for her? It sounds like you are assigning some odd lack of status because she has a child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am one, and I know a half dozen other women who are/were.

The ones I know and myself included were highly educated self supporting and didn’t have the patience to tolerate the kinds of behaviors that fill hundreds of threads on this board.

A few of them did single parent by choice and did very well parenting without the added strain of parenting an adult as well. Some of us eschewed parenting as well as marriage.

None of us is any substantial degree more or less happy than the average middle aged person - but some of us have a lot less stress.

I used to spend a fair bit of time wondering what if, but now that I’m in my mid 50s and I see the state of most of the middle aged marriages around me, I’m very much at peace with being the spinster auntie of my family. VERY MUCH.

You were doing a nice job of showing you’re at oeace with your choices until the end when you used a mean term to describe yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am one, and I know a half dozen other women who are/were.

The ones I know and myself included were highly educated self supporting and didn’t have the patience to tolerate the kinds of behaviors that fill hundreds of threads on this board.

A few of them did single parent by choice and did very well parenting without the added strain of parenting an adult as well. Some of us eschewed parenting as well as marriage.

None of us is any substantial degree more or less happy than the average middle aged person - but some of us have a lot less stress.

I used to spend a fair bit of time wondering what if, but now that I’m in my mid 50s and I see the state of most of the middle aged marriages around me, I’m very much at peace with being the spinster auntie of my family. VERY MUCH.

You were doing a nice job of showing you’re at oeace with your choices until the end when you used a mean term to describe yourself.

The fact that she can use that term in a tongue in cheek way is what confirms she's happy as she is. "Spinster" is only an insult to those who think marriage and children are the goal. I wish I were a spinster!

[Anonymous]

Forever bachelorettes are ahead of their time and the wisest women of all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is not an accomplishment.

Yes it is! More importantly, marriage is a necessity. Living in sin is not an option

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is not an accomplishment.

Yes it is! More importantly, marriage is a necessity. Living in sin is not an option

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