Ladies, Do Your DHs Know About Your One Night Stands?

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Anonymous wrote:It would be REALLY weird to get into specifics on any of my sexual past. Neither of us do that. Not really clear on why ONS makes a difference vs longer term past relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:The other thread got me wondering. If you had one night stands in college/ your 20s before marriage, do you husbands know about them?

I'm talking about truly one night stands in that you were at a bar or on spring break, met some rando, screwed them, and never saw them again.

I'm just curious how this would even come up as a topic of conversation or how it is relevant to anything.

I'm in this camp. Like I know my husband had a lot of sex before me but I'm not really interested in the details.

I'll never understand this POV. It's like claiming to have a favorite book that you skipped reading 5 chapters of.

What benefit is it to you or your relationship to know exactly who or how your spouse had sex with before you?

Trust building for one. Anyone who balks at answering every detail, is someone you cannot trust.

what else fo you expect explicir details of?

Their shits?

If that's a concern, then yes you share your medical issues with a spouse also. No wonder you have had rocky relationships if you are so closed off and shy and willing to lie.

well i
, not concerended about my spouses past sex life therefore i don't need details about it. why are you concerned about your spouse's past sex life.

Why do you care about other people's sex lives that you are not married to? Weird.

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Anonymous wrote:The other thread got me wondering. If you had one night stands in college/ your 20s before marriage, do you husbands know about them?

I'm talking about truly one night stands in that you were at a bar or on spring break, met some rando, screwed them, and never saw them again.

I'm just curious how this would even come up as a topic of conversation or how it is relevant to anything.

I'm in this camp. Like I know my husband had a lot of sex before me but I'm not really interested in the details.

I'll never understand this POV. It's like claiming to have a favorite book that you skipped reading 5 chapters of.

What benefit is it to you or your relationship to know exactly who or how your spouse had sex with before you?

Trust building for one. Anyone who balks at answering every detail, is someone you cannot trust.

what else fo you expect explicir details of?

Their shits?

If that's a concern, then yes you share your medical issues with a spouse also. No wonder you have had rocky relationships if you are so closed off and shy and willing to lie.

oh so you don't know wvwery detail about your spouse. you suck as a wife or husband.

How many pills, pot, and booze have you had this evening deary?

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Anonymous wrote:It would be REALLY weird to get into specifics on any of my sexual past. Neither of us do that. Not really clear on why ONS makes a difference vs longer term past relationships.

Really?

I mean if anything it would be the opposite when it comes to the specifics. Longer term relationships had more sexual ups and downs that could be relevant to my husband. But we have made it 13 years without discussing any of that, so...

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Anonymous wrote:It would be REALLY weird to get into specifics on any of my sexual past. Neither of us do that. Not really clear on why ONS makes a difference vs longer term past relationships.

Really?

I mean if anything it would be the opposite when it comes to the specifics. Longer term relationships had more sexual ups and downs that could be relevant to my husband. But we have made it 13 years without discussing any of that, so...

You are at the dangerous time period where divorce is most likely now. Step carefully.

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Anonymous wrote:It would be REALLY weird to get into specifics on any of my sexual past. Neither of us do that. Not really clear on why ONS makes a difference vs longer term past relationships.

Really?

I mean if anything it would be the opposite when it comes to the specifics. Longer term relationships had more sexual ups and downs that could be relevant to my husband. But we have made it 13 years without discussing any of that, so...

You are at the dangerous time period where divorce is most likely now. Step carefully.

LOL you're a moron.

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Anonymous wrote:It would be REALLY weird to get into specifics on any of my sexual past. Neither of us do that. Not really clear on why ONS makes a difference vs longer term past relationships.

Really?

Tell us why, tradwife.

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Anonymous wrote:The other thread got me wondering. If you had one night stands in college/ your 20s before marriage, do you husbands know about them?

I'm talking about truly one night stands in that you were at a bar or on spring break, met some rando, screwed them, and never saw them again.

If one doesn't feel comfortable enough to give them key of their home, they shouldn't be having sex with them.

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Anonymous wrote:I have never had a one night stand. I can't imagine having sex with a random stranger.

key indicator of a sterile bedroom after marriage

Sterile of STD.

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. I've had 6 abortions.

Someone having an abortion is one thing but having 6 and LOL about that, that's a totally different thing. It shows lack of common sense, not a desirable trait for a a life partner and co-parent.

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Anonymous wrote:LOL. I've had 6 abortions.

I'm pro-choice but that seems excessive.

How does this reconcile? Either you are pro choice or you are not. What is an excessive number of abortions?

Pro-choice and stupid are two different things.

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Marry the girl who slept around! She likes to have sex!

This poster suggests that a girl who sleeps around likes to have sex; therefore, she will want to have sex after she is married. However, the only conclusion we can draw about a woman who slept around a lot before she got married is that she wanted (and had) sex with many different men.

Specifically, there is no support for a conclusion that a woman sleeping with many different men pre-marriage indicates she will have a great sex life with her husband post-marriage.

In fact, it is more logical to assume that if a woman were promiscuous pre-marriage, she will have trouble remaining committed to one man post-marriage.

In other words, if she liked moving from guy to guy to guy, why would she turn this inclination around once she puts on a ring? However, the woman who only had sex in committed relationships has already shown her inclination for monogamy.

Also, there is no support for the idea that promiscuity makes a woman a great lover. Again, it more likely that a women who has been in few, but committed relationships, would have learned how to make sex fun with a long-term partner.

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Anonymous wrote:I will tell him a few of the one nighters but not getting into details like getting spit roasted on spring break. Limits to what I will say.

Yeah, definitely keep that one to yourself.