12 year old girl constantly using the word “beta”

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Anonymous wrote:Kids pick up quirks. She'll stop using it somewhere along the way. But if you think it's an OCD type thing, have her checked for strep. One of my kids started using a certain phrase over and over all day long and it was a symptom of strep.

Neurological changes from strep occur after the infection. Nothing to be done about it then.

Worked for my kid.

Wasn't the problem then.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - she is using it as the Hindi word. She has Indian friends. My concern was it could make her appear racist.

Using the word “beta,” pronounced “beh-ta” was common at my kid’s W last year. It refers to the term of endearment for a generation younger than you in Hindi.

There are a lot of videos online of younger South Asian kids mimicking their parents or grandparents and making fun of their parents and the term “beta” comes up.

THIS!!!

Holy crap, I can't believe what morons most of you are.

It has nothing to do with Andrew Tate, it's not being used as the alternative to alpha.

There's this thing called social media and an app called TikTok.... this may blow your mind, but there's a culture on there of teens sharing humorous parts of their lives and adopting each others' slang. This is where the INDIAN term beta comes in. I'm INDIAN myself and yeah I'm pretty aware that there's no INDIAN language. Beta transcends just one language from the Indian subcontinent....we can say terms are American, right? As opposed to British English or Australian English. It's fine. Do we understand that? There are times when we can characterize a word as deriving from a whole ass nation, and this is one of those times. Shame on you @$$holes criticizing the White OP for characterizing the term that way. Calling beta a strictly Hindi term is way MORE moronic, actually. OP, there is nothing wrong with calling it Indian. There are Indian people who may be offended (but probably wouldn't be, because they tend to have more sense than to get offended by things like this) if you ascribe beta to one language or dialect. This sort of pedantry is what keeps people from wanting to learn about other cultures.

You'll often see in videos of Jamie Oliver cooking and using the word "pukka" (the way he means it is something like "top rate")- let's get right on canceling him, too.

Beta is a term of endearment for a child. OP, your kid is doing nothing wrong.

I’m not sure that’s right. I mean like the TikTok thing spreading it is probably right, but I watched the Netflix series Adolescence and it also explained boys getting demeaning terms like Beta off TikTok.

Then boys go down the rabbit hole of toxic masculinity and they become these incels; which is really scary!

It hard to explain. You just have to watch the series. It made me so glad I only have girls, after learning how the boys really are today.

TWO DIFFERENT WORDS USED IN TWO DIFFERENT WAYS. LEARN HOW TO COMPREHEND WHAT YOU READ.

OP CLEARLY SAID "INDIAN WORD BETA". This is, in fact, a term of endearment in many different Indian languages. Usually used by adults for children or the generation younger than them. Currently used jokingly by 1st and 2nd gen Indian kids to make fun of their parents/grandparents. If OP's kid is using this seriously, then that's a little weird, but my own kids are still tweens and don't have a ton of Indian friends (and their cousins don't do this at least in front of adults, LOL), so we're not aware.

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Anonymous wrote:No this is a white girl using an Indian word.

I…don’t think that’s what is happening.

Yes it is. It’s an Indian word and my child is constantly using it and she’s not Indian.

So what. Nobody cares. Why does this bother you.

Have you heard of cultural appropriation?

OP nobody cares. I am an Indian mother telling you that NOBODY CARES. We're not offended. Your kid just looks stupid, but she's not offending anyone. Okay, can we end the thread now?

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She’s calling them betas because that’s what boys have turned into in 2025. They can’t handle it.

Watch the Netflix series Adolescence. Boys are horrible!

Sooo glad I only had girls!

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Anonymous wrote:She’s calling them betas because that’s what boys have turned into in 2025. They can’t handle it.

Watch the Netflix series Adolescence. Boys are horrible!

Sooo glad I only had girls!

Read the damn thread. OP is talking about a totally different word than you are.

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I’m Indian and initially thought you meant she was using it in the context of incel/right wing culture, like a beta male. But if you’re pretty sure it’s actually the Hindi word, it just means “honey” or “hon” and there’s nothing wrong with using it. It’s pronounced BAY-ta.

Like some other posters have said, it’s a little weird because it’s typically something a parent/aunt/uncle would call a child or someone a generation below them. I’ve never heard young South Asians use it with each other. But it’s a harmless term of endearment. I’d be more concerned about random people thinking she’s throwing the word around in the other sense.

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Anonymous wrote:Kids pick up quirks. She'll stop using it somewhere along the way. But if you think it's an OCD type thing, have her checked for strep. One of my kids started using a certain phrase over and over all day long and it was a symptom of strep.

Neurological changes from strep occur after the infection. Nothing to be done about it then.

Worked for my kid.

Wasn't the problem then.

How evil do you have to be to not want others to get relief for their children because YOU get to decide what's going on in their bodies or what/why an approach worked?

OP, ignore this douche bag and focus on getting help for your child.

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Anonymous wrote:No this is a white girl using an Indian word.

Can you give an example? Start by explaining what beta means in India then describe a couple instances of how she uses it.

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Jamie Oliver used to use the word Pukka. I thought he was saying something was "pucker" as in makes you mouth water or pucker, but he was using an indian word. So what. The world is full of interesting words. And people and foods and clothing etc.

OP, your daughter sounds like an interesting person.

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It could be a way to talk down to people, particularly boys in general.
Beta, slang: "A man who is perceived as weak, passive, and subservient, often contrasted with an "alpha" male who is seen as confident and dominant. It's a derogatory term, implying a lack of traditional masculine traits."

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I can’t even believe this post has so many pages of replies. It’s a non issue. The girl doesn’t need “help”. It’s some silly phase that will probably be shorter than this thread and then it’ll be some new word.

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Anonymous wrote:It could be a way to talk down to people, particularly boys in general.
Beta, slang: "A man who is perceived as weak, passive, and subservient, often contrasted with an "alpha" male who is seen as confident and dominant. It's a derogatory term, implying a lack of traditional masculine traits."

“Beta” is not the only put-down used against males now. Another is:

“short-man energy”

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Reminds me of the "TAKE ME OFF THIS EMAIL" reply all chains. What a bunch of losers you all are.

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Np sounds cute to me

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Parents these days are such a mess. The inmates are running the asylum.