Graduation cards / announcements - is this a thing in DC?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve received them. We’ve never sent a gift but we have sent congratulatory texts. I think they’re nice, like a holiday card. If you don’t like them or want to receive them, be sure to reach out to parents with soon-to-be-grads and let them know they’re a gift-grabbing gauche family.

See? You wouldn’t have the balls to do it so just receive the card, smile, send a text and move on with your life.

Love it!

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s the norm here, but if I received one I would be happy for your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Emily Post has covered HS graduation announcements. They perfectible acceptable to mail out.

However, one is not on an obligation to send a gift. However, she wrote it is nice to give well wishes to the student.

My older child when we sent out announcements my aunt texted wife when she got announcement middle daughter. She asked for daughters cell number and called her to wish her well and she told her all bout het college major. There was no gift involved.

And for haters. My last living grandaunt in Europe through marriage I sent ever Xmas card and announcement to even though she never responded. I knew not on internet and husband dead and no kids, she is now dead but I visited her briefly before she died for tea and to my suprise the 90 year old women kept ever picture, had the latest ones on fridge. Even out communion pictures in frame. She said she felt like she watched my kids grow up from afar and always told her neighbors about her American nieces.

So perhaps that why people do it. That women I never knew it made her so happy. And my wives uncle is in a nursing home we send him cards to nursing home. Of course he can’t respond. But my MIL called him and he just got my daughters HS graduation announcement week before and he enjoyed looking at it and said he put his nieces picture by his bed

I don’t give a shit most of you think it is a cash grab.

No, Emily Post did not say it is okay to send a grad announcement. She said, “ It is an etiquette myth that if you receive a graduation announcement you must send a gift. Announcements do not equal invitations to a graduation. You are not obligated to give a gift, although you may choose to do so. Whether or not you send a present, a card or note of congratulations is always appreciated.” There was zero condoning of it.

Why couldn’t your European relative just gotten a pic? And Southern Living says never send a grad announcement to someone your kid won’t recognize in person, which would include this aunt. And how many people in your life are you sending these to that you think kept it? Do you keep them?

Keep doing it. You are not alone. But no need to justify it…it is a gift grab.

DP: You may continue to choose to disbelieve everyone telling you it isn't a gift grab. We do not want or expect a gift, no matter what you choose to believe, and Emily Post has made that clear to anyone who is confused (like you) and decides to google it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's just a happy announcement. Decent people will look upon it kindly and insecure judgmental types will do what they always do which is criticize, gossip and panic.

Decent people = those that agree with you

insecure judgmental people who criticize, gossip and panic= those that don't

Since you're criticizing and judging pretty harshly, are you decent?

Decent people: generally view actions of others with grace

Judgmental people: prone to criticize and gossip.

Pretty simple.

Why demolish this simple little celebration? No need to introduce a money grab intention. It doesn’t include a go fund me or registry link. It’s like the Thanksgiving of actions - it requires nothing of you. Just read it and even smile if you’d like.

Send a card, don’t send a card. The worry over appearances about a happy annnouncement indicates a sad state of our society. Don’t let the bullies win, OP. Bring back delight in good intentions. Maybe it will catch on…

[Anonymous]

It’s not tacky and it’s not a gift grab. Pick up any etiquette book. If you aren’t interested just throw the card away.