As a woman, if you must pick one shorter than you or taller but skinny, who would you choose?
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Anonymous
| Taller. 6’ minimum. |
Anonymous
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Skinny men are not as skinny as they think. Their reference is just a bunch of fat dudes like me. I'm 5'10 and 250 lbs and unfortunately a lot men are fat like me lol. Aren't 50% of Americans across gender overweight?
A man can be 5'9 and 145 and yet because he is a rarity in fat nation he feels insecure. The women who say they don't a skinny dude are low key insecure about being with a guy who is a normal weight. I get it. |
Anonymous
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As a man, it is better to be tall and skinny (6' + 150 pounds) if you are focused on success in dating American women. Plenty of short, petite women in this country in major metro areas who will want you.
In my experience, women will take a shorter guy who weighs more than them. A guy who weighs less than a woman will automatically trigger her insecurity. |
Anonymous
Your husband is average height, not short. You are nearly 6 inches taller than the average woman (5 feet 3.5 inches), but still roughly the same height as DH, so NBD. The problem I'm having with this thread is that some women are claiming "All the short men I know are married!", however... 1. They define any man who's less than 6ft (85% of men) as being "short" 2. They fail to mention the height of the women married to these "short" men So they act like they "married short" (case in point: you), when in fact they married average, or they are leaving out the fact that these genuinely short men (5'6" or less) who are married, are with women their height or shorter, and not women who are disproportionately taller than them. |
Anonymous
Close; obesity among Americans is nearly at 50%. Almost 75% of people are either overweight or obese. Your third paragraph isn't wrong. People call me "skinny'" all the time at 6'6" 210lbs, despite having a slight gut. Whenever I turn down junk food and tell people I'm "watching my weight" or "getting too fat", they flip out. |
Anonymous
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What an odd question and wouldn’t it depend on the woman’s own size? For example, I am 5’1 with a healthy BMI for that height. It would be pretty hard for me to find a man shorter than me or (unless by taller you mean one or two inches taller at most) who is taller and weighs less.
But also, I’d pick the one with better personality and more things in common. Looks are great but not something that can compensate for other issues. |
Anonymous
| Tall and skinny obviously. Isn't that my type? That's my type. |
Anonymous
Let's rephrase the question to be a choice between a 5'5" buff man and a 6' man who is lean (but obviously, heavier than you), and they both have good personalities and share the same interests as you. Which one would you pick? |
Anonymous
Wives are equal height or taller |
Anonymous
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taller and skinny. One can always gain muscle; one cannot gain height, especially for a man who doesn't wear high heels.
And I say this a really short woman. |
Anonymous
Sounds like they settled on the height issue and married for the $$ then. Women just don't seek out short height in the men they date. |
Anonymous
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Haha this thread is a trigger for me. I'm 5'11 and 130 healthy long distance runner.
Ready here are the things women tell me. Men very very rarely comment on my weight. But women feel the need to... I can break you Do you eat? You are so skinny omg Eat donuts Eat more Eat pizza Go to the gym Haha .... Fun fun being skinny. I don't care though because my fiance is incredibly hot. I may be skinny but when erect I am 7.5 inch. And I am good in bed we are a good match. But on a serious note she chose me because I am kind, a nerd (placed at math olympiads), great guitar player, great carpenter( I build a custom box for her engagement ring), and most importantly a great person. And she made the right choice. I have been investing since I was 19. I am 29 today and already make $198k a year. Hopefully in a few years I'll make even more. Together as a team we will build a great family and we will be financially stable. I can't change my genes. Every man in my family looks like a walking stick and we are very healthy with long longevity. I am glad a lot of women turned me down for being skinny because the one who eventually picked me rejected most of the men who one would describe as 10/10 whatever that means |
Anonymous
At this point, I’d genuinely flip a coin. They are both fine - I wouldn’t even view that as in any way settling or picking a lesser evil. (I come from generations of short people, men and women, who all managed to find mates - both my grandfathers were 5’5, my father is 5’6 and skinny is also fine unless it’s literally unhealthy.) |
Anonymous
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Best sex of my life was with a guy 2 inches shorter, 50 pounds heavier than me, and objectively not particularly attractive.
That guy compensated for what he perceived as his short comings in truly extraordinary and wonderful ways! We didn't work out for reasons having nothing to do with the physical stuff, but he set the bar unachievably high for everyone after him (including my husband, whom I love, but...) |
Anonymous
Plus most of the social science/lib arts classes aren’t even difficult and are nearly guaranteed A’s with grade inflation. Someone with a bachelors in CS/math/physics/engineering probably has a higher IQ than a PhD in history or English. Look at the average GPA of an engineering major and it’s below 3.0, while the average GPA of an English major in most schools is a 3.8 or 3.9. Those lib arts courses are jokes and don’t require intellect to get a passing grade. |