Egg Donor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 2 time egg donor, my last cycle at Shady Grove was awful, they treated me like dirt. I hope the recipients are successful, but I wish they knew how bad the cycle was for me.

I'm a recipient and I am sorry for your bad experience. I wasn't successful at Shady Grove and believe me they treat the recipients as bad as the donors once they have your money. I was never listened to and complaints (one very serious) were ignored. We were on the shared risk program and after three attempts they seemed to lose interest in me, probably because now the odds were no longer in their favor and they were losing money. Stay away, there are much better places where you are treated with respect and not like a battery hen.

I'm a recipient at SG and leaving the DE shared risk program after this next FET, in which I have no faith, but which I am doing because I paid for that embryo, the only one to make it through the last cycle.

There are certainly better places. I doubt they're in DC, I'm going to RBA.

SG offers a good financial package but the headaches and heartaches have become unbearable. I'm expecting to succeed so I'm opting for a less comprehensive refund program but better clinic.

I wouldn't even say you're a number at SG. I haven't felt even THAT level of respect.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to read this. I've had nieces, cousins, and best friends conceived at Shady Grove Fertility. All of my family and friends loved their experience, even when it didn't work the first round. Their Shared Risk Program can't be beat and shows the focus of the practice- shady grove wants to see thir paints deliver a baby. Good luck to all trying; I hope you ind success.

[Anonymous]

I am at SGF and doing the IVF with DE 1:3 guarantee. We sold our souls to raise the money. After weeks of staring at the same donors that no one wants (they are frankly unattractive, have short fathers, one has a clearly genetic thyroid disorder, etc.), I peeked at the 1:1 and 1:2 donors and they are gorgeous. WTF?!?! How did I miss the memo? I thought it was just to get more eggs in one cycle, or exclusive rights to that batch. I feel angry and duped. I did see ONE smart and attractive 1:3 come and go in about 12 hours but she didn’t match our ethnicity closely enough. Anyone able light to shed on this revelation? I’d like to hear about your DC selection process. I am so mad and need a little hope right now. I have put in a list of pointed questions to my coordinator to try to understand reality better now that another layer of this agonizing process has been peeled back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am at SGF and doing the IVF with DE 1:3 guarantee. We sold our souls to raise the money. After weeks of staring at the same donors that no one wants (they are frankly unattractive, have short fathers, one has a clearly genetic thyroid disorder, etc.), I peeked at the 1:1 and 1:2 donors and they are gorgeous. WTF?!?! How did I miss the memo? I thought it was just to get more eggs in one cycle, or exclusive rights to that batch. I feel angry and duped. I did see ONE smart and attractive 1:3 come and go in about 12 hours but she didn’t match our ethnicity closely enough. Anyone able light to shed on this revelation? I’d like to hear about your DC selection process. I am so mad and need a little hope right now. I have put in a list of pointed questions to my coordinator to try to understand reality better now that another layer of this agonizing process has been peeled back.

Have you considered shared risk frozen egg, if you can afford it? It costs the same as 1:2 fresh donor egg and they had a good database.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am at SGF and doing the IVF with DE 1:3 guarantee. We sold our souls to raise the money. After weeks of staring at the same donors that no one wants (they are frankly unattractive, have short fathers, one has a clearly genetic thyroid disorder, etc.), I peeked at the 1:1 and 1:2 donors and they are gorgeous. WTF?!?! How did I miss the memo? I thought it was just to get more eggs in one cycle, or exclusive rights to that batch. I feel angry and duped. I did see ONE smart and attractive 1:3 come and go in about 12 hours but she didn’t match our ethnicity closely enough. Anyone able light to shed on this revelation? I’d like to hear about your DC selection process. I am so mad and need a little hope right now. I have put in a list of pointed questions to my coordinator to try to understand reality better now that another layer of this agonizing process has been peeled back.

yeah, i definitely noticed that the smarter/more conventionally attractive donors were more likely to be in the 1:2 and 1:1 pools. the ones that are in the 1:3 pools go super super fast (like, hours), you have to be ready to pull the trigger right away. I ended up going for a 1:2 donor.

also, if you care, save out the profile before you pull the trigger because a bunch of the photos at least go away once confirmed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think so but all the legal agreements are done separately, my DH and I considered this route but went with an anonymous donor. Currently, we are trying for #2 with our remaining embryos. I think it's really wonderful that there are women willing to go through this process to help couples like us even if they are paid it still is an amazing gift.

Barf.

It’s not an amazing gift. Someone sold their eggs to you because they were desperate. You are benefiting from someone else’s misery. This is no better than selling your kidney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think so but all the legal agreements are done separately, my DH and I considered this route but went with an anonymous donor. Currently, we are trying for #2 with our remaining embryos. I think it's really wonderful that there are women willing to go through this process to help couples like us even if they are paid it still is an amazing gift.

Barf.

It’s not an amazing gift. Someone sold their eggs to you because they were desperate. You are benefiting from someone else’s misery. This is no better than selling your kidney.

No. Kidney donation is far more invasive and physically traumatic. Egg donation takes a lot of time, but isn’t that hard for most people. And plenty of donors aren’t miserable and do it for more than money. I do think the US could use some tighter rules, but even in places where rules r more stringent, people still donate. And many who donate to friends or family don’t get $.