I think I just have to go grey

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 with a lot of grey and I think I’ve had it with trying to cover it. I got a terrible all-over color with horrible brassy highlights a year ago that was much too dark. My hair grows fast so the roots were evident immediately. After a few times seeing that stylist with my hair just getting darker and highlights worse, I found a really good colorist who was able to fix it somewhat with balyage, lowlights and highlights. But it costs SO much, and moreover, the highlights just ruin the texture of my already frizzy hair so I look like a crazy witch in the heat.

I think I’m just gonna go grey. I don’t see any other solution!

Sounds like you just want to give up. Hope you have an exit plan for when DH loses interest. Good luck my dear.

Why be such a dick?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would be gray already but something in the boxed color makes my hair really smooth. The natural texture is frizzy and bottled toners don't help. I wish I knew what it was about the boxed color that does this: I'd stop coloring if I could get it separately.

I have medium coloring, curly hair, and a curvy figure: gray is already tough for me to pull off so it can't be frizzy as well.

NP. You need to find the "Curlfriend" side of TikTok! If you have frizzy hair, you don't have straight hair. You probably have at least 2A/B hair. Frizzy hair (I'm a 3A/B) is usually about the 'misalignment' of hair (meaning they go every whichway) or lack of moisture. In short, you need good products.

Using the right products and the right techniques has been revolutionary for me. In particular, learning how to use a "bounce brush" (after products to moisturize/control) to get my curls to align has made a humongous difference. And, my grey hair looks amazing! I've got young adult girls and if I needed to dye my hair, they'd be the first to tell me. DH likes it a lot as well.

https://www.bouncecurl.com/pages/wavy

^^ This! ^^ And find a good colorist who can help you. Toner will help bring down the brassy color (or get some purple shampoo and conditioner if you can't splurge on a good colorist for now) I'm still highlighting while embracing the silver as it's coming in (age 50) but my highlights are not brassy (finally! I've had some really bad color over the years...)

But def try out different much more moistuziring product to tame that frizz

this is OP. I’ve tried every purple and blue shampoo and treatment and none seem to work …

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Anonymous wrote:I think gray hair can look really great on a lot of people! If you're worried about it aging you, you just need to focus on keeping your makeup and clothing/accessories fresh and youthful (within reason, of course).

I think the opposite. I’ve seen a handful of people who can pull it off.

If dying is too high maintenance, feel free to stop. But it is the rare woman who looks better with gray.

I’m pretty sure I’ll look better gray than with crazy fly-away frizz all summer, gross brassy shades, grey roots, and spending $400/month at the salon that I can save for a relaxing vacation instead.

I believe that you truly believe that.

Lol you should see my hair!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 with a lot of grey and I think I’ve had it with trying to cover it. I got a terrible all-over color with horrible brassy highlights a year ago that was much too dark. My hair grows fast so the roots were evident immediately. After a few times seeing that stylist with my hair just getting darker and highlights worse, I found a really good colorist who was able to fix it somewhat with balyage, lowlights and highlights. But it costs SO much, and moreover, the highlights just ruin the texture of my already frizzy hair so I look like a crazy witch in the heat.

I think I’m just gonna go grey. I don’t see any other solution!

Sounds like you just want to give up. Hope you have an exit plan for when DH loses interest. Good luck my dear.

Why be such a dick?

Obviously threatened by a woman not taking catering to men and her outward appearance as the highest priority… or just a catty woman projecting her own insecurities. not really any different than anything else regarding female appearance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 with a lot of grey and I think I’ve had it with trying to cover it. I got a terrible all-over color with horrible brassy highlights a year ago that was much too dark. My hair grows fast so the roots were evident immediately. After a few times seeing that stylist with my hair just getting darker and highlights worse, I found a really good colorist who was able to fix it somewhat with balyage, lowlights and highlights. But it costs SO much, and moreover, the highlights just ruin the texture of my already frizzy hair so I look like a crazy witch in the heat.

I think I’m just gonna go grey. I don’t see any other solution!

Grey below the belt as well…?

NP and that’s a rude and nosy question trying to imply all sorts of stuff about aging but my hair on my head is 90% gray and my other hair has not gone gray at all.

Sorry but I’m having issues with going grey in both places! It’s bothersome…

[Anonymous]

I stopped coloring my hair in my early 50s.I know it probably "ages" me but I don't care. I run, hike, bike, etc and stay healthy. I love my skunk stripe haha. OP go for it! Don't waste your money and time. Life's too short. Let's set a better example for our daughters.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 with a lot of grey and I think I’ve had it with trying to cover it. I got a terrible all-over color with horrible brassy highlights a year ago that was much too dark. My hair grows fast so the roots were evident immediately. After a few times seeing that stylist with my hair just getting darker and highlights worse, I found a really good colorist who was able to fix it somewhat with balyage, lowlights and highlights. But it costs SO much, and moreover, the highlights just ruin the texture of my already frizzy hair so I look like a crazy witch in the heat.

I think I’m just gonna go grey. I don’t see any other solution!

Grey below the belt as well…?

NP and that’s a rude and nosy question trying to imply all sorts of stuff about aging but my hair on my head is 90% gray and my other hair has not gone gray at all.

Sorry but I’m having issues with going grey in both places! It’s bothersome…

As well as eyebrows, nose hairs, etc. 🤦🏻‍♂️

Sometimes the drapes just match the carpeting…..and sometimes they do not.

Letting one’s hair go entirely gray gives off the impression that one has thrown in the towel on both their beauty + their youth.

Besides the co$t of covering up aging gray hair 🧑🏼‍🦳 is much much cheaper (and cost-effective!) than Botox/fillers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I stopped coloring my hair in my early 50s.I know it probably "ages" me but I don't care. I run, hike, bike, etc and stay healthy. I love my skunk stripe haha. OP go for it! Don't waste your money and time. Life's too short. Let's set a better example for our daughters.

thanks! I’ve been noticing all the 50s-60s women with grey hair around who look happy and healthy. I have no issue with women who prefer to cover it up. I actually loved the way it looked when I finally found a good colorist who did balayage and high lights/low lights. It’s just … the damaged hair, money, and brassiness aren’t me!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 with a lot of grey and I think I’ve had it with trying to cover it. I got a terrible all-over color with horrible brassy highlights a year ago that was much too dark. My hair grows fast so the roots were evident immediately. After a few times seeing that stylist with my hair just getting darker and highlights worse, I found a really good colorist who was able to fix it somewhat with balyage, lowlights and highlights. But it costs SO much, and moreover, the highlights just ruin the texture of my already frizzy hair so I look like a crazy witch in the heat.

I think I’m just gonna go grey. I don’t see any other solution!

Grey below the belt as well…?

NP and that’s a rude and nosy question trying to imply all sorts of stuff about aging but my hair on my head is 90% gray and my other hair has not gone gray at all.

Sorry but I’m having issues with going grey in both places! It’s bothersome…

As well as eyebrows, nose hairs, etc. 🤦🏻‍♂️

Sometimes the drapes just match the carpeting…..and sometimes they do not.

Letting one’s hair go entirely gray gives off the impression that one has thrown in the towel on both their beauty + their youth.

Besides the co$t of covering up aging gray hair 🧑🏼‍🦳 is much much cheaper (and cost-effective!) than Botox/fillers.

OP here. I mean, I’m almost 50 - so there’s no avoiding the fact that youth is in the past. Trying to look young seems to be a losing proposition. Trying to look nice seems more to the point. And, I may even try Botox, who knows?

[Anonymous]

I have grey hair and it's super easy and fun

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 with a lot of grey and I think I’ve had it with trying to cover it. I got a terrible all-over color with horrible brassy highlights a year ago that was much too dark. My hair grows fast so the roots were evident immediately. After a few times seeing that stylist with my hair just getting darker and highlights worse, I found a really good colorist who was able to fix it somewhat with balyage, lowlights and highlights. But it costs SO much, and moreover, the highlights just ruin the texture of my already frizzy hair so I look like a crazy witch in the heat.

I think I’m just gonna go grey. I don’t see any other solution!

Grey below the belt as well…?

NP and that’s a rude and nosy question trying to imply all sorts of stuff about aging but my hair on my head is 90% gray and my other hair has not gone gray at all.

Sorry but I’m having issues with going grey in both places! It’s bothersome…

As well as eyebrows, nose hairs, etc. 🤦🏻‍♂️

Sometimes the drapes just match the carpeting…..and sometimes they do not.

Letting one’s hair go entirely gray gives off the impression that one has thrown in the towel on both their beauty + their youth.

Besides the co$t of covering up aging gray hair 🧑🏼‍🦳 is much much cheaper (and cost-effective!) than Botox/fillers.

I can only imagine what kind of judgmental people you grew up with that has led you to believe the bolded. What a shallow, damaging and false tenet. I hope you're able to overcome it some day. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Haven’t read all the replies because of so much nastiness. Just because you’re anonymous doesn’t mean you have to express all your mean girls insecurities

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I did some internet searches trying to figure out what "brassy" really means, and what's so wrong with it? Many sites explain that it's a natural kind of color for many. Honestly, into their 40s and 50s, for most women, a little brassy, but nicely styled, sleek, clean hair, still looks better than frizzy gray. Wanting to have your hair complement you and be part of an overall nice look is no different than wanting to dress nicely. So why so much hate for not agreeing that gray is better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did some internet searches trying to figure out what "brassy" really means, and what's so wrong with it? Many sites explain that it's a natural kind of color for many. Honestly, into their 40s and 50s, for most women, a little brassy, but nicely styled, sleek, clean hair, still looks better than frizzy gray. Wanting to have your hair complement you and be part of an overall nice look is no different than wanting to dress nicely. So why so much hate for not agreeing that gray is better?

OP here. I assure you that my frizzy, damaged, brassy highlights with grey roots that don’t match the tone at all does NOT look good. The highlights damage my hair and make it more frizzy. It just did not make sense to spend all that $$ to honestly look worse. I’ve got no issue with women who choose a different route and as I’ve said, I liked the way it looked on day 1 after my hair appointment. But paying all that money to fry my hair to make it look good for a week … not really my thing!

[Anonymous]

I think going gray sounds like right idea.

If you want youthful appearance- work on the face. Permanent eye brows, lip color. Mind your skin.