I think I just have to go grey

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 with a lot of grey and I think I’ve had it with trying to cover it. I got a terrible all-over color with horrible brassy highlights a year ago that was much too dark. My hair grows fast so the roots were evident immediately. After a few times seeing that stylist with my hair just getting darker and highlights worse, I found a really good colorist who was able to fix it somewhat with balyage, lowlights and highlights. But it costs SO much, and moreover, the highlights just ruin the texture of my already frizzy hair so I look like a crazy witch in the heat.

I think I’m just gonna go grey. I don’t see any other solution!

What's your natural color?

I also used to do the highlights thing, but as a little gray became a lot of gray (I am fully gray at my crown at 52) I ditched highlights and now do a single process color. I touch up in between salon visits with Loreal root cover.

Is it a pain? Yes. But I'm not ready to go fully gray and no matter what people say, it ages you. Like by a decade at least.

My natural color is medium brown with reddish undertones. Single process looked horrible on me and showed roots in less than 2 weeks.

Yeah, the roots will have to be colored every 2-3 weeks. I do think a good colorist could help

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Do it! I’ll be going gray with you.

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I’m growing mine out at 47. I love it. Why pay for brassy highlights when nature is making my face bright. I think a lot more women are doing this now, and I often think people look worse with the fake colors.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be gray already but something in the boxed color makes my hair really smooth. The natural texture is frizzy and bottled toners don't help. I wish I knew what it was about the boxed color that does this: I'd stop coloring if I could get it separately.

I have medium coloring, curly hair, and a curvy figure: gray is already tough for me to pull off so it can't be frizzy as well.

NP. You need to find the "Curlfriend" side of TikTok! If you have frizzy hair, you don't have straight hair. You probably have at least 2A/B hair. Frizzy hair (I'm a 3A/B) is usually about the 'misalignment' of hair (meaning they go every whichway) or lack of moisture. In short, you need good products.

Using the right products and the right techniques has been revolutionary for me. In particular, learning how to use a "bounce brush" (after products to moisturize/control) to get my curls to align has made a humongous difference. And, my grey hair looks amazing! I've got young adult girls and if I needed to dye my hair, they'd be the first to tell me. DH likes it a lot as well.

https://www.bouncecurl.com/pages/wavy

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Anonymous wrote:I think gray hair can look really great on a lot of people! If you're worried about it aging you, you just need to focus on keeping your makeup and clothing/accessories fresh and youthful (within reason, of course).

I think the opposite. I’ve seen a handful of people who can pull it off.

If dying is too high maintenance, feel free to stop. But it is the rare woman who looks better with gray.

I’m pretty sure I’ll look better gray than with crazy fly-away frizz all summer, gross brassy shades, grey roots, and spending $400/month at the salon that I can save for a relaxing vacation instead.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 with a lot of grey and I think I’ve had it with trying to cover it. I got a terrible all-over color with horrible brassy highlights a year ago that was much too dark. My hair grows fast so the roots were evident immediately. After a few times seeing that stylist with my hair just getting darker and highlights worse, I found a really good colorist who was able to fix it somewhat with balyage, lowlights and highlights. But it costs SO much, and moreover, the highlights just ruin the texture of my already frizzy hair so I look like a crazy witch in the heat.

I think I’m just gonna go grey. I don’t see any other solution!

What's your natural color?

I also used to do the highlights thing, but as a little gray became a lot of gray (I am fully gray at my crown at 52) I ditched highlights and now do a single process color. I touch up in between salon visits with Loreal root cover.

Is it a pain? Yes. But I'm not ready to go fully gray and no matter what people say, it ages you. Like by a decade at least.

My natural color is medium brown with reddish undertones. Single process looked horrible on me and showed roots in less than 2 weeks.

Yeah, the roots will have to be colored every 2-3 weeks. I do think a good colorist could help

I have a great colorist. I don’t want damaged hair, to pay all that $$, and the washed-out look of all over color.

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Anonymous wrote:Demi with a very very low level developer is what I am planning once my gray gets over 25-30%.

It won’t work. At least not how you want.

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I transitioned to my 90% grey during the pandemic and after a couple of years, went back to coloring it. I hate the time (and expense) of coloring every 4 weeks, but I found I looked very washed out as a grey headed person so I “needed” to apply makeup each day, and more of it than I am used to/comfortable with, and I found that made me feel less than my usual self - vs coloring myhair its original brown makes me
feel exactly like myself.

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Anonymous wrote:Own the grey!

I started greying in my 30s. I tried to cover it up for a while, but I love it now. I agree with the pp: it’s liberating.

OP here. Unfortunately the grey isn’t going to look good on me and it’s going to age me a lot. But I feel like covering it up badly only looks worse. I’m not going to be the silver fox type.

I have brown frizzy hair that is turning grey. I'm 47 and just will keep dying it because it (and I) look SO much better with brown hair. Like, people think I'm sick and/or depressed when my hair is very gray. My eyes (blue) look more grey and blah when my hair is gray. I get treated worse with gray hair. I'll dye until I die.

I’m the poster who transitioned to grey during the pandemic and now colors it again, and we have similar coloring and I agree - I looked washed out and sickly with my grey hair, including my blue eyes which also looked more grey. And I actually had “pretty” multi-toned greys, but it just didn’t enhance my complexion.

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My mom is 70 and still dyes her hair. A part of me wants to go gray just despite her. Lol

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I am 53 and gave up coloring during the pandemic. My hair is much healthier now and the dyed section has finally grown out. I had dark brown hair and it always went brassy when colored. I could not stand taking the time and money and chemicals to keep it up, and when it started growing in gray but healthier during the pandemic, I just let it go. I am sure I look older (and I’m always surprised to see my hair in photos), but I feel at peace with it. And every now and then I get a very genuine compliment from someone who says they totally love it.

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Does anybody know where to get grey hair like these in DMV?

https://www.allure.com/story/colorist-jack-martin-gray-hair-transformation

[Anonymous]

I'm in the same place. My hair is dark blonde so highlights work really well and blend with the grey -- but it destroys my hair. My hair is coarse and dry now that I'm into menopause and it just can't handle the highlights.

I just cut my past-shoulder-length hair to a chin length bob and no more color.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you thought about henna?
I am a 55 yr old white lady with light brown hair and blue eyes.
Two years ago I tried henna to cover some grey at the temples. I was just not ready for the grey yet.
The result was a lush reddish color with improved rich texture.
I bought the "100% pure" henna powder from amazon for $20 and it lasted a year! I do a henna night every 6ish weeks to cover growth.
Its not even that messy and it cleans up just fine. You have to wear gloves or your hands will be stained orange for a few days.
I looked on YouTube for some how-to advice and I have never looked back.
I get complements on my "amazing healthy hair" everyday!
Its a non expensive, non time consuming, natural option. Good luck whatever you decide.

I believe you believe it.

[Anonymous]

I have cool undertones so the gray streaks are working for me! I do wear slightly brighter makeup to combat feeling washed out.