When did your adult child start paying for your meal? Dutch?

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird how many people answer in terms of "we can afford it" or "I want my kids to save their money".

This isn't dinner at Inn at Little Washington and your kids are in their 30s. I gather they can afford to pay for a meal and it won't mean they live their elderly years in poverty.

My kids are younger and if they want to pick up the tab at Panera for the family (every now and then)...well good for them.

Different families have different traditions and customs. If you want your kids to pay for your food, that's your business. Not all of us want that, or want our kids to have to worry about this kind of thing. My mom will always want to pay for me, because even when I turn 70, I'll still be her baby. Same to my kids.

It's not about wanting or not wanting...it's just peanuts in terms of $$$s. If your 30-year old kid has to "worry" about taking you out to a casual dinner every now and then, well your kid has many bigger issues.

I mean, do you not accept gifts from your kids because you "worry" about the cost?

Actually yes! I still buy them gifts but have told them not to spend their money on me. Is wanting your children to keep their money for themselves (and their children) really that foreign to you? Why do you need your children to buy you gifts and food?

Why are your kids such losers they can’t afford to buy you a meal or gift every now and then?

Wanting to treat my kids =/= kids being losers.

Sorry you’re too poor to buy your own panera and need your child to fund your life.

Try again…since both us parents and our kids have $$$s and are successful, we don’t need to buy our kids lunch so that they have “money for them and their children”.

Your words…apparently your grandkids are going to starve if your own kids buy you a sandwich.

lol! You’re so insecure about this. You do you boo, I’m happy my kids are spending their money on themselves rather than buying me lunch when I can clearly afford it myself.

Good for you…glad you are secure in the fact your kids can’t afford a lunch.

Just curious…when they go out with their adult friends, do they need those friends to pay for them as well?

Or do they only go to restaurants when mommy takes them?

What is wrong with you? No one said they can’t afford lunch, I would just never dream of letting them pay. I’m not sure why this irks you so much, it’s a bizarre thing you’ve grasped onto.

Refer to the PP above who understands how prosperous families operate.

Sometimes we treat, sometimes the kids treat…you know, like prosperous adults.

No thanks, I’m good with treating my children. I don’t need to refer to anyone else’s ‘rules’ because you are rabidly demanding children pay for their parents meals.

Because your kids need the money…we got it…you told us.

Re read the many posts where all the adults are doing well…maybe your family will learn something.

There are tons of posts here about parents fully treating, you’re so unhinged 😂 you sound poor AF, I’m glad your kids are doing so well they can support you in your old age ❤️

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird how many people answer in terms of "we can afford it" or "I want my kids to save their money".

This isn't dinner at Inn at Little Washington and your kids are in their 30s. I gather they can afford to pay for a meal and it won't mean they live their elderly years in poverty.

My kids are younger and if they want to pick up the tab at Panera for the family (every now and then)...well good for them.

Different families have different traditions and customs. If you want your kids to pay for your food, that's your business. Not all of us want that, or want our kids to have to worry about this kind of thing. My mom will always want to pay for me, because even when I turn 70, I'll still be her baby. Same to my kids.

It's not about wanting or not wanting...it's just peanuts in terms of $$$s. If your 30-year old kid has to "worry" about taking you out to a casual dinner every now and then, well your kid has many bigger issues.

I mean, do you not accept gifts from your kids because you "worry" about the cost?

Actually yes! I still buy them gifts but have told them not to spend their money on me. Is wanting your children to keep their money for themselves (and their children) really that foreign to you? Why do you need your children to buy you gifts and food?

Why are your kids such losers they can’t afford to buy you a meal or gift every now and then?

Wanting to treat my kids =/= kids being losers.

Sorry you’re too poor to buy your own panera and need your child to fund your life.

Try again…since both us parents and our kids have $$$s and are successful, we don’t need to buy our kids lunch so that they have “money for them and their children”.

Your words…apparently your grandkids are going to starve if your own kids buy you a sandwich.

lol! You’re so insecure about this. You do you boo, I’m happy my kids are spending their money on themselves rather than buying me lunch when I can clearly afford it myself.

Good for you…glad you are secure in the fact your kids can’t afford a lunch.

Just curious…when they go out with their adult friends, do they need those friends to pay for them as well?

Or do they only go to restaurants when mommy takes them?

What is wrong with you? No one said they can’t afford lunch, I would just never dream of letting them pay. I’m not sure why this irks you so much, it’s a bizarre thing you’ve grasped onto.

Refer to the PP above who understands how prosperous families operate.

Sometimes we treat, sometimes the kids treat…you know, like prosperous adults.

No thanks, I’m good with treating my children. I don’t need to refer to anyone else’s ‘rules’ because you are rabidly demanding children pay for their parents meals.

Because your kids need the money…we got it…you told us.

Re read the many posts where all the adults are doing well…maybe your family will learn something.

There are tons of posts here about parents fully treating, you’re so unhinged 😂 you sound poor AF, I’m glad your kids are doing so well they can support you in your old age ❤️

Nice try again…when you tell us your kids need the money as you told us…we have to believe your kids need the money.

I do love how much you are losing it.

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One reason why I will not go out with my parents is each expects me to pay and pay for their partner's meal as well and one time the partners relatives. They never treat us. They are unkind to us so we just stopped seeing them. I don't mind paying for myself or them, if they didn't have the money but these are people who cannot even acknowledge my birthday and get others lavish gifts and pay for them.

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I can’t imagine NOT paying for my DC’s meals! Really, it’s my treat (and we have a 25DD college grad who makes more than I ever did).

DH (55) still goes round and round with his dad at dinners and had to go to great lengths to prepay or get food beforehand to avoid his dad whipping out cash insisting he’ll pay.

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird how many people answer in terms of "we can afford it" or "I want my kids to save their money".

This isn't dinner at Inn at Little Washington and your kids are in their 30s. I gather they can afford to pay for a meal and it won't mean they live their elderly years in poverty.

My kids are younger and if they want to pick up the tab at Panera for the family (every now and then)...well good for them.

Different families have different traditions and customs. If you want your kids to pay for your food, that's your business. Not all of us want that, or want our kids to have to worry about this kind of thing. My mom will always want to pay for me, because even when I turn 70, I'll still be her baby. Same to my kids.

It's not about wanting or not wanting...it's just peanuts in terms of $$$s. If your 30-year old kid has to "worry" about taking you out to a casual dinner every now and then, well your kid has many bigger issues.

I mean, do you not accept gifts from your kids because you "worry" about the cost?

Actually yes! I still buy them gifts but have told them not to spend their money on me. Is wanting your children to keep their money for themselves (and their children) really that foreign to you? Why do you need your children to buy you gifts and food?

Why are your kids such losers they can’t afford to buy you a meal or gift every now and then?

Wanting to treat my kids =/= kids being losers.

Sorry you’re too poor to buy your own panera and need your child to fund your life.

Try again…since both us parents and our kids have $$$s and are successful, we don’t need to buy our kids lunch so that they have “money for them and their children”.

Your words…apparently your grandkids are going to starve if your own kids buy you a sandwich.

lol! You’re so insecure about this. You do you boo, I’m happy my kids are spending their money on themselves rather than buying me lunch when I can clearly afford it myself.

Good for you…glad you are secure in the fact your kids can’t afford a lunch.

Just curious…when they go out with their adult friends, do they need those friends to pay for them as well?

Or do they only go to restaurants when mommy takes them?

What is wrong with you? No one said they can’t afford lunch, I would just never dream of letting them pay. I’m not sure why this irks you so much, it’s a bizarre thing you’ve grasped onto.

Refer to the PP above who understands how prosperous families operate.

Sometimes we treat, sometimes the kids treat…you know, like prosperous adults.

No thanks, I’m good with treating my children. I don’t need to refer to anyone else’s ‘rules’ because you are rabidly demanding children pay for their parents meals.

Because your kids need the money…we got it…you told us.

Re read the many posts where all the adults are doing well…maybe your family will learn something.

There are tons of posts here about parents fully treating, you’re so unhinged 😂 you sound poor AF, I’m glad your kids are doing so well they can support you in your old age ❤️

Nice try again…when you tell us your kids need the money as you told us…we have to believe your kids need the money.

I do love how much you are losing it.

Please point out where I said they ‘need’ it? Oh right, you can’t, because you’re just making up random sh!t for some reason. No idea why you’re so obsessed with me not wanting my children to buy me panera. I don’t need my kids to fund my life, hopefully you can save a few pennies to retire one day. Good luck!

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I have paid for my parents before. But while I am a high earner, my father has earned a ridiculous amount of money in recent years. We were UMC when I was a kid and he is now solidly above that. So he always insists on paying and I don’t fight because it is kind of silly. I try to do nice things for him though- making a fancy meal at home or getting some hard to get excellent seafood, etc. and making that which would be a lot of work for him.

It is great you have gotten to this point on child raising. Good luck !

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird how many people answer in terms of "we can afford it" or "I want my kids to save their money".

This isn't dinner at Inn at Little Washington and your kids are in their 30s. I gather they can afford to pay for a meal and it won't mean they live their elderly years in poverty.

My kids are younger and if they want to pick up the tab at Panera for the family (every now and then)...well good for them.

Different families have different traditions and customs. If you want your kids to pay for your food, that's your business. Not all of us want that, or want our kids to have to worry about this kind of thing. My mom will always want to pay for me, because even when I turn 70, I'll still be her baby. Same to my kids.

It's not about wanting or not wanting...it's just peanuts in terms of $$$s. If your 30-year old kid has to "worry" about taking you out to a casual dinner every now and then, well your kid has many bigger issues.

I mean, do you not accept gifts from your kids because you "worry" about the cost?

Actually yes! I still buy them gifts but have told them not to spend their money on me. Is wanting your children to keep their money for themselves (and their children) really that foreign to you? Why do you need your children to buy you gifts and food?

Why are your kids such losers they can’t afford to buy you a meal or gift every now and then?

Wanting to treat my kids =/= kids being losers.

Sorry you’re too poor to buy your own panera and need your child to fund your life.

Try again…since both us parents and our kids have $$$s and are successful, we don’t need to buy our kids lunch so that they have “money for them and their children”.

Your words…apparently your grandkids are going to starve if your own kids buy you a sandwich.

lol! You’re so insecure about this. You do you boo, I’m happy my kids are spending their money on themselves rather than buying me lunch when I can clearly afford it myself.

Good for you…glad you are secure in the fact your kids can’t afford a lunch.

Just curious…when they go out with their adult friends, do they need those friends to pay for them as well?

Or do they only go to restaurants when mommy takes them?

What is wrong with you? No one said they can’t afford lunch, I would just never dream of letting them pay. I’m not sure why this irks you so much, it’s a bizarre thing you’ve grasped onto.

Refer to the PP above who understands how prosperous families operate.

Sometimes we treat, sometimes the kids treat…you know, like prosperous adults.

No thanks, I’m good with treating my children. I don’t need to refer to anyone else’s ‘rules’ because you are rabidly demanding children pay for their parents meals.

Because your kids need the money…we got it…you told us.

Re read the many posts where all the adults are doing well…maybe your family will learn something.

There are tons of posts here about parents fully treating, you’re so unhinged 😂 you sound poor AF, I’m glad your kids are doing so well they can support you in your old age ❤️

Nice try again…when you tell us your kids need the money as you told us…we have to believe your kids need the money.

I do love how much you are losing it.

Please point out where I said they ‘need’ it? Oh right, you can’t, because you’re just making up random sh!t for some reason. No idea why you’re so obsessed with me not wanting my children to buy me panera. I don’t need my kids to fund my life, hopefully you can save a few pennies to retire one day. Good luck!

You keep losing it…love it. You told us your kids need the money. We can only believe you. Maybe one day they will be able to treat you to subway.

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird how many people answer in terms of "we can afford it" or "I want my kids to save their money".

This isn't dinner at Inn at Little Washington and your kids are in their 30s. I gather they can afford to pay for a meal and it won't mean they live their elderly years in poverty.

My kids are younger and if they want to pick up the tab at Panera for the family (every now and then)...well good for them.

Different families have different traditions and customs. If you want your kids to pay for your food, that's your business. Not all of us want that, or want our kids to have to worry about this kind of thing. My mom will always want to pay for me, because even when I turn 70, I'll still be her baby. Same to my kids.

It's not about wanting or not wanting...it's just peanuts in terms of $$$s. If your 30-year old kid has to "worry" about taking you out to a casual dinner every now and then, well your kid has many bigger issues.

I mean, do you not accept gifts from your kids because you "worry" about the cost?

Actually yes! I still buy them gifts but have told them not to spend their money on me. Is wanting your children to keep their money for themselves (and their children) really that foreign to you? Why do you need your children to buy you gifts and food?

Why are your kids such losers they can’t afford to buy you a meal or gift every now and then?

Wanting to treat my kids =/= kids being losers.

Sorry you’re too poor to buy your own panera and need your child to fund your life.

Try again…since both us parents and our kids have $$$s and are successful, we don’t need to buy our kids lunch so that they have “money for them and their children”.

Your words…apparently your grandkids are going to starve if your own kids buy you a sandwich.

lol! You’re so insecure about this. You do you boo, I’m happy my kids are spending their money on themselves rather than buying me lunch when I can clearly afford it myself.

Good for you…glad you are secure in the fact your kids can’t afford a lunch.

Just curious…when they go out with their adult friends, do they need those friends to pay for them as well?

Or do they only go to restaurants when mommy takes them?

What is wrong with you? No one said they can’t afford lunch, I would just never dream of letting them pay. I’m not sure why this irks you so much, it’s a bizarre thing you’ve grasped onto.

Refer to the PP above who understands how prosperous families operate.

Sometimes we treat, sometimes the kids treat…you know, like prosperous adults.

No thanks, I’m good with treating my children. I don’t need to refer to anyone else’s ‘rules’ because you are rabidly demanding children pay for their parents meals.

Because your kids need the money…we got it…you told us.

Re read the many posts where all the adults are doing well…maybe your family will learn something.

There are tons of posts here about parents fully treating, you’re so unhinged 😂 you sound poor AF, I’m glad your kids are doing so well they can support you in your old age ❤️

Nice try again…when you tell us your kids need the money as you told us…we have to believe your kids need the money.

I do love how much you are losing it.

Please point out where I said they ‘need’ it? Oh right, you can’t, because you’re just making up random sh!t for some reason. No idea why you’re so obsessed with me not wanting my children to buy me panera. I don’t need my kids to fund my life, hopefully you can save a few pennies to retire one day. Good luck!

You keep losing it…love it. You told us your kids need the money. We can only believe you. Maybe one day they will be able to treat you to subway.

What do you have against parents paying when they go out with their kids? I really don't get it.

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Anonymous wrote:Both my parents and my in-laws always pay and I will (hopefully) always pay for my children.

Love seeing parents be so generous with their children

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird how many people answer in terms of "we can afford it" or "I want my kids to save their money".

This isn't dinner at Inn at Little Washington and your kids are in their 30s. I gather they can afford to pay for a meal and it won't mean they live their elderly years in poverty.

My kids are younger and if they want to pick up the tab at Panera for the family (every now and then)...well good for them.

Different families have different traditions and customs. If you want your kids to pay for your food, that's your business. Not all of us want that, or want our kids to have to worry about this kind of thing. My mom will always want to pay for me, because even when I turn 70, I'll still be her baby. Same to my kids.

It's not about wanting or not wanting...it's just peanuts in terms of $$$s. If your 30-year old kid has to "worry" about taking you out to a casual dinner every now and then, well your kid has many bigger issues.

I mean, do you not accept gifts from your kids because you "worry" about the cost?

Actually yes! I still buy them gifts but have told them not to spend their money on me. Is wanting your children to keep their money for themselves (and their children) really that foreign to you? Why do you need your children to buy you gifts and food?

Why are your kids such losers they can’t afford to buy you a meal or gift every now and then?

Wanting to treat my kids =/= kids being losers.

Sorry you’re too poor to buy your own panera and need your child to fund your life.

Try again…since both us parents and our kids have $$$s and are successful, we don’t need to buy our kids lunch so that they have “money for them and their children”.

Your words…apparently your grandkids are going to starve if your own kids buy you a sandwich.

lol! You’re so insecure about this. You do you boo, I’m happy my kids are spending their money on themselves rather than buying me lunch when I can clearly afford it myself.

Good for you…glad you are secure in the fact your kids can’t afford a lunch.

Just curious…when they go out with their adult friends, do they need those friends to pay for them as well?

Or do they only go to restaurants when mommy takes them?

What is wrong with you? No one said they can’t afford lunch, I would just never dream of letting them pay. I’m not sure why this irks you so much, it’s a bizarre thing you’ve grasped onto.

Refer to the PP above who understands how prosperous families operate.

Sometimes we treat, sometimes the kids treat…you know, like prosperous adults.

No thanks, I’m good with treating my children. I don’t need to refer to anyone else’s ‘rules’ because you are rabidly demanding children pay for their parents meals.

Because your kids need the money…we got it…you told us.

Re read the many posts where all the adults are doing well…maybe your family will learn something.

There are tons of posts here about parents fully treating, you’re so unhinged 😂 you sound poor AF, I’m glad your kids are doing so well they can support you in your old age ❤️

Nice try again…when you tell us your kids need the money as you told us…we have to believe your kids need the money.

I do love how much you are losing it.

Please point out where I said they ‘need’ it? Oh right, you can’t, because you’re just making up random sh!t for some reason. No idea why you’re so obsessed with me not wanting my children to buy me panera. I don’t need my kids to fund my life, hopefully you can save a few pennies to retire one day. Good luck!

You keep losing it…love it. You told us your kids need the money. We can only believe you. Maybe one day they will be able to treat you to subway.

NP watching this exchange lol

You are nasty and miserable.

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird how many people answer in terms of "we can afford it" or "I want my kids to save their money".

This isn't dinner at Inn at Little Washington and your kids are in their 30s. I gather they can afford to pay for a meal and it won't mean they live their elderly years in poverty.

My kids are younger and if they want to pick up the tab at Panera for the family (every now and then)...well good for them.

Different families have different traditions and customs. If you want your kids to pay for your food, that's your business. Not all of us want that, or want our kids to have to worry about this kind of thing. My mom will always want to pay for me, because even when I turn 70, I'll still be her baby. Same to my kids.

It's not about wanting or not wanting...it's just peanuts in terms of $$$s. If your 30-year old kid has to "worry" about taking you out to a casual dinner every now and then, well your kid has many bigger issues.

I mean, do you not accept gifts from your kids because you "worry" about the cost?

Actually yes! I still buy them gifts but have told them not to spend their money on me. Is wanting your children to keep their money for themselves (and their children) really that foreign to you? Why do you need your children to buy you gifts and food?

Why are your kids such losers they can’t afford to buy you a meal or gift every now and then?

Wanting to treat my kids =/= kids being losers.

Sorry you’re too poor to buy your own panera and need your child to fund your life.

Try again…since both us parents and our kids have $$$s and are successful, we don’t need to buy our kids lunch so that they have “money for them and their children”.

Your words…apparently your grandkids are going to starve if your own kids buy you a sandwich.

lol! You’re so insecure about this. You do you boo, I’m happy my kids are spending their money on themselves rather than buying me lunch when I can clearly afford it myself.

Good for you…glad you are secure in the fact your kids can’t afford a lunch.

Just curious…when they go out with their adult friends, do they need those friends to pay for them as well?

Or do they only go to restaurants when mommy takes them?

What is wrong with you? No one said they can’t afford lunch, I would just never dream of letting them pay. I’m not sure why this irks you so much, it’s a bizarre thing you’ve grasped onto.

Refer to the PP above who understands how prosperous families operate.

Sometimes we treat, sometimes the kids treat…you know, like prosperous adults.

NP not in our family. My parents always pay, just like their parents always did. I’ll do the same for my kids.

I think a lot of this is just family tradition, there’s not a right or wrong as long as whatever you do in your family works for everyone.

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I cannot imagine splitting the bill when I go out with my DCs. 90% of the time, I pay. Occasionally, they insist on paying.