Yes. Your Kid is overscheduled.

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I really can't believe that so many people see overscheduling as a good thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the activities, sport or non sport, kods shouldn't be overscheduled. What's so wrong with free play?

What’s wrong with kids doing activities they enjoy? Why should our kids not do activities because you refuse to do them for your kids and expect ours to entertain yours.

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Anonymous wrote:Since I can't say this in real life, and I am far away from the DMV, I know one kid who does so many activities I don't understand how he is functioning. We are very close with this family, carpool to school everyday and were even in a Covid pod together, so I have a very good understanding of his schedule. He does weekly language class for both French and Mandarin, is on a travel hockey team, weekly piano lessons, weekly tennis lessons, both a fall and spring sport through school and an additional winter only and then summer only sport. Plus he's expected to have straight As in 6th grade, which comes with a lot of homework. Some mornings I pick him up and he looks absolutely exhausted, I hope in the long run he is okay because I don't know how sustainable this is.

He will crush your kid

NP. He's already being crushed by his middle class striver parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the activities, sport or non sport, kods shouldn't be overscheduled. What's so wrong with free play?

Ask yourself and get off the internetz

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the activities, sport or non sport, kods shouldn't be overscheduled. What's so wrong with free play?

What’s wrong with kids doing activities they enjoy? Why should our kids not do activities because you refuse to do them for your kids and expect ours to entertain yours.

Nothing is wrong with activities, just overscheduling. And I wasn't suggesting kids not do activities so they can entertain my kid. It would be nice if kids could have at least some free play. I don't like the idea of my kid having to do sports because no kids are around.

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This is why we send our kids to boarding school.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the activities, sport or non sport, kods shouldn't be overscheduled. What's so wrong with free play?

Ask yourself and get off the internetz

Uh ok it was an actual question.

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Anonymous wrote:I partly blame the culture around here -it’s hard to do any sports in a chill way regardless of age. If your kid wants to swim, they are either only swimming in the summer or they are swimming at least 3 days a week year round. And if you don’t start early enough you are “behind” so everyone wants to let their kids try a couple things out.

My oldest asks to do activities because that’s where her friends are. They aren’t available if she goes and knocks on their door. We allow less than a lot of families (my daughter is really only doing dance and Girl Scouts my son is only doing soccer and we will see if it bites us in the a*s later). It’s a balance

Why not let them do the activities they want to?

PP you are responding to and I do let them do some of the activities that they want to do. But they have to pick because I’m not willing to spend all evening every evening driving both kids around and dragging the little guys because he can’t stay home alone. I also see worse behavior when they are too busy. So one of my kids is mildly interested in swimming but I’m not willing to add 3 nights a week or something. But they get to do what they are most excited about.

And they us find for your family. But don’t expect my family to be home all the time because you need a play date.

I don’t expect anything! My kids are fine, and if they would prefer to have a few more playdates it’s hardly the end of the world. But when I’m picking my daughter up and her friend is begging to come over with my DD and one of the other girls who is walking home with us but can’t because she (the friend) has swim and then basketball I feel a little sad. I think she likes those things! But knows that she’s missing out. Honestly the only reason we continue to keep her in Girl Scouts is it’s the only social thing that some kids do and that is when she sees those girls.

Maybe the parents feel sad for your kids that they don't get the same opportunities to learn new skills. I feel sad for kids like yours who se parents are too lazy to do anything extra for them. Mine would much rather do sports or music than hang out at your house.

How rude! FYI research shows free play is far superior to organized activities. Even pickup sports are superior to organized sports. Too bad your child won’t be able to function without someone directing them all the time or telling them what to do while my kids will learn not just the sport but also how to deal with friends/neighbors/teammates etc. You can think parents who let their kids enjoy their childhood without pushing them into scheduled activities are lazy but we value something thats far more important than playing on 3-4 different teams each season.

There are no pickup sports anymore. You have to join an organized activity; then the coach gives them free play time. It's not like when we were kids and showed up at the neighborhood park with a soccer ball.

BECAUSE KIDS ARE OVERSCHEDULED. What if kids showed up in the park with a soccer ball? Would they need an adult to direct them or would they figure it out?

Are you the parent of an only who can't understand some people have more than 1? All the kids at all ages can't hit the park with a ball at the same time. And even if each kid out of 3 has 1 activity that's still a lot of running around for the parent, but the individual child isn't over scheduled. I think this is the rant of a parent of a singleton who can't relate to anyone else.

Also at almost any sport practice you’ll see younger siblings who aren’t playing the sport gathering to play with things like a soccer ball, cards etc to pass the time. Kids ARE playing OP, just not around your neighborhood apparently.

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Anonymous wrote:Rant.

I'm sick of going out with Mom friends who are complaining about how busy their kids are. GUESS WHAT? You can control that. And I'm annoyed about your kid having to leave games or missing games because they have another sport that they choose over my kid's team. Sucks to forfeit because half the team chose soccer over baseball. GUESS WHAT? You can control that too.

And whatever happened to being bored? Lazing around with a book? Playdates? Riding your bike around the neighborhood to see who is around? I can't even schedule a d@mn playdate because your kid has one of their 3 sports or private lessons for one of those 3 sports every waking moment of the weekend.

You're the freaking parent. Tell your kid they need to pick and can't do every sport and activity under the sun. PROBLEM SOLVED.

And didn't we all agree that the one part of COVID that we liked was the slower pace and more time with family? Why are we overcorrecting now?

Can't say this to their faces, so I'm saying it here.

I can relate to this. Luckily my kids like to play with each other and they are on the same schedule. I wish my kids had made friends with more of their mildly scheduled classmates, who do roam the neighborhood on weekends. I don't hold it against the parents of overscheduled kids tho.

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People complaining about over scheduling have the luxury of choosing. I remember having two working, middle class parents and my free time was spent at various babysitter’s houses.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the activities, sport or non sport, kods shouldn't be overscheduled. What's so wrong with free play?

What’s wrong with kids doing activities they enjoy? Why should our kids not do activities because you refuse to do them for your kids and expect ours to entertain yours.

Nothing is wrong with activities, just overscheduling. And I wasn't suggesting kids not do activities so they can entertain my kid. It would be nice if kids could have at least some free play. I don't like the idea of my kid having to do sports because no kids are around.

Yes you want free entertainment and babysitting. Why do you care what others do otherwise?

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the activities, sport or non sport, kods shouldn't be overscheduled. What's so wrong with free play?

What’s wrong with kids doing activities they enjoy? Why should our kids not do activities because you refuse to do them for your kids and expect ours to entertain yours.

Nothing is wrong with activities, just overscheduling. And I wasn't suggesting kids not do activities so they can entertain my kid. It would be nice if kids could have at least some free play. I don't like the idea of my kid having to do sports because no kids are around.

Yes you want free entertainment and babysitting. Why do you care what others do otherwise?

Because I would like my kid to be able play with friends more and to be able to have free play.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the activities, sport or non sport, kods shouldn't be overscheduled. What's so wrong with free play?

What’s wrong with kids doing activities they enjoy? Why should our kids not do activities because you refuse to do them for your kids and expect ours to entertain yours.

Then find out when the kids on your kid’s sports team are free. If none of them are ever free, it sounds like the other moms don’t like you or the other kids don’t like your kid. No team has all members booked up every waking moment.
Nothing is wrong with activities, just overscheduling. And I wasn't suggesting kids not do activities so they can entertain my kid. It would be nice if kids could have at least some free play. I don't like the idea of my kid having to do sports because no kids are around.

Yes you want free entertainment and babysitting. Why do you care what others do otherwise?

Because I would like my kid to be able play with friends more and to be able to have free play.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the activities, sport or non sport, kods shouldn't be overscheduled. What's so wrong with free play?

What’s wrong with kids doing activities they enjoy? Why should our kids not do activities because you refuse to do them for your kids and expect ours to entertain yours.

Nothing is wrong with activities, just overscheduling. And I wasn't suggesting kids not do activities so they can entertain my kid. It would be nice if kids could have at least some free play. I don't like the idea of my kid having to do sports because no kids are around.

Yes you want free entertainment and babysitting. Why do you care what others do otherwise?

Because I would like my kid to be able play with friends more and to be able to have free play.

Then find out when the kids on your kid’s sports team are free. If none of them are ever free, it sounds like the other moms don’t like you or the other kids don’t like your kid. No team has all members booked up every waking moment.

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Anonymous wrote:Since I can't say this in real life, and I am far away from the DMV, I know one kid who does so many activities I don't understand how he is functioning. We are very close with this family, carpool to school everyday and were even in a Covid pod together, so I have a very good understanding of his schedule. He does weekly language class for both French and Mandarin, is on a travel hockey team, weekly piano lessons, weekly tennis lessons, both a fall and spring sport through school and an additional winter only and then summer only sport. Plus he's expected to have straight As in 6th grade, which comes with a lot of homework. Some mornings I pick him up and he looks absolutely exhausted, I hope in the long run he is okay because I don't know how sustainable this is.

He will crush your kid

NP. He's already being crushed by his middle class striver parents.

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