Does anyone else hate Bethesda?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't really like white affluent mainstream culture. I can blend, but my people are not those people. And other women are the worst. Passive aggressive, so positive that they're toxic, competitive, and really cruel.

"I don't know anyone like that," you'd say. "You must just have not met the right people. Or maybe it's you. You're the toxic one."

No. It's not me.

Things to dislike about Bethesda:

The Barnes and Noble closed (the one thing we liked about Bethesda).

Chain counter-service restaurants that serve carb-conscious "bowls" of food.

The lack of a grid and the confusing layout.

Parking manages to feel both unsafe and is expensive.

Chain sit-down restaurants that make you think you are in Walnut Creek, CA with your retired nana.

So many blonde ponytails.

So many SUVs.

Hyper-competutive, neurotic children with rich-kid kid problems: anxiety, etc.

People who think disliking these things means I'm jealous. Not jealous. I just don't like you or your town.

Ok? So don’t go there? If you are complaining about parking and lack of grid (which is weird because woodmont area is a giant grid, and the more upscale area is about 3 streets so why do you need a grid to navigate) you seem to go to Bethesda an awful lot. So stop doing that if it’s so awful.

[Anonymous]

I like the vibe around Cordell Ave with all those restaurants. Just have to get off Wisconsin and the other wide streets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't really like white affluent mainstream culture. I can blend, but my people are not those people. And other women are the worst. Passive aggressive, so positive that they're toxic, competitive, and really cruel.

"I don't know anyone like that," you'd say. "You must just have not met the right people. Or maybe it's you. You're the toxic one."

No. It's not me.

Things to dislike about Bethesda:

The Barnes and Noble closed (the one thing we liked about Bethesda).

Chain counter-service restaurants that serve carb-conscious "bowls" of food.

The lack of a grid and the confusing layout.

Parking manages to feel both unsafe and is expensive.

Chain sit-down restaurants that make you think you are in Walnut Creek, CA with your retired nana.

So many blonde ponytails.

So many SUVs.

Hyper-competutive, neurotic children with rich-kid kid problems: anxiety, etc.

People who think disliking these things means I'm jealous. Not jealous. I just don't like you or your town.

Do you like black affluent mainstream culture? asian affluent mainstream culture? WTF are you even talking about

I prefer them, in fact. They're generally a lot more pragmatic and a lot less concerned with manners.

What!?! This makes no sense!

[Anonymous]

My issue with Bethesda is the lack of diversity. Period. Our family moved here (from another part of the US) hoping for a nice neighborhood with interesting, diverse (race, ethnicity, careers, interests) people. This place is anything but that, and it seems like everyone got memo before they moved in: Vineyard Vines wardrobe, check. Range Rover, check. Yellow goldendoodle, check.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you picked the wrong neighborhood for you.

Agree. I live in Wyngate and it’s full of kids who go to the local schools. Easy to get around by bike or Ride On to the metro.

+1. Yay WYngate! I’ve been commuting downtown by public transport for over a decade (j2 is another option). My kids all go to public school as do most of our neighbors. And I e never had Botox, dye my own hair, and don’t have any designer clothes or purses. There’s really a big mix of different types here.

Agreed- I live in alta vista- there are some families in the neighborhood that go to rochembeau but vast majority go to wyngate and aren't very snooty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't really like white affluent mainstream culture. I can blend, but my people are not those people. And other women are the worst. Passive aggressive, so positive that they're toxic, competitive, and really cruel.

"I don't know anyone like that," you'd say. "You must just have not met the right people. Or maybe it's you. You're the toxic one."

No. It's not me.

Things to dislike about Bethesda:

The Barnes and Noble closed (the one thing we liked about Bethesda).

Chain counter-service restaurants that serve carb-conscious "bowls" of food.

The lack of a grid and the confusing layout.

Parking manages to feel both unsafe and is expensive.

Chain sit-down restaurants that make you think you are in Walnut Creek, CA with your retired nana.

So many blonde ponytails.

So many SUVs.

Hyper-competutive, neurotic children with rich-kid kid problems: anxiety, etc.

People who think disliking these things means I'm jealous. Not jealous. I just don't like you or your town.

I think you need to get out more. You just described almost every affluent neighborhood in every major city. I think maybe you should consider living off the grid? You sound way too superior anyway. Maybe a ship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My issue with Bethesda is the lack of diversity. Period. Our family moved here (from another part of the US) hoping for a nice neighborhood with interesting, diverse (race, ethnicity, careers, interests) people. This place is anything but that, and it seems like everyone got memo before they moved in: Vineyard Vines wardrobe, check. Range Rover, check. Yellow goldendoodle, check.

Nobody is wearing a vineyard vines wardrobe, wtf. Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't really like white affluent mainstream culture. I can blend, but my people are not those people. And other women are the worst. Passive aggressive, so positive that they're toxic, competitive, and really cruel.

"I don't know anyone like that," you'd say. "You must just have not met the right people. Or maybe it's you. You're the toxic one."

No. It's not me.

Things to dislike about Bethesda:

The Barnes and Noble closed (the one thing we liked about Bethesda).

Chain counter-service restaurants that serve carb-conscious "bowls" of food.

The lack of a grid and the confusing layout.

Parking manages to feel both unsafe and is expensive.

Chain sit-down restaurants that make you think you are in Walnut Creek, CA with your retired nana.

So many blonde ponytails.

So many SUVs.

Hyper-competutive, neurotic children with rich-kid kid problems: anxiety, etc.

People who think disliking these things means I'm jealous. Not jealous. I just don't like you or your town.

Ok? So don’t go there? If you are complaining about parking and lack of grid (which is weird because woodmont area is a giant grid, and the more upscale area is about 3 streets so why do you need a grid to navigate) you seem to go to Bethesda an awful lot. So stop doing that if it’s so awful.

Topic of thread: does anyone hate Bethesda? The answer is yes.

I'm sorry I described your miserable suburban hellscape with such accuracy that you're triggered. Sometimes I have to go there for work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't really like white affluent mainstream culture. I can blend, but my people are not those people. And other women are the worst. Passive aggressive, so positive that they're toxic, competitive, and really cruel.

"I don't know anyone like that," you'd say. "You must just have not met the right people. Or maybe it's you. You're the toxic one."

No. It's not me.

Things to dislike about Bethesda:

The Barnes and Noble closed (the one thing we liked about Bethesda).

Chain counter-service restaurants that serve carb-conscious "bowls" of food.

The lack of a grid and the confusing layout.

Parking manages to feel both unsafe and is expensive.

Chain sit-down restaurants that make you think you are in Walnut Creek, CA with your retired nana.

So many blonde ponytails.

So many SUVs.

Hyper-competutive, neurotic children with rich-kid kid problems: anxiety, etc.

People who think disliking these things means I'm jealous. Not jealous. I just don't like you or your town.

I think you need to get out more. You just described almost every affluent neighborhood in every major city. I think maybe you should consider living off the grid? You sound way too superior anyway. Maybe a ship?

Plenty of affluence across the world that isn't trying to look like a Ralph Lauren catalogue c. 1996. As the other poster mentioned, your neighborhood is white, white, white. And boring.

[Anonymous]

I live in Bethesda and hate the lack of diversity. I’m a non-white, first generation immigrant woman and have a hard time blending in with other moms in the neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My issue with Bethesda is the lack of diversity. Period. Our family moved here (from another part of the US) hoping for a nice neighborhood with interesting, diverse (race, ethnicity, careers, interests) people. This place is anything but that, and it seems like everyone got memo before they moved in: Vineyard Vines wardrobe, check. Range Rover, check. Yellow goldendoodle, check.

This sounds more like Spring Valley. Are you sure you're in Bethesda?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in Bethesda and hate the lack of diversity. I’m a non-white, first generation immigrant woman and have a hard time blending in with other moms in the neighborhood.

Why do you want to blend in? Do you mean make friends? Be outgoing, introduce yourself, listen well, make jokes, host something, join something. I've been in your shoes - own your not blendiness and as something people appreciate, you for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't really like white affluent mainstream culture. I can blend, but my people are not those people. And other women are the worst. Passive aggressive, so positive that they're toxic, competitive, and really cruel.

"I don't know anyone like that," you'd say. "You must just have not met the right people. Or maybe it's you. You're the toxic one."

No. It's not me.

Things to dislike about Bethesda:

The Barnes and Noble closed (the one thing we liked about Bethesda).

Chain counter-service restaurants that serve carb-conscious "bowls" of food.

The lack of a grid and the confusing layout.

Parking manages to feel both unsafe and is expensive.

Chain sit-down restaurants that make you think you are in Walnut Creek, CA with your retired nana.

So many blonde ponytails.

So many SUVs.

Hyper-competutive, neurotic children with rich-kid kid problems: anxiety, etc.

People who think disliking these things means I'm jealous. Not jealous. I just don't like you or your town.

Ok? So don’t go there? If you are complaining about parking and lack of grid (which is weird because woodmont area is a giant grid, and the more upscale area is about 3 streets so why do you need a grid to navigate) you seem to go to Bethesda an awful lot. So stop doing that if it’s so awful.

Topic of thread: does anyone hate Bethesda? The answer is yes.

I'm sorry I described your miserable suburban hellscape with such accuracy that you're triggered. Sometimes I have to go there for work.

I love living where I can walk to nearly everything I need and routinely run into neighbors or kids friends at the library, playgrounds, and grocery store, but thanks for your concern. Please accept my condolences for having such a terrible job and best luck with your job search. I will play my tiny violin for you as I walk to metro and commute into DC, the utopia where there are never parking issues or boring restaurants and everyone in marvelously diverse and never wear branded clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought the people were very aggressive. Always yelling in the parking lots. In stores. It was a big joke around how much shouting went on. Much quieter more polite in Virginia.

Geez, no one believes this.

I've seen this too - rude behavior, especially in Trader Joe's parking lot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't really like white affluent mainstream culture. I can blend, but my people are not those people. And other women are the worst. Passive aggressive, so positive that they're toxic, competitive, and really cruel.

"I don't know anyone like that," you'd say. "You must just have not met the right people. Or maybe it's you. You're the toxic one."

No. It's not me.

Things to dislike about Bethesda:

The Barnes and Noble closed (the one thing we liked about Bethesda).

Chain counter-service restaurants that serve carb-conscious "bowls" of food.

The lack of a grid and the confusing layout.

Parking manages to feel both unsafe and is expensive.

Chain sit-down restaurants that make you think you are in Walnut Creek, CA with your retired nana.

So many blonde ponytails.

So many SUVs.

Hyper-competutive, neurotic children with rich-kid kid problems: anxiety, etc.

People who think disliking these things means I'm jealous. Not jealous. I just don't like you or your town.

I think you need to get out more. You just described almost every affluent neighborhood in every major city. I think maybe you should consider living off the grid? You sound way too superior anyway. Maybe a ship?

Plenty of affluence across the world that isn't trying to look like a Ralph Lauren catalogue c. 1996. As the other poster mentioned, your neighborhood is white, white, white. And boring.

As a white, white, white person who wears Ralph Lauren, I appreciate it.