What percent of people do you know weren't financially supporting their parents before they turned 40?

[Anonymous]

Only ones I know who do this are first generation Desis, and not all of them do, just some.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you keep asking this question over and over?

Because, I feel like I've been finishing last my whole life, and I feel it's about time I was on even footing with others, even if it's only temporary. My entire life has been marked with failures, and it should be all too understandable that I want a break from it.

I didn't take Calculus until I was a senior in high school, while most of my friends took it as juniors.

I didn't graduate from college until I was 22, while most people I know graduated at 21.

I didn't move out until I was 28, while most people I know moved out between 18 and 24.

God forbid I'm not ready for my peers to start financially supporting my parents before me. I'm okay with having a few weaknesses, but this is where I'm drawing the line.

[Anonymous]

None. I do know a few people who are managing their parents- as in, setting them up with elder care, driving them places, handling medical and financial POA type stuff if they’re late in life. But they are using the parents own funds for this stuff, not their own.

[Anonymous]

95% of our various friend groups were not supporting a parent.
In the two cases is one a hedge fund woman buying her divorced mom a condo back home in Montana, and a couple with three kids spotting a condo for the wife’s divorced mom to get back in her feet near them.

That’s it.

[Anonymous]

None are financially supporting parents before age 40, 50 or even 60. Middle class white americans.
They certainly see them regularly or help them through medical issues or later downsize homes or find a condo or assisted living when needed. But they are using the parent's funds or medicare/elderly programs from the local or federal govt or church.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you keep asking this question over and over?

Because, I feel like I've been finishing last my whole life, and I feel it's about time I was on even footing with others, even if it's only temporary. My entire life has been marked with failures, and it should be all too understandable that I want a break from it.

I didn't take Calculus until I was a senior in high school, while most of my friends took it as juniors.

I didn't graduate from college until I was 22, while most people I know graduated at 21.

I didn't move out until I was 28, while most people I know moved out between 18 and 24.

God forbid I'm not ready for my peers to start financially supporting my parents before me. I'm okay with having a few weaknesses, but this is where I'm drawing the line.

Stop comparing yourself to other people. Why the hell do you care what others do? Live your own life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you keep asking this question over and over?

Because, I feel like I've been finishing last my whole life, and I feel it's about time I was on even footing with others, even if it's only temporary. My entire life has been marked with failures, and it should be all too understandable that I want a break from it.

I didn't take Calculus until I was a senior in high school, while most of my friends took it as juniors.

I didn't graduate from college until I was 22, while most people I know graduated at 21.

I didn't move out until I was 28, while most people I know moved out between 18 and 24.

God forbid I'm not ready for my peers to start financially supporting my parents before me. I'm okay with having a few weaknesses, but this is where I'm drawing the line.

The only thing that will help you is treatment for your anxiety disorder.

Nobody cares what year you took Calculus! It does not matter *at all*. It barely mattered 10 years ago.

What on earth do you mean "drawing the line"? What are you going to do, stomp your feet until people stop supporting their parents to spare your feelings?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know anyone who supports their parents and I have a pretty large circle.

You have a large circle of rich friends.

Yes I know several people. I’d say at least 1/4 of my peers have financial help going to parents in some fashion. Most of them are white Americans.

I don’t know anyone who supports their parents weirdo

Right? This is not common at all. I know no one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems to be pretty common on here for adult children in their 30s, and even mid-to-late 20s to be giving financial help to their parents.

Very uncommon to give financial help to your parents ever, even more rare if yours only 20-40yo.

Never “seemed common” when on “here” either.

[Anonymous]

I’ve provided financial help as soon as I started making money. My Asian immigrant parents sacrificed to educate me. It was not support for them to have essentials they couldn’t cover but to give them a little extra breathing room like being able to travel, having a better cell phone plan, etc…

In 20 years, I’ve given probably an amount in the low 6 figure range. Thankfully, we have the income to do that. I do not expect my children to do the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve provided financial help as soon as I started making money. My Asian immigrant parents sacrificed to educate me. It was not support for them to have essentials they couldn’t cover but to give them a little extra breathing room like being able to travel, having a better cell phone plan, etc…

In 20 years, I’ve given probably an amount in the low 6 figure range. Thankfully, we have the income to do that. I do not expect my children to do the same.

Would it have killed you to wait until you were 35?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve provided financial help as soon as I started making money. My Asian immigrant parents sacrificed to educate me. It was not support for them to have essentials they couldn’t cover but to give them a little extra breathing room like being able to travel, having a better cell phone plan, etc…

In 20 years, I’ve given probably an amount in the low 6 figure range. Thankfully, we have the income to do that. I do not expect my children to do the same.

Would it have killed you to wait until you were 35?

No, but there was an “expectation” from my parents to start helping once I started making money. Sometimes it has led to conflict over the years. I have a special needs child diagnosed a few years ago and that is when the support and expectation decreased considerably.

[Anonymous]

I know zero adults who financially support their parents.

[Anonymous]

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