Is UVA really more of a party school than other big state colleges?

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Anonymous wrote:It isn’t any worse than the other state flagships. But that is part of the appeal of state flagships. Kids want the social scene whether it be Greek life or just the ability to be part of a large crowd at an athletic event or campus party.

To expect that kids are not going to take advantage of the freedom and to some degree anonymity that attending the state flagship gives them is simply not realistic.

Will every kid at the state flagship become a functional alcoholic certainly not. Will some just as certainly yes. In the same way that a certain percentage will transfer out because the reality didn’t match the expectation.

You have had your kids for 17 or 18 years, done what you could to make them responsible young adults. Now is the time to let them go and see how well you did.

Don’t over think it or get hung up by the half truths you see on social media. It will only drive you crazy.

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I have two at UVA. Both Greek. One rarely drinks, or if she does has one drink and nurses it. Does go out Thurs/Fri and usually in Satrudays. My DS goes to his fraternity parties and he'll do other parties but I don't think he's ever actually been drunk, per se. He is also usually out Thurs/Fri but rarely does anything Saturdays. So no neither are anywhere near "functioning alcoholics" but do they know people who are like that, yes absolutely. They also know kids who do not really go out at all. That is the beauty of a mid-large sized state school, the ability to be who you want to be, and find your own people, whoever and whatever they may be.

I also had two kids at UVA and have no idea how often they went out, what days they went out, and how much or how little they had to drink. How in the world are you so plugged in to your kids college social life that you know all this? It’s really odd.

Why is it odd that parents have kids that trust them enough to share what they are doing at college? It’s actually pretty cool that they feel that judgement free zone and open communication with their mom.

It’s odd to be that intimately involved in your kids’ college experience. It just is. There was enough “trust” between our kids and us that we didn’t need to know where they were and what they were doing every waking minute and they didn’t feel compelled to tell us.

DP: My kids are also pretty forthright about their college experiences. Talk about hangovers/overdoing it. Bad Tinder dates. It's not about us "needing to know" or "them feeling compelled" -- we just talk about it the same way we talk about anything. It's often funny/amusing and makes us remember our dumb/fun moments in the past too. I think it's in part because we're often talking as a family group and the siblings are sharing stories with each other too (they go to different colleges). It's kind of nice to have them know that they can tell us things now that they would have likely hid while they were in high school. I could probably tell you the rhythm of their days just because we talk once a week and the retell it and we text every few days.

They’re still not telling you everything and they’re still sugar coating whatever they ARE telling you. Don’t be naive.

Not the Dp but your kid might be that way, but others aren’t. Why is that so hard to accept?

Yea, you’re right. If her kids are talking to her about Tinder dates then I guess they do tell her everything. Because Tinder is basically for arranging one night stands. Gross.

You really are out of touch. Yes alot of guys use it for that but a lot of girls use it to just meet people. And wade through alot of trash but are clear in their intentions. But anyway back to your judgmental self!

College kids going on Tinder dates while IN college is weird.

Tinder…. So a bunch of 30 year old college students?

Exactly. It’s super odd. That poster says her kids IN COLLEGE text her about their “bad Tinder dates.” Huh?

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UVA is the flagship of party schools in VA.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s on par with the other VA universities- JMU or VT. There is heavy drinking everywhere.

According to my nephews--recent grads at UVA, Tech and JMU--JMU is the most ridiculous party school of the 3.

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Anonymous wrote:UVA is the flagship of party schools in VA.

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False and I have experience with UVA and another in-state VA school. You want a party school in VA? Wash & Lee. They start partying on Thurs night and don't stop until Monday morning.

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Anonymous wrote:It isn’t any worse than the other state flagships. But that is part of the appeal of state flagships. Kids want the social scene whether it be Greek life or just the ability to be part of a large crowd at an athletic event or campus party.

To expect that kids are not going to take advantage of the freedom and to some degree anonymity that attending the state flagship gives them is simply not realistic.

Will every kid at the state flagship become a functional alcoholic certainly not. Will some just as certainly yes. In the same way that a certain percentage will transfer out because the reality didn’t match the expectation.

You have had your kids for 17 or 18 years, done what you could to make them responsible young adults. Now is the time to let them go and see how well you did.

Don’t over think it or get hung up by the half truths you see on social media. It will only drive you crazy.

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I have two at UVA. Both Greek. One rarely drinks, or if she does has one drink and nurses it. Does go out Thurs/Fri and usually in Satrudays. My DS goes to his fraternity parties and he'll do other parties but I don't think he's ever actually been drunk, per se. He is also usually out Thurs/Fri but rarely does anything Saturdays. So no neither are anywhere near "functioning alcoholics" but do they know people who are like that, yes absolutely. They also know kids who do not really go out at all. That is the beauty of a mid-large sized state school, the ability to be who you want to be, and find your own people, whoever and whatever they may be.

I also had two kids at UVA and have no idea how often they went out, what days they went out, and how much or how little they had to drink. How in the world are you so plugged in to your kids college social life that you know all this? It’s really odd.

Why is it odd that parents have kids that trust them enough to share what they are doing at college? It’s actually pretty cool that they feel that judgement free zone and open communication with their mom.

It’s odd to be that intimately involved in your kids’ college experience. It just is. There was enough “trust” between our kids and us that we didn’t need to know where they were and what they were doing every waking minute and they didn’t feel compelled to tell us.

DP: My kids are also pretty forthright about their college experiences. Talk about hangovers/overdoing it. Bad Tinder dates. It's not about us "needing to know" or "them feeling compelled" -- we just talk about it the same way we talk about anything. It's often funny/amusing and makes us remember our dumb/fun moments in the past too. I think it's in part because we're often talking as a family group and the siblings are sharing stories with each other too (they go to different colleges). It's kind of nice to have them know that they can tell us things now that they would have likely hid while they were in high school. I could probably tell you the rhythm of their days just because we talk once a week and the retell it and we text every few days.

They’re still not telling you everything and they’re still sugar coating whatever they ARE telling you. Don’t be naive.

Not the Dp but your kid might be that way, but others aren’t. Why is that so hard to accept?

Yea, you’re right. If her kids are talking to her about Tinder dates then I guess they do tell her everything. Because Tinder is basically for arranging one night stands. Gross.

You really are out of touch. Yes alot of guys use it for that but a lot of girls use it to just meet people. And wade through alot of trash but are clear in their intentions. But anyway back to your judgmental self!

College kids going on Tinder dates while IN college is weird.

Tinder…. So a bunch of 30 year old college students?

Exactly. It’s super odd. That poster says her kids IN COLLEGE text her about their “bad Tinder dates.” Huh?

No, it isn't. Lots of college students, including my own, use tinder. https://www.michigandaily.com/opinion/dating-in-college-the-problem-with-tinder-for-the-somewhat-wholesome/

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Anonymous wrote:UVA is the flagship of party schools in VA. [/quote]


false. That award goes to the privates in VA

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Anonymous wrote:It isn’t any worse than the other state flagships. But that is part of the appeal of state flagships. Kids want the social scene whether it be Greek life or just the ability to be part of a large crowd at an athletic event or campus party.

To expect that kids are not going to take advantage of the freedom and to some degree anonymity that attending the state flagship gives them is simply not realistic.

Will every kid at the state flagship become a functional alcoholic certainly not. Will some just as certainly yes. In the same way that a certain percentage will transfer out because the reality didn’t match the expectation.

You have had your kids for 17 or 18 years, done what you could to make them responsible young adults. Now is the time to let them go and see how well you did.

Don’t over think it or get hung up by the half truths you see on social media. It will only drive you crazy.

This +1

I have two at UVA. Both Greek. One rarely drinks, or if she does has one drink and nurses it. Does go out Thurs/Fri and usually in Satrudays. My DS goes to his fraternity parties and he'll do other parties but I don't think he's ever actually been drunk, per se. He is also usually out Thurs/Fri but rarely does anything Saturdays. So no neither are anywhere near "functioning alcoholics" but do they know people who are like that, yes absolutely. They also know kids who do not really go out at all. That is the beauty of a mid-large sized state school, the ability to be who you want to be, and find your own people, whoever and whatever they may be.

I also had two kids at UVA and have no idea how often they went out, what days they went out, and how much or how little they had to drink. How in the world are you so plugged in to your kids college social life that you know all this? It’s really odd.

Why is it odd that parents have kids that trust them enough to share what they are doing at college? It’s actually pretty cool that they feel that judgement free zone and open communication with their mom.

It’s odd to be that intimately involved in your kids’ college experience. It just is. There was enough “trust” between our kids and us that we didn’t need to know where they were and what they were doing every waking minute and they didn’t feel compelled to tell us.

DP: My kids are also pretty forthright about their college experiences. Talk about hangovers/overdoing it. Bad Tinder dates. It's not about us "needing to know" or "them feeling compelled" -- we just talk about it the same way we talk about anything. It's often funny/amusing and makes us remember our dumb/fun moments in the past too. I think it's in part because we're often talking as a family group and the siblings are sharing stories with each other too (they go to different colleges). It's kind of nice to have them know that they can tell us things now that they would have likely hid while they were in high school. I could probably tell you the rhythm of their days just because we talk once a week and the retell it and we text every few days.

They’re still not telling you everything and they’re still sugar coating whatever they ARE telling you. Don’t be naive.

Not the Dp but your kid might be that way, but others aren’t. Why is that so hard to accept?

Yea, you’re right. If her kids are talking to her about Tinder dates then I guess they do tell her everything. Because Tinder is basically for arranging one night stands. Gross.

You really are out of touch. Yes alot of guys use it for that but a lot of girls use it to just meet people. And wade through alot of trash but are clear in their intentions. But anyway back to your judgmental self!

College kids going on Tinder dates while IN college is weird.

Tinder…. So a bunch of 30 year old college students?

Exactly. It’s super odd. That poster says her kids IN COLLEGE text her about their “bad Tinder dates.” Huh?

No, it isn't. Lots of college students, including my own, use tinder. https://www.michigandaily.com/opinion/dating-in-college-the-problem-with-tinder-for-the-somewhat-wholesome/

Well, then I feel sorry for your kid too.

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Anonymous wrote:It isn’t any worse than the other state flagships. But that is part of the appeal of state flagships. Kids want the social scene whether it be Greek life or just the ability to be part of a large crowd at an athletic event or campus party.

To expect that kids are not going to take advantage of the freedom and to some degree anonymity that attending the state flagship gives them is simply not realistic.

Will every kid at the state flagship become a functional alcoholic certainly not. Will some just as certainly yes. In the same way that a certain percentage will transfer out because the reality didn’t match the expectation.

You have had your kids for 17 or 18 years, done what you could to make them responsible young adults. Now is the time to let them go and see how well you did.

Don’t over think it or get hung up by the half truths you see on social media. It will only drive you crazy.

This +1

I have two at UVA. Both Greek. One rarely drinks, or if she does has one drink and nurses it. Does go out Thurs/Fri and usually in Satrudays. My DS goes to his fraternity parties and he'll do other parties but I don't think he's ever actually been drunk, per se. He is also usually out Thurs/Fri but rarely does anything Saturdays. So no neither are anywhere near "functioning alcoholics" but do they know people who are like that, yes absolutely. They also know kids who do not really go out at all. That is the beauty of a mid-large sized state school, the ability to be who you want to be, and find your own people, whoever and whatever they may be.

I also had two kids at UVA and have no idea how often they went out, what days they went out, and how much or how little they had to drink. How in the world are you so plugged in to your kids college social life that you know all this? It’s really odd.

Why is it odd that parents have kids that trust them enough to share what they are doing at college? It’s actually pretty cool that they feel that judgement free zone and open communication with their mom.

It’s odd to be that intimately involved in your kids’ college experience. It just is. There was enough “trust” between our kids and us that we didn’t need to know where they were and what they were doing every waking minute and they didn’t feel compelled to tell us.

DP: My kids are also pretty forthright about their college experiences. Talk about hangovers/overdoing it. Bad Tinder dates. It's not about us "needing to know" or "them feeling compelled" -- we just talk about it the same way we talk about anything. It's often funny/amusing and makes us remember our dumb/fun moments in the past too. I think it's in part because we're often talking as a family group and the siblings are sharing stories with each other too (they go to different colleges). It's kind of nice to have them know that they can tell us things now that they would have likely hid while they were in high school. I could probably tell you the rhythm of their days just because we talk once a week and the retell it and we text every few days.

They’re still not telling you everything and they’re still sugar coating whatever they ARE telling you. Don’t be naive.

Not the Dp but your kid might be that way, but others aren’t. Why is that so hard to accept?

Yea, you’re right. If her kids are talking to her about Tinder dates then I guess they do tell her everything. Because Tinder is basically for arranging one night stands. Gross.

You really are out of touch. Yes alot of guys use it for that but a lot of girls use it to just meet people. And wade through alot of trash but are clear in their intentions. But anyway back to your judgmental self!

College kids going on Tinder dates while IN college is weird.

Tinder…. So a bunch of 30 year old college students?

Exactly. It’s super odd. That poster says her kids IN COLLEGE text her about their “bad Tinder dates.” Huh?

No, it isn't. Lots of college students, including my own, use tinder. https://www.michigandaily.com/opinion/dating-in-college-the-problem-with-tinder-for-the-somewhat-wholesome/

Did you actually read the article that you have attached? It hardly makes Tinder out to be an app that I’d want my kid on.

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Anonymous wrote:It isn’t any worse than the other state flagships. But that is part of the appeal of state flagships. Kids want the social scene whether it be Greek life or just the ability to be part of a large crowd at an athletic event or campus party.

To expect that kids are not going to take advantage of the freedom and to some degree anonymity that attending the state flagship gives them is simply not realistic.

Will every kid at the state flagship become a functional alcoholic certainly not. Will some just as certainly yes. In the same way that a certain percentage will transfer out because the reality didn’t match the expectation.

You have had your kids for 17 or 18 years, done what you could to make them responsible young adults. Now is the time to let them go and see how well you did.

Don’t over think it or get hung up by the half truths you see on social media. It will only drive you crazy.

This +1

I have two at UVA. Both Greek. One rarely drinks, or if she does has one drink and nurses it. Does go out Thurs/Fri and usually in Satrudays. My DS goes to his fraternity parties and he'll do other parties but I don't think he's ever actually been drunk, per se. He is also usually out Thurs/Fri but rarely does anything Saturdays. So no neither are anywhere near "functioning alcoholics" but do they know people who are like that, yes absolutely. They also know kids who do not really go out at all. That is the beauty of a mid-large sized state school, the ability to be who you want to be, and find your own people, whoever and whatever they may be.

I also had two kids at UVA and have no idea how often they went out, what days they went out, and how much or how little they had to drink. How in the world are you so plugged in to your kids college social life that you know all this? It’s really odd.

Why is it odd that parents have kids that trust them enough to share what they are doing at college? It’s actually pretty cool that they feel that judgement free zone and open communication with their mom.

It’s odd to be that intimately involved in your kids’ college experience. It just is. There was enough “trust” between our kids and us that we didn’t need to know where they were and what they were doing every waking minute and they didn’t feel compelled to tell us.

DP: My kids are also pretty forthright about their college experiences. Talk about hangovers/overdoing it. Bad Tinder dates. It's not about us "needing to know" or "them feeling compelled" -- we just talk about it the same way we talk about anything. It's often funny/amusing and makes us remember our dumb/fun moments in the past too. I think it's in part because we're often talking as a family group and the siblings are sharing stories with each other too (they go to different colleges). It's kind of nice to have them know that they can tell us things now that they would have likely hid while they were in high school. I could probably tell you the rhythm of their days just because we talk once a week and the retell it and we text every few days.

They’re still not telling you everything and they’re still sugar coating whatever they ARE telling you. Don’t be naive.

Not the Dp but your kid might be that way, but others aren’t. Why is that so hard to accept?

Yea, you’re right. If her kids are talking to her about Tinder dates then I guess they do tell her everything. Because Tinder is basically for arranging one night stands. Gross.

You really are out of touch. Yes alot of guys use it for that but a lot of girls use it to just meet people. And wade through alot of trash but are clear in their intentions. But anyway back to your judgmental self!

College kids going on Tinder dates while IN college is weird.

Tinder…. So a bunch of 30 year old college students?

Exactly. It’s super odd. That poster says her kids IN COLLEGE text her about their “bad Tinder dates.” Huh?

No, it isn't. Lots of college students, including my own, use tinder. https://www.michigandaily.com/opinion/dating-in-college-the-problem-with-tinder-for-the-somewhat-wholesome/

Well, then I feel sorry for your kid too.

You don't know what you are talking about.

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DC just graduated from UVA, and sadly didn't have any fun while at school. I guess DC could use Tinder to meet some people.

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Anonymous wrote:It isn’t any worse than the other state flagships. But that is part of the appeal of state flagships. Kids want the social scene whether it be Greek life or just the ability to be part of a large crowd at an athletic event or campus party.

To expect that kids are not going to take advantage of the freedom and to some degree anonymity that attending the state flagship gives them is simply not realistic.

Will every kid at the state flagship become a functional alcoholic certainly not. Will some just as certainly yes. In the same way that a certain percentage will transfer out because the reality didn’t match the expectation.

You have had your kids for 17 or 18 years, done what you could to make them responsible young adults. Now is the time to let them go and see how well you did.

Don’t over think it or get hung up by the half truths you see on social media. It will only drive you crazy.

This +1

I have two at UVA. Both Greek. One rarely drinks, or if she does has one drink and nurses it. Does go out Thurs/Fri and usually in Satrudays. My DS goes to his fraternity parties and he'll do other parties but I don't think he's ever actually been drunk, per se. He is also usually out Thurs/Fri but rarely does anything Saturdays. So no neither are anywhere near "functioning alcoholics" but do they know people who are like that, yes absolutely. They also know kids who do not really go out at all. That is the beauty of a mid-large sized state school, the ability to be who you want to be, and find your own people, whoever and whatever they may be.

I also had two kids at UVA and have no idea how often they went out, what days they went out, and how much or how little they had to drink. How in the world are you so plugged in to your kids college social life that you know all this? It’s really odd.

Why is it odd that parents have kids that trust them enough to share what they are doing at college? It’s actually pretty cool that they feel that judgement free zone and open communication with their mom.

It’s odd to be that intimately involved in your kids’ college experience. It just is. There was enough “trust” between our kids and us that we didn’t need to know where they were and what they were doing every waking minute and they didn’t feel compelled to tell us.

DP: My kids are also pretty forthright about their college experiences. Talk about hangovers/overdoing it. Bad Tinder dates. It's not about us "needing to know" or "them feeling compelled" -- we just talk about it the same way we talk about anything. It's often funny/amusing and makes us remember our dumb/fun moments in the past too. I think it's in part because we're often talking as a family group and the siblings are sharing stories with each other too (they go to different colleges). It's kind of nice to have them know that they can tell us things now that they would have likely hid while they were in high school. I could probably tell you the rhythm of their days just because we talk once a week and the retell it and we text every few days.

They’re still not telling you everything and they’re still sugar coating whatever they ARE telling you. Don’t be naive.

Not the Dp but your kid might be that way, but others aren’t. Why is that so hard to accept?

Yea, you’re right. If her kids are talking to her about Tinder dates then I guess they do tell her everything. Because Tinder is basically for arranging one night stands. Gross.

You really are out of touch. Yes alot of guys use it for that but a lot of girls use it to just meet people. And wade through alot of trash but are clear in their intentions. But anyway back to your judgmental self!

College kids going on Tinder dates while IN college is weird.

Tinder…. So a bunch of 30 year old college students?

Exactly. It’s super odd. That poster says her kids IN COLLEGE text her about their “bad Tinder dates.” Huh?

No, it isn't. Lots of college students, including my own, use tinder. https://www.michigandaily.com/opinion/dating-in-college-the-problem-with-tinder-for-the-somewhat-wholesome/

Well, then I feel sorry for your kid too.

You don't know what you are talking about.

I mean, you posted that it’s not weird that college kids are on tinder and that your kid is on it and then attached a truly bizarre article from the Michigan Daily on tinder and thought that that would make it unweird?

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No way! Have you seen the sec schools?

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Anonymous wrote:DC just graduated from UVA, and sadly didn't have any fun while at school. I guess DC could use Tinder to meet some people.

That is sad.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve got kids at UVA now. Overwhelmingly, it is not a party school in the way most would think of a party school. On average, UVA kids are way brighter and more ambitious than your average state school students. Sure, there are frat parties and some students get drunk, but that is not the overall vibe. Acting like a d*ck is more likely to get you ostracized than heralded as a bro.

You can't be serious! "UVA kids are way brighter and more ambitious" than what kids and at what schools? Oh, I forgot, UVA is the BEST school to attend, PERIOD.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve got kids at UVA now. Overwhelmingly, it is not a party school in the way most would think of a party school. On average, UVA kids are way brighter and more ambitious than your average state school students. Sure, there are frat parties and some students get drunk, but that is not the overall vibe. Acting like a d*ck is more likely to get you ostracized than heralded as a bro.

You can't be serious! "UVA kids are way brighter and more ambitious" than what kids and at what schools? Oh, I forgot, UVA is the BEST school to attend, PERIOD.

Your envy is showing. Sorry our kid or loved one didn't get in or weren't even a contender (as was my DD), but still no reason to beat up on UVA