Was I married to a stranger? Even socialites get ghosted. Modern Love!

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*who is

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he from the same elite background?

Yes.

Not even close. His dad was a teacher.

Per the obit, his dad "worked for the City Planning Commission in New York, The Hudson River Valley Commission and The Metropolitan Regional Council." He went to Harvard and Penn and was a Fulbright scholar. So maybe not "old money" per se, but not exacly a schlub either. His wife's parents had homes in NY and Martha's Vineyard and he and his wife also had homes in both places.

https://vineyardgazette.com/obituaries/2016/09/14/rodman-townsend-davis-longtime-edgartown-summer-resident

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he from the same elite background?

Yes.

Not even close. His dad was a teacher.

Per the obit, his dad "worked for the City Planning Commission in New York, The Hudson River Valley Commission and The Metropolitan Regional Council." He went to Harvard and Penn and was a Fulbright scholar. So maybe not "old money" per se, but not exacly a schlub either. His wife's parents had homes in NY and Martha's Vineyard and he and his wife also had homes in both places.

https://vineyardgazette.com/obituaries/2016/09/14/rodman-townsend-davis-longtime-edgartown-summer-resident

He's a mayflower family. Ironically his family would have looked down on her family as new money 150 years ago.

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Anonymous wrote:But who the OW?

Oh another mystery…

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Anonymous wrote:The MV house is worth $4.7m apparently, on top of her multi-million dollar NYC apartment. She's a descendant of the Vanderbilt family. And just to keep it current, the Daily Mail notes that she's a Harvard alum whose family has donated a building and lots of $$. Doesn't make her husband less of a jerk, but the story is a bit less compelling when you realize she is an uber-wealthy socialite.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12252243/NYC-lawyer-shares-anguish-husband-20-years-left-woman-pandemic.html

I still have sympathy.The person she trusted the most completely blinsided her.

+100 with teens and 25 years together. You can’t even imagine the confusion and pain and shock somebody goes through. It is awful.

I get that but how does this event that has happened since human beings began noticing one another warrant space in a major newspaper. That’s some privilege.

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I had the feeling that the husband was on the spectrum and his appearance and material success masked a lot. I have known finance types like this in ny - successful, slightly mysterious troubled past, non confrontational personality interpreted as kindness rather than aloofness, calculating, no qualms at saying he didn’t want any custody of his then middle school aged kids, able to cut ties and move on without a backwards glance.

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She is a beautiful writer, and a beautiful person at least judging by online photos. Dont know her. Wish her well. Her husband was a dickhead. It will be hard for the kids to realize their dad was a hologram with no heart.

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Anonymous wrote:I am so curious about the author’s motivation for publishing this. She is so connected that I would have thought she would rather keep things private.

She is probably terrible which is why he cheated and left.

Cheating and leaving your spouse is terrible. But so is writing into the NYT about it.

My DH is horrible to me and emotionally abusive. He threatens me with the kids and financially. People would be shocked because he comes across as cool and collected. He is a complete ass and I’m only still here because of the kids.

If I managed to find a hot BF whom I enjoyed spending time with him and had the money to fight him in a divorce, I too would be on that first ferry back. I’m sure my DH would tell everyone how awful I am.

My own experience makes me question that they had this picture perfect marriage and he’s an evil cheater who suddenly up and left her.

I mean… fair, but that’s not a reason to decline any custody of his own kids. That’s so damaging and presumably they did nothing wrong.

For all we know she threatened him and demanded full custody. He said fine and left. No one knows what conversations were had or not had or what he really wanted. There’s a chance he left out of true desperation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But who the OW?

Oh another mystery…

I'm sure she'll be doxxed in no time by dcum slueths

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so curious about the author’s motivation for publishing this. She is so connected that I would have thought she would rather keep things private.

She is probably terrible which is why he cheated and left.

Cheating and leaving your spouse is terrible. But so is writing into the NYT about it.

My DH is horrible to me and emotionally abusive. He threatens me with the kids and financially. People would be shocked because he comes across as cool and collected. He is a complete ass and I’m only still here because of the kids.

If I managed to find a hot BF whom I enjoyed spending time with him and had the money to fight him in a divorce, I too would be on that first ferry back. I’m sure my DH would tell everyone how awful I am.

My own experience makes me question that they had this picture perfect marriage and he’s an evil cheater who suddenly up and left her.

I mean… fair, but that’s not a reason to decline any custody of his own kids. That’s so damaging and presumably they did nothing wrong.

For all we know she threatened him and demanded full custody. He said fine and left. No one knows what conversations were had or not had or what he really wanted. There’s a chance he left out of true desperation.

cool story you made up

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Anonymous wrote:Who is this? Fascinating list of educational institutions.

https://www.grantmakers.io/profiles/v0/207201596-belle-and-henry-davis-foundation/

Who went to Exeter? Im a mid90s alum.

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Anonymous wrote:Alright I went a little deep on the Davis family. Found the brother's? wedding announcement in the NYT (2002). And I think these white people jumped a broom at their wedding and said it was 100 year old tradition??? The pics are hard to make out, but I think they are all white. What the what??

Please link it!

https://www.nytimes.com/2002/09/22/style/weddings-celebrations-vows-bridget-elias-and-townsend-davis.html

Cringe.

So glad I didnt opt for an overwritten nyt wedding announcement. Barf.

“On Sept. 14 this year, they exchanged vows in front of 75 friends and family members in a setting that would have made Ralph Lauren weep with envy. The site, a collection of cottages with inviting porches along the wooded shore of Long Pond, lies only a few miles from the village of Plymouth, Mass., where Mr. Davis's ancestors settled in 1620. As guests sat out on a deck, a wooden 1950's motorboat cut a stylish swath across the lake and then docked. Out stepped the bride, barefoot and holding on to masses of curls coiled on top of her head.“

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who is this? Fascinating list of educational institutions.

https://www.grantmakers.io/profiles/v0/207201596-belle-and-henry-davis-foundation/

Who went to Exeter? Im a mid90s alum.

Could be one of their children I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who is this? Fascinating list of educational institutions.

https://www.grantmakers.io/profiles/v0/207201596-belle-and-henry-davis-foundation/

Who went to Exeter? Im a mid90s alum.

My guess is these donations were related to their kids schooling or trying to get them admitted to certain schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so curious about the author’s motivation for publishing this. She is so connected that I would have thought she would rather keep things private.

She is probably terrible which is why he cheated and left.

Cheating and leaving your spouse is terrible. But so is writing into the NYT about it.

My DH is horrible to me and emotionally abusive. He threatens me with the kids and financially. People would be shocked because he comes across as cool and collected. He is a complete ass and I’m only still here because of the kids.

If I managed to find a hot BF whom I enjoyed spending time with him and had the money to fight him in a divorce, I too would be on that first ferry back. I’m sure my DH would tell everyone how awful I am.

My own experience makes me question that they had this picture perfect marriage and he’s an evil cheater who suddenly up and left her.

I mean… fair, but that’s not a reason to decline any custody of his own kids. That’s so damaging and presumably they did nothing wrong.

For all we know she threatened him and demanded full custody. He said fine and left. No one knows what conversations were had or not had or what he really wanted. There’s a chance he left out of true desperation.

They are both lawyers and empty threats wouldn't work. There’s never a good reason to dump your children.