Can’t have water, apparently

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Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.

Needing to constantly drink water isn't good. Could be a sign of diabetes. Or in OPs case gestational diabetes.

I think it becomes a habit for people, not necessarily that they MUST have water because of a medical need.

But pregnant women do need more water than they would normally drink. It’s easy to become dehydrated when you’re pregnant.

But OP says to leave her cup there so she can refill. Sounds like she's leaving empty cups around. Which isn't really necessary. She's in a home with constant access to water. It's not hard to get a new cup and put the previous one in the sink when she's thirsty. There isn't a shortage of water or cups.

How do you know how many cups there are? OP isn’t intending to dirty multiple cups and “leave them around.” She is using ONE cup. As any guest may do in the home of any semi-decent host. She’s even trying to keep it out of the way in the guest bedroom.

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I asked them to please leave my water cups alone so I could refill, and they said “we don’t keep cups and glasses out.”

I assume you know that "cupS" implies more than one?

And I assume YOU know that:
1) It’s a multi-day visit (stated in the original post) so more than one day at this house = more than one cup will be used
2) Because they keep taking the one glass she is trying to keep, she has to get another one. Moron.

She has to get another one? Oh Lord. Sounds like torture. She will have to walk a few feet to take another tiny sip of water in a different glass.

Out of curiosity if someone was sitting in chair sipping water and they put the glass down (with water still in it) to get up to go to the bathroom. What would you do?

It depends on the person. If it's one of my kids I know they're not coming back to finish that drink. So I clean it up or put it in the fridge for later. They will also tell me "they aren't done yet" which is just a way of getting out of cleaning up after themselves. Only the in-laws know what OPs habits are and why are they responding the way they are.

NP. Same question, but it’s an adult houseguest. Let’s say it was cocktail hour before a dinner party in your home. Someone has a glass of water they are actively drinking. They excuse themselves for the powder room but will be back in a moment. What would you do?

Usually glasses would be cleaned up. If I set down my glass and come back I can't be sure someone didn't take a sip or confuse it with another one. If I was to leave I would ask my husband to hold my glass. I wouldn't put it down and expect it to be there when I got back.

You can’t be serious. If I were sitting around a living room with friends at a dinner party and asked my husband to hold my glass for me while I visited the restroom for three minutes, he would look at me like I had two heads. What, you think someone’s going to roofie your drink at someone’s house in Bethesda?

Sorry I didn't give you the answer you were looking for.

Sorry you are mentally unstable and don’t know how to host or act semi-normal in social settings.

Luckily I don't know slobs who leave cups lying about waiting for kids or dogs to know them over. You do you.

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This thread is on its way to being a classic. Who knew this topic would bring the responses it has!

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Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.

Needing to constantly drink water isn't good. Could be a sign of diabetes. Or in OPs case gestational diabetes.

I think it becomes a habit for people, not necessarily that they MUST have water because of a medical need.

But pregnant women do need more water than they would normally drink. It’s easy to become dehydrated when you’re pregnant.

But OP says to leave her cup there so she can refill. Sounds like she's leaving empty cups around. Which isn't really necessary. She's in a home with constant access to water. It's not hard to get a new cup and put the previous one in the sink when she's thirsty. There isn't a shortage of water or cups.

How do you know how many cups there are? OP isn’t intending to dirty multiple cups and “leave them around.” She is using ONE cup. As any guest may do in the home of any semi-decent host. She’s even trying to keep it out of the way in the guest bedroom.

From OP:
I asked them to please leave my water cups alone so I could refill, and they said “we don’t keep cups and glasses out.”

I assume you know that "cupS" implies more than one?

And I assume YOU know that:
1) It’s a multi-day visit (stated in the original post) so more than one day at this house = more than one cup will be used
2) Because they keep taking the one glass she is trying to keep, she has to get another one. Moron.

She has to get another one? Oh Lord. Sounds like torture. She will have to walk a few feet to take another tiny sip of water in a different glass.

Out of curiosity if someone was sitting in chair sipping water and they put the glass down (with water still in it) to get up to go to the bathroom. What would you do?

It depends on the person. If it's one of my kids I know they're not coming back to finish that drink. So I clean it up or put it in the fridge for later. They will also tell me "they aren't done yet" which is just a way of getting out of cleaning up after themselves. Only the in-laws know what OPs habits are and why are they responding the way they are.

NP. Same question, but it’s an adult houseguest. Let’s say it was cocktail hour before a dinner party in your home. Someone has a glass of water they are actively drinking. They excuse themselves for the powder room but will be back in a moment. What would you do?

Usually glasses would be cleaned up. If I set down my glass and come back I can't be sure someone didn't take a sip or confuse it with another one. If I was to leave I would ask my husband to hold my glass. I wouldn't put it down and expect it to be there when I got back.

You can’t be serious. If I were sitting around a living room with friends at a dinner party and asked my husband to hold my glass for me while I visited the restroom for three minutes, he would look at me like I had two heads. What, you think someone’s going to roofie your drink at someone’s house in Bethesda?

Sorry I didn't give you the answer you were looking for.

Sorry you are mentally unstable and don’t know how to host or act semi-normal in social settings.

Luckily I don't know slobs who leave cups lying about waiting for kids or dogs to know them over. You do you.

Way to try to move the goalposts, but nope. We were talking about cocktail hour before a dinner party. You tried so hard, though! I’m kind of getting that something is “off” with you, so no need to respond.

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Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.

Needing to constantly drink water isn't good. Could be a sign of diabetes. Or in OPs case gestational diabetes.

OP is pregnant! Water is super important.

Not chugging water constantly.

NP. The whole point of OP having an active glass or bottle of water is that she isn’t “chugging” it, moron. She is taking a few sips, setting it down, and coming back to it later. Did I go slow enough for you to follow along? Did I confound you with too much logic? You really are stupid, aren’t you?

NP. I agree with you, but this is a terrible way to respond to someone. Reflects poorly on you and your mental health. Do some introspection and think about the energy you're putting out into the world. The people on this board are real human beings somewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:At ILs for the weekend (overnight trip). I am five months pregnant. I drink a lot of water generally, but especially now. ILs keep taking any water cup or glass that is not actually in my hand and washing it. I can’t set my water down, use the restroom, and return to where I was sitting and find my water still there. I put a scrunchie around my cup (to indicate it was mine) and kept it in the guest bedroom on a coaster. MIL went into the room without asking, took the cup, left the scrunchie, and washed it.

I asked them to please leave my water cups alone so I could refill, and they said “we don’t keep cups and glasses out.” Finally, I went out to the car and brought in my personalized water bottle from the drive up, washed it out, filled it and kept it in the guest bedroom on a coaster.

Well, MIL went in and took MY WATER BOTTLE and put it in the dishwasher. I got it out, washed it, filled it, and walked into the living room to announce that this is my personal property, I will always use a coaster and will not leave it out, but do not deprive me of my personal water bottle again. MIL and FIL are both peeved. DH asked them to be reasonable, but they are still pouting.

We were supposed to stay two more days, but I’m seriously thinking of packing up and getting TF out of here.

OP, I feel for you. Your IL's are behaving like lunatics, but dangit if I don't LOVE these threads. Keep it coming, people.

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I honestly can’t believe people are defending MIL going into a bedroom and removing someone’s own water bottle that they brought themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.

Needing to constantly drink water isn't good. Could be a sign of diabetes. Or in OPs case gestational diabetes.

OP is pregnant! Water is super important.

Not chugging water constantly.

NP. The whole point of OP having an active glass or bottle of water is that she isn’t “chugging” it, moron. She is taking a few sips, setting it down, and coming back to it later. Did I go slow enough for you to follow along? Did I confound you with too much logic? You really are stupid, aren’t you?

NP. I agree with you, but this is a terrible way to respond to someone. Reflects poorly on you and your mental health. Do some introspection and think about the energy you're putting out into the world. The people on this board are real human beings somewhere.

Just like OP is a real pregnant person who is sipping—not “chugging”—water.

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Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.

True, but obsessively picking up someone's glass is over the top. My family tends towards the opposite - my grandparents and parents generally use one glass a day. They wash it out after use and put it on the counter on a paper towel. This is for the express purpose of having to wash less dishes.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is on its way to being a classic. Who knew this topic would bring the responses it has!

I honestly can’t believe people are defending MIL going into a bedroom and removing someone’s own water bottle that they brought themselves.

The OCD nutballs are like a dog with a bone. They will defend their rude behavior til death!

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is on its way to being a classic. Who knew this topic would bring the responses it has!

I honestly can’t believe people are defending MIL going into a bedroom and removing someone’s own water bottle that they brought themselves.

I think most people are fixated on the “cups” around the house and not even paying attention the water bottle.

Aside from the water bottle, I can’t understand why someone can’t put their drink down to go the bathroom without the glass being taken and washed.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is on its way to being a classic. Who knew this topic would bring the responses it has!

I honestly can’t believe people are defending MIL going into a bedroom and removing someone’s own water bottle that they brought themselves.

It's a level of uptight that swallows itself in the puckering.

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I had a house guest for a few weeks once, she left glasses of water all over the house, on tables, in her bedroom, on book shelves, once she left one on top of her car overnight. She was flakey like that.

If you would have asked her she also would have said she always used a coaster and was just trying to stay hydrated. Nobody with this problem is going to accurately describe their part in the issue.

We didn't make a big deal out of it although it was very frustrating finding these random glasses leaving marks on furniture all over the house. There was no fixing her however. Eventually she left and did not get invited back for more than a few hours visit.

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Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.

True, but obsessively picking up someone's glass is over the top. My family tends towards the opposite - my grandparents and parents generally use one glass a day. They wash it out after use and put it on the counter on a paper towel. This is for the express purpose of having to wash less dishes.

Yea I agree. I don’t understand the multiple cups per day. But this thread is reminding me that I do have a family member that gets a new glass for every (multiple) drink they need throughout the day. While I’m still using the same glass from the morning 😂

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is on its way to being a classic. Who knew this topic would bring the responses it has!

I honestly can’t believe people are defending MIL going into a bedroom and removing someone’s own water bottle that they brought themselves.

I think most people are fixated on the “cups” around the house and not even paying attention the water bottle.

Aside from the water bottle, I can’t understand why someone can’t put their drink down to go the bathroom without the glass being taken and washed.

Because its more likely that person wasn't literally gone 3 minutes and there is some exaggeration for dramatic effect.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is on its way to being a classic. Who knew this topic would bring the responses it has!

I honestly can’t believe people are defending MIL going into a bedroom and removing someone’s own water bottle that they brought themselves.

I think most people are fixated on the “cups” around the house and not even paying attention the water bottle.

Aside from the water bottle, I can’t understand why someone can’t put their drink down to go the bathroom without the glass being taken and washed.

Because its more likely that person wasn't literally gone 3 minutes and there is some exaggeration for dramatic effect.

I could see that if there wasn’t the water bottle incident.