Miffed my dad

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Anonymous wrote:This is a parenting fail, and has nothing to do with the grandfather.

A 13 year old kept 3 siblings alive, alone, within nothing, in the rainforest for 40 days.

And OP's son needs to be reminded to change his socks???? Sorry mom, this is 1000% on you (and DS' dad).

Lol, socks is a parenting fail. DCUM cracks me up.

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We are at the beach for a week and I have no idea if my 11 year old has been wearing the same socks — or even the same underwear — for the last 4 days. And, I don’t even care. Call CPS!!

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Anonymous wrote:OP you're a killjoy. Total killjoy.

Wow you have a low threshold on what will kill your joy!

You dunce. She's killing her DAD's joy and her SON's joy. How can you mis-interpret that?

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I’ve got a 13 year old boy who can be gross like that. I can totally see myself saying to whomever was with him, “Omg, tell him I said to change his socks!” as a method of message delivery only, not as an accusation regarding care. The kid is 13, he is responsible for changing clothes. If your dad hears something like that as an accusation you might need to reflect on why that is.

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What's with wearing socks on the beach vacation? Is this beach in Canada?

They are both sporty (well, for my dad, relatively so for an older guy), so they are doing athletic activities, not just hanging out on the beach. I apologized to my dad, he accepted and determined that the issue was that my son packed socks but could not find them in his bag (I have no idea how this is possible, it is not a large bag). It's all resolved. Thanks.

But I'm guessing your control issues and anxiety are not resolved. Way to put a damper on what was supposed to be a bonding time for your Dad and son.

This is so melodramatic. By telling her kid to change his socks, she’s ruining bonding time with grandpa? That’s ridiculous.

+1. OP asked grandpa to remind her son to change his socks. NBD. the way my kids are going they’ll probably still need reminders to change their underwear at 13. Kids need reminders. Calm down people.

And Grandpa responded that everything was under control. Only OP didn't like that.

Not only did OP not like that, but regrets the fact that she didn’t insist on pulling her son to the phone, when he was trying to enjoy time with grandpa, to insist that he change his socks. And then she feels the need to continue fretting about it on DCUM. Does that sound normal to you people?

Again you are being melodramatic. OP only said she should have said it directly to her son after other posters said she should tell her son not her dad. OP did nothing wrong. Her dad did nothing wrong. Everything is fine. You need to chill.

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What's with wearing socks on the beach vacation? Is this beach in Canada?

They are both sporty (well, for my dad, relatively so for an older guy), so they are doing athletic activities, not just hanging out on the beach. I apologized to my dad, he accepted and determined that the issue was that my son packed socks but could not find them in his bag (I have no idea how this is possible, it is not a large bag). It's all resolved. Thanks.

But I'm guessing your control issues and anxiety are not resolved. Way to put a damper on what was supposed to be a bonding time for your Dad and son.

This is so melodramatic. By telling her kid to change his socks, she’s ruining bonding time with grandpa? That’s ridiculous.

+1. OP asked grandpa to remind her son to change his socks. NBD. the way my kids are going they’ll probably still need reminders to change their underwear at 13. Kids need reminders. Calm down people.

And Grandpa responded that everything was under control. Only OP didn't like that.

Not only did OP not like that, but regrets the fact that she didn’t insist on pulling her son to the phone, when he was trying to enjoy time with grandpa, to insist that he change his socks. And then she feels the need to continue fretting about it on DCUM. Does that sound normal to you people?

Again you are being melodramatic. OP only said she should have said it directly to her son after other posters said she should tell her son not her dad. OP did nothing wrong. Her dad did nothing wrong. Everything is fine. You need to chill.

Why did OP feel the need to tell everyone this tale if nothing is wrong? Not her, not her dad. Why are we even talking about it? Because she feels "miffed my dad" whatever that even means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who is team OP? I don't see anything wrong with suggesting her son change his socks after a few days and since she didn't talk to her son directly to suggest to her dad to remind the son. What's the big deal?

I am with you. I posted that I would’ve done the same

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who is team OP? I don't see anything wrong with suggesting her son change his socks after a few days and since she didn't talk to her son directly to suggest to her dad to remind the son. What's the big deal?

I am with you. I posted that I would’ve done the same

I agree. OPs dad had an outsized response which could mean more about how they relate to one another than the dirty socks, but that's for OP to decide. Kid's 13, not 4.

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who is team OP? I don't see anything wrong with suggesting her son change his socks after a few days and since she didn't talk to her son directly to suggest to her dad to remind the son. What's the big deal?

I am with you. I posted that I would’ve done the same

I agree. OPs dad had an outsized response which could mean more about how they relate to one another than the dirty socks, but that's for OP to decide. Kid's 13, not 4.

How exactly was the response outsized? It was 2 short statements. OP is now miffed. That's the overreaction.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you're a killjoy. Total killjoy.

Wow you have a low threshold on what will kill your joy!

You dunce. She's killing her DAD's joy and her SON's joy. How can you mis-interpret that?

The irony is that you are the dunce. You are too stupid to explain.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you're a killjoy. Total killjoy.

Wow you have a low threshold on what will kill your joy!

You dunce. She's killing her DAD's joy and her SON's joy. How can you mis-interpret that?

The irony is that you are the dunce. You are too stupid to explain.

you're going to have to do a lot better than that! haha

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What's with wearing socks on the beach vacation? Is this beach in Canada?

They are both sporty (well, for my dad, relatively so for an older guy), so they are doing athletic activities, not just hanging out on the beach. I apologized to my dad, he accepted and determined that the issue was that my son packed socks but could not find them in his bag (I have no idea how this is possible, it is not a large bag). It's all resolved. Thanks.

But I'm guessing your control issues and anxiety are not resolved. Way to put a damper on what was supposed to be a bonding time for your Dad and son.

This is so melodramatic. By telling her kid to change his socks, she’s ruining bonding time with grandpa? That’s ridiculous.

+1. OP asked grandpa to remind her son to change his socks. NBD. the way my kids are going they’ll probably still need reminders to change their underwear at 13. Kids need reminders. Calm down people.

And Grandpa responded that everything was under control. Only OP didn't like that.

Not only did OP not like that, but regrets the fact that she didn’t insist on pulling her son to the phone, when he was trying to enjoy time with grandpa, to insist that he change his socks. And then she feels the need to continue fretting about it on DCUM. Does that sound normal to you people?

Again you are being melodramatic. OP only said she should have said it directly to her son after other posters said she should tell her son not her dad. OP did nothing wrong. Her dad did nothing wrong. Everything is fine. You need to chill.

Why did OP feel the need to tell everyone this tale if nothing is wrong? Not her, not her dad. Why are we even talking about it? Because she feels "miffed my dad" whatever that even means.

The same reason anyone posts here. For a sanity check.

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What's with wearing socks on the beach vacation? Is this beach in Canada?

They are both sporty (well, for my dad, relatively so for an older guy), so they are doing athletic activities, not just hanging out on the beach. I apologized to my dad, he accepted and determined that the issue was that my son packed socks but could not find them in his bag (I have no idea how this is possible, it is not a large bag). It's all resolved. Thanks.

But I'm guessing your control issues and anxiety are not resolved. Way to put a damper on what was supposed to be a bonding time for your Dad and son.

This is so melodramatic. By telling her kid to change his socks, she’s ruining bonding time with grandpa? That’s ridiculous.

+1. OP asked grandpa to remind her son to change his socks. NBD. the way my kids are going they’ll probably still need reminders to change their underwear at 13. Kids need reminders. Calm down people.

And Grandpa responded that everything was under control. Only OP didn't like that.

Not only did OP not like that, but regrets the fact that she didn’t insist on pulling her son to the phone, when he was trying to enjoy time with grandpa, to insist that he change his socks. And then she feels the need to continue fretting about it on DCUM. Does that sound normal to you people?

Again you are being melodramatic. OP only said she should have said it directly to her son after other posters said she should tell her son not her dad. OP did nothing wrong. Her dad did nothing wrong. Everything is fine. You need to chill.

Wrong. OP said she should have “insisted” that her son come to the phone so she could tell him to change his socks. That’s controlling and bizarre. Do you honestly believe this sock issue is the only thing OP is controlling and uptight about? I highly doubt it which is why grandpa got defensive and irritated. He knows his daughter is a control freak.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad was nice enough to take my 13 year old away with him on a short vacation (to a beach). They have been gone since Friday. My dad has sent me photos of what my son was doing every day. In every photo, my son is wearing the same pair of distinctive socks (dark gray running socks with an orange stripe). My son only has one pair of these socks. I asked my dad today if he could please tell my son to put on different socks, because he did not seem to be changing them on his own. My dad responded that he was taking good care of my son and I should stop micromanaging. Five days is a long time not to change socks, and I tried to phrase the request in a non-accusatory manner. Was I out of line to make this request?

Of course you were. He's 13 and if the worst thing he ever dies is wear the same socks for a week then consider yourself lucky. Also, you took the fun out the trip by treating your father like he's 13!

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who is team OP? I don't see anything wrong with suggesting her son change his socks after a few days and since she didn't talk to her son directly to suggest to her dad to remind the son. What's the big deal?

I am with you. I posted that I would’ve done the same

I agree. OPs dad had an outsized response which could mean more about how they relate to one another than the dirty socks, but that's for OP to decide. Kid's 13, not 4.

How exactly was the response outsized? It was 2 short statements. OP is now miffed. That's the overreaction.

The way I'm reading the title the OP upset her dad, not the other way around.

Here's what she says her dad said: My dad responded that he was taking good care of my son and I should stop micromanaging.

IMO, the bolded is an outsized reaction to saying that a 13 year old needs to change their socks. Instead of just passing along the message, it sounds like her dad took it as an affront to his care for her son. If this were a 4 year old, that's one thing, but the kid is 13. Dad overreacted.