Miffed my dad

[Anonymous]

Yes, you were out of line to make this request. Good for your dad for calling out your micromanaging. Pretend that it’s 1993 and there are no smart phones to send pictures everyday. All you know is that your kid is safe and having a good time with his grandfather. Be fine with that and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad was nice enough to take my 13 year old away with him on a short vacation (to a beach). They have been gone since Friday. My dad has sent me photos of what my son was doing every day. In every photo, my son is wearing the same pair of distinctive socks (dark gray running socks with an orange stripe). My son only has one pair of these socks. I asked my dad today if he could please tell my son to put on different socks, because he did not seem to be changing them on his own. My dad responded that he was taking good care of my son and I should stop micromanaging. Five days is a long time not to change socks, and I tried to phrase the request in a non-accusatory manner. Was I out of line to make this request?

Yes, you were out of line. What’s the worst that could realistically happen if your son doesn’t change his socks? His feet smell like corn chips?

You should have talked to your son about the socks.

[Anonymous]

OP you're a killjoy. Total killjoy.

[Anonymous]

In your mind, how did you picture your dad broaching this with your son? It would have made him feel awkward. He's probably not used to telling his 13 year old grandson to change his socks.

I'm trying to imagine this situation with my teen nieces. "hey so uh, your mom noticed

[Anonymous]

OP are you for real?
I thought this thread was about grandpa letting the boy do something dangerous or inappropriate, not a pair of freaking socks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you're a killjoy. Total killjoy.

+1

You needed to find something to displease you, didn't you OP?

[Anonymous]

If this is your worst problem, you're very lucky.

[Anonymous]

What you don't realize is the pictures were all staged on the first day. Your dad thought to prompt your son to change his clothes to look like different days but overlooked the socks. Your child has been sold into slavery and you don't even know it yet . Now that you can be annoyed about.

[Anonymous]

I think your dad felt disrespected. Just apologize for that and show him some gratitude and you'll be okay.

[Anonymous]

Cut the cord.

[Anonymous]

Lol - wait until he’s in college and you can remind him to change his socks, sheets, underwear, etc. Don’t ruin this time your dad has with you son.

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one who is team OP? I don't see anything wrong with suggesting her son change his socks after a few days and since she didn't talk to her son directly to suggest to her dad to remind the son. What's the big deal?

[Anonymous]

I’m someone with a 15 yr old son who doesn’t seem to mind if his feet stink or he does. We’ve always kept him clean when it was our responsibility and now that he is 15 seems not to care sometimes if he’s clean or not. It’s not fun but I do ask him about this stuff. He needs to be clean - I’d like to stop, he’d like me to stop but not enough to actually keep himself clean yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who is team OP? I don't see anything wrong with suggesting her son change his socks after a few days and since she didn't talk to her son directly to suggest to her dad to remind the son. What's the big deal?

The big deal is that it’s just not a big deal that warrants telling your own father how to take care of a 15 year old. Instead of just being happy that her kid and his grandfather were having a nice time, OP couldn’t regulate her need to manage some pointless situation about socks. THAT’S the big deal.

[Anonymous]

What's with wearing socks on the beach vacation? Is this beach in Canada?