Is 25 too young to marry if you still need parents help?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My adult son is 25 years old and is currently in medical school. His wife is 23 years old and about to start medical school. They just got married two months ago and I am supporting them both financially, including medical school costs and living expenses. I even bought them a Tesla Model 3. When they graduate and become doctors, they will be debt free. It is my responsibility to do that for them.

What

Its not your responsibility but your privilege to have enough money to help and theirs to have parents like you.

[Anonymous]

If AC is on track for a good high paying career? sure!

If they were bums in school and college and have low paying careers? No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:25 is too old to need parental help (and I say that as someone with advanced degrees who was in school for a million years).

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My adult son is 25 years old and is currently in medical school. His wife is 23 years old and about to start medical school. They just got married two months ago and I am supporting them both financially, including medical school costs and living expenses. I even bought them a Tesla Model 3. When they graduate and become doctors, they will be debt free. It is my responsibility to do that for them.

Is this a joke?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like one of those “poor and rich but not middle class” riddles you see on social media. Poor people often need to live in multigenerational housing their whole lives. Rich people give their kids financial support their whole lives (eg gifts and trust disbursements). Only middle class people define adulthood like this.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My niece married for financial aid purposes in college. Marriage saves $.

That also can lead to divorce.

https://divorce.com/blog/divorce-statistics/

Married couples between the ages of 20 to 25 are 60% likely to get a divorce.

too young.

Those stats go out the window when the young marriage is among college graduates. In that case, their divorce rates are extremely low, and I think lower than older marriages.

[Anonymous]

What kind of help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should get married until you have finished your education, have a job and live on your own

Define "finished your education." Should married people never consider returning to school?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My niece married for financial aid purposes in college. Marriage saves $.

That also can lead to divorce.

https://divorce.com/blog/divorce-statistics/

Married couples between the ages of 20 to 25 are 60% likely to get a divorce.

too young.

That’s for the general population, not UMC college educated folks.

25 yr olds aren't umc. Their parents are, but the 25 yr olds are generally not.

Of course many 25 year olds are. There are a ton of college-educated 22 year olds who make $80-100k/year. Some make closer to $140k/year.

What line of work are they in to earn $100k-$140k a year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our friend’s son married a classmate the summer he graduated from West Point. Apparently, it was advantageous in a lot of ways for him to do that.

You get "married BAH," meaning your "Basic Allowance for Housing," which is a fairly significant chunk of your overall compensation (and this part's entirely tax-free), is in a higher category because you have a family to provide for. It's a fairly antiquated system. I can tell you some ways that it used to be even more antiquated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i think yes.

if you are still being supported by your parents, then you are not ready to be married.

There are tons of people on these forums whose parents are paying the grandkids' private school and/or college tuitions. Apparently, they should all divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i think yes.

if you are still being supported by your parents, then you are not ready to be married.

There are tons of people on these forums whose parents are paying the grandkids' private school and/or college tuitions. Apparently, they should all divorce.

You are taking it to the extreme.

private schools aren't needs, and kids can go to public schools.

If you need your parents to pay for your house and car, then you are not really an independent adult. You are just an adult child still tied to the leading strings. It's sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i think yes.

if you are still being supported by your parents, then you are not ready to be married.

There are tons of people on these forums whose parents are paying the grandkids' private school and/or college tuitions. Apparently, they should all divorce.

You are taking it to the extreme.

private schools aren't needs, and kids can go to public schools.

If you need your parents to pay for your house and car, then you are not really an independent adult. You are just an adult child still tied to the leading strings. It's sad.

No. "Taking it to the extreme" is what is happening when people say that "25 is too young to be married" or other arbitrary and inflexible rules.

[Anonymous]

Most people I know got married at 25. They were done with college and in their first jobs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My niece married for financial aid purposes in college. Marriage saves $.

That also can lead to divorce.

https://divorce.com/blog/divorce-statistics/

Married couples between the ages of 20 to 25 are 60% likely to get a divorce.

too young.

That’s for the general population, not UMC college educated folks.

25 yr olds aren't umc. Their parents are, but the 25 yr olds are generally not.

Of course many 25 year olds are. There are a ton of college-educated 22 year olds who make $80-100k/year. Some make closer to $140k/year.

What line of work are they in to earn $100k-$140k a year?

Consulting, investment banking, 1st year biglaw at 25, accounting is $100k by 24/25