Is 25 too young to marry if you still need parents help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do 25 year olds need parent’s permission to obtain a marriage license?

I guess this is the right answer. Its a free country, marriage requires two consenting adults, not four consenting parents.

The implication of the question seems to be whether parents should cutoff their 25 yo when they get married. But OP should clarify.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:25 is not too young, but the inability to stand on one’s own and be financially stable and independent is a problem.

Many people are able to stand on their own two feet, but their SOL is less than their parents when they start out. For example, parents may be living in SFH, and ACs can only afford to rent an apartment or live with apartment-mates. In such a case, if parents give $ so that ACs can have better accomodations, nicer car, fun vacations, grander wedding, debt-free college, services and goods that would be considered a bit of luxury...is that called getting parent help?

[Anonymous]

you are not ready to get married at any age if your livelihood depends on other people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:25 is not too young, but the inability to stand on one’s own and be financially stable and independent is a problem.

Many people are able to stand on their own two feet, but their SOL is less than their parents when they start out. For example, parents may be living in SFH, and ACs can only afford to rent an apartment or live with apartment-mates. In such a case, if parents give $ so that ACs can have better accomodations, nicer car, fun vacations, grander wedding, debt-free college, services and goods that would be considered a bit of luxury...is that called getting parent help?

yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:25 is not too young, but the inability to stand on one’s own and be financially stable and independent is a problem.

Many people are able to stand on their own two feet, but their SOL is less than their parents when they start out. For example, parents may be living in SFH, and ACs can only afford to rent an apartment or live with apartment-mates. In such a case, if parents give $ so that ACs can have better accomodations, nicer car, fun vacations, grander wedding, debt-free college, services and goods that would be considered a bit of luxury...is that called getting parent help?

yes

In that case, 25 is not too young to get parents help and also marry. Hopefully, the future earnings are good and the temporary leaning on parents for a few years is A-ok.

Nowadays, it takes many years to do PhD, medical, law, MBA etc. No need to put your life at hold. Get married early and have kidss in your 30ss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My adult son is 25 years old and is currently in medical school. His wife is 23 years old and about to start medical school. They just got married two months ago and I am supporting them both financially, including medical school costs and living expenses. I even bought them a Tesla Model 3. When they graduate and become doctors, they will be debt free. It is my responsibility to do that for them.

What

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My adult son is 25 years old and is currently in medical school. His wife is 23 years old and about to start medical school. They just got married two months ago and I am supporting them both financially, including medical school costs and living expenses. I even bought them a Tesla Model 3. When they graduate and become doctors, they will be debt free. It is my responsibility to do that for them.

It's not your responsibility to buy them a car, let alone a Tesla. Your responsibility is to produce independent adults. You haven't done that.

I can understand helping them pay the rent while they go to med school, but if they aren't able to be adults and support themselves why get married?

A parent's responsibility isn't to support their adult child AND their spouse.

but, to each their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What age is menarche and puberty? 12? menopause and midlife crisis? 50?

Your best fertile years and max physical, sexual and mental phase is between 20-50. Why start at 35 or 40?

In the circles that frequent this site, it’s common to only want to have 1 or 2 kids.

No reasonable person wants more but its ideal to have them between 25-35.

If a woman has a child at 25, their chances of developing a career goes down.

[Anonymous]

Brother married at 19. They purposely didn't star a family for many. years. He finished college. She finished college. He finished law school. Each set of parents paid for college/law school, like they had planned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What age is menarche and puberty? 12? menopause and midlife crisis? 50?

Your best fertile years and max physical, sexual and mental phase is between 20-50. Why start at 35 or 40?

In the circles that frequent this site, it’s common to only want to have 1 or 2 kids.

No reasonable person wants more but its ideal to have them between 25-35.

If a woman has a child at 25, their chances of developing a career goes down.

As most people don't want kids first few years of married life, marrying at 25 would hive enough time to enjoy life and build finances before having kids.

[Anonymous]

* give

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My adult son is 25 years old and is currently in medical school. His wife is 23 years old and about to start medical school. They just got married two months ago and I am supporting them both financially, including medical school costs and living expenses. I even bought them a Tesla Model 3. When they graduate and become doctors, they will be debt free. It is my responsibility to do that for them.

Good luck to your son and his family. They're going to need it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got married at 23 and my DH 25. We’ve been married 29 years and still strong. We were both financially independent by the time we got married. No help from parents at all.

The book “The Millionaire Next Door” discussed about how in the author’s survey revealed that majority of the millionaires made it on their own. Most millionaires don’t depend on parental “economic outpatient care.”

Authors Stanley and Danko discovered that most millionaires didn’t have much oversight from their parents. They took charge of their own finances and created their own financial security without relying on their parents’ wealth.

Of course they feel that way.

It's not about "feeling that way". It's facts. I know 15+ millionaires and NONE of them come from families with means---we all grew up poor/true MC at the most. Yet, we are all millionaires thru our own efforts.

I know, it's apparently shocking to you because you are not a millionaire that you seem to think everyone else who "has it better than you" got there because of parental assistance. Yes, that's may be the case for some people, but for the majority of everyday people it's simply not the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If parents need to provide financial help so child can pay the bills, child is too young to get married. If parents’ financial help is due to parents’ wants/needs/estate planning and the child could support his/herself independently, then he/she may be mature enough to be married.

+1000

Huge difference between a young adult who requires parental financial help in order to pay basic bills (rent, auto, health, food, etc) and one who can do that themselves but their parents choose to give them a downpayment so they can own a condo and build equity rather than continuing to rent and have rent go up $100-200/year. If the parents/grandparents have enough money, gifting each year is a well understood way of estate planning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are 40 year olds on this forum who admit their own parents are paying for their kids' private schools, giving them money for a house downpayment, funding college tuition, and otherwise helping them to keep up with the Joneses.

I'd much rather help newlywed 25 years old financially than 40 or 45 year olds who are still expecting help with their bills from their parents.

+1

However, if the parents are wealthy, what is the harm in giving your kids the house downpayment, helping with grandkids private school tuition and/or college tuition? I can't take it with me when I die. It simply makes tax sense to gift the max amount each year to our kids and their spouses (and the grandkids if they arrive).
However, I would never do this if my kid plans to work only 20 hours/week for no reason other than "they just don't want to work". But as long as the kid and their spouse are working hard and not living beyond their means. But why wouldn't I want my kid, their spouse and my grandkids to live in a nice area with good schools, where their commute is only 10-15 mins vs an hour each way so they can have quality family time. I'd rather see my millions do some good while I"m alive and at a time that will help the most. But if they are not going to work, going to constantly go on expensive vacations and expect the money from us, then it wont happen.