Please don’t let your children eat common allergens while playing on public playground equipment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. You have to learn to be ruthless. As you can see, these people don’t care about your kid. They don’t care or she lives or dies. They only care about their child and their comfort.

So what do I do? Grab the snack and throw it out. I don’t care if I make an enemy out of every parent and nanny in the park. You will have to learn to aggressively put your child first because everyone around them won’t ever.

Let them be angry. My child’s right to life is more important than your kids snack.

This is the content I was hoping for when I clicked on this thread. Thank you for never disappointing!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. You have to learn to be ruthless. As you can see, these people don’t care about your kid. They don’t care or she lives or dies. They only care about their child and their comfort.

So what do I do? Grab the snack and throw it out. I don’t care if I make an enemy out of every parent and nanny in the park. You will have to learn to aggressively put your child first because everyone around them won’t ever.

Let them be angry. My child’s right to life is more important than your kids snack.

Wouldn't you just get the peanut residue on your own hands, then? seems counterproductive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP. You have to learn to be ruthless. As you can see, these people don’t care about your kid. They don’t care or she lives or dies. They only care about their child and their comfort.

So what do I do? Grab the snack and throw it out. I don’t care if I make an enemy out of every parent and nanny in the park. You will have to learn to aggressively put your child first because everyone around them won’t ever.

Let them be angry. My child’s right to life is more important than your kids snack.

I’m going to call bullshit on this. I don’t believe for a moment that you walk up to random kids on the playground, grab their snacks and throw them away.

Right? I'm sure the parents of type 1 diabetic kids who have just bolused their kids with insulin prior to handing them their snack would have a word with you when you threw out their snack before getting a chance to eat it. Be sure to bring some glucagon to smooth things over with them.

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Outside of the whole allergy thing, I think it's so rude and unsafe (think: choking hazard) for kids to be running around a playground with their snacks anyway. We took snacks to the playground, but we would also make the kids sit on a bench, eat them, and wipe their hands off before going back to play. Millennial mommies can't be bothered, and actually I've noticed this happens far more with SAHMs than working moms or nannies based on the people who live in my neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my kids were playground age I never let them have nut butters on a playground. It just seems a common courtesy. They can have it at home plenty; they don't "need" it for a snack outside. I'm sorry your kid has such severe allergies, it must be terrifying

Did you have the same consideration for the kids with severe milk allergies? Because I see kids with sippy cups of milk dripping down their shirt aaaaaall the time.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait until your child gets to elementary school, high school, college and the work world. Are you going to tell your child’s roommates they can’t eat almonds?

Actually yes. We only will be able to send her to peanut free schools. In college she will have to request a peanut free roommate unless she grows out of it. And we’re working on it.

NP and there are intermediate steps to take - please research and consult with allergists.

Mom of DD23/college graduate and lifelong anaphylactic allergies to peanuts and all tree nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait until your child gets to elementary school, high school, college and the work world. Are you going to tell your child’s roommates they can’t eat almonds?

NP: If my child didn't respond to that situation with "okay, just tell me what I need to do to help you stay safe" I would feel that I failed as a parent.

And what if the answer was "never eat any nut products this year"? I mean, what if they are vegetarian and nut products are a big source of calories and protein for them? You'd expect them to completely change their diet for the entire year? How about "Ok, I won't bring any nut based granola bars into the room", is that sufficient?

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Anonymous wrote:When my kids were playground age I never let them have nut butters on a playground. It just seems a common courtesy. They can have it at home plenty; they don't "need" it for a snack outside. I'm sorry your kid has such severe allergies, it must be terrifying :(

Why stop at ON the playground? If the nut allergy is so deadly that whatever is eaten at home can find it's way to the park, then OP really needs a complete ban on these foods. Because the magical thinking that the park equipment is clean as long as nobody is currently eating peanut products while ON the equipment is bizarre and nonsensical and sounds dangerous to kids like OPs child. Why risk the park at all?

This is so moronic. I don't get why you PPs are so triggered. Someone's kid could die. She's asking for courtesy and awareness. You lose your mind bc someone asked you to be considerate. You create an outlandish hypothetical about banning peanuts. Other PPs bemoan the loss of FREEDOM. It's a MF nut. It's not the end all be all. No one is asking for a ban, just awareness of the other kids who could die from it.

Though given how hard it was to get folks to mask during COVID when millions died, I understand that asking for courtesy for children with allergies is next to impossible

I'm just in constant awe and what total self absorbed jerks Americans are. We're really freaking terrible to each other.

Says the people gambling with their kids life to go to a park.

children with allergies deserve to go outdoors and try to lead a healthy, active life. The fact that they bother you so much that you want them removed from society says so much about you.

You are not a good person. I mean, who is that awful to small children??

You're either massively overstating the risk of death to your kid or you're an unserious parent who doesn't take the allergy seriously. Pick one. Because continuing to take the chance makes you a pretty shitty parent.

I don't have a kid with a nut allergy. But I think you are actually a troll. Or an 18 year old incel in his mother's basement. There's no way that you're a grown adult with even a modicum of education.
So I'll leave you to your internet trolling and bashing of mothers. Enjoy your basement.

You're a moron. If my kid might DIE because of exposure to things I have no control over may be at the park, we wouldn't go to the park. There's no way you're an actual parent if you think that's a smart thing to do. Quit trolling a parenting forum yourself.

So honestly, did you graduate HS? This is a real question because I just want to know if I'm right. By the style of writing, extreme rage at women, and tendency toward extremism, I am putting money down on you as a young teens/20s male living at home.

Even if you are a Qanon basement male, it's still good to educate yourself on the dangers of extreme nut allergies to many kids in the US. If you don't believe it, you can see here - https://www.allergicliving.com/2023/02/15/allergy-mom-reflects-on-3-tragedies-and-vulnerability/
Parents of kids with severe food allergies want them educated and to live a normal life. It is the right thing to do for their mental health and development. You should work to understand that, though that's probably just one on a list of many self-improvement to-do's for you.

Why does someone else need to waste their time if it doesn’t apply to them? Pointless

[Anonymous]

Bottom line: nobody cares about your kid except you. Figure out how to live in a world full of peanuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When my kids were playground age I never let them have nut butters on a playground. It just seems a common courtesy. They can have it at home plenty; they don't "need" it for a snack outside. I'm sorry your kid has such severe allergies, it must be terrifying

Why stop at ON the playground? If the nut allergy is so deadly that whatever is eaten at home can find it's way to the park, then OP really needs a complete ban on these foods. Because the magical thinking that the park equipment is clean as long as nobody is currently eating peanut products while ON the equipment is bizarre and nonsensical and sounds dangerous to kids like OPs child. Why risk the park at all?

DP.. that's the thing, even if people don't take peanuts to the park, what about other places? Public restrooms, rest stops on road trips, airports, taxis, ubers? Kids in other classes can eat peanuts and touch the playground equipment or other public surfaces in the school.

How are you going to prevent your kid from being exposed in public spaces?

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Anonymous wrote:When my kids were playground age I never let them have nut butters on a playground. It just seems a common courtesy. They can have it at home plenty; they don't "need" it for a snack outside. I'm sorry your kid has such severe allergies, it must be terrifying

Why stop at ON the playground? If the nut allergy is so deadly that whatever is eaten at home can find it's way to the park, then OP really needs a complete ban on these foods. Because the magical thinking that the park equipment is clean as long as nobody is currently eating peanut products while ON the equipment is bizarre and nonsensical and sounds dangerous to kids like OPs child. Why risk the park at all?

This is so moronic. I don't get why you PPs are so triggered. Someone's kid could die. She's asking for courtesy and awareness. You lose your mind bc someone asked you to be considerate. You create an outlandish hypothetical about banning peanuts. Other PPs bemoan the loss of FREEDOM. It's a MF nut. It's not the end all be all. No one is asking for a ban, just awareness of the other kids who could die from it.

Though given how hard it was to get folks to mask during COVID when millions died, I understand that asking for courtesy for children with allergies is next to impossible

I'm just in constant awe and what total self absorbed jerks Americans are. We're really freaking terrible to each other.

Ok but- there is a big difference between "do you mind not giving them that nut snack on the playground/ not giving them milk on the playground because my child is allergic" and "no one should ever eat foods in public because someone could be allergic". OP isn't saying she has asked people to put snacks away and they've refused. She is saying that they should pre emptively put all snacks away, and wash hands well, prior to playing in a public park. Which is unreasonable. If she asks someone to please put the snack away because of an allergy, most people who aren't jerks would comply. But no I'm not going to tell my kid he can't eat his granola bar at the park because it's possible that someone, somewhere, is allergic to an ingredient in it.

I think the problem is precisely what you are seeing on this thread. Can you imagine having a child with a severe nut allergy in this world and dealing with the litany of PPs who have insulted her kid as "gene deficient" "Immunocompromised - in italics to insulate non-existence", and the other completely cruel, below the belt taunts at what is a preschooler? I just cannot believe what people with chronic illnesses and/or conditions are up against. So yes, she is asking for consideration and keeping the nut products at bay. It is not unreasonable. It offends no one's sensibilities as it is a quite relatively small ask considering.

But in light of the pages of DCUM terrorists, I think this pretty much sums this up - I'm just in constant awe and what total self absorbed jerks Americans are. We're really freaking terrible to each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bottom line: nobody cares about your kid except you. Figure out how to live in a world full of peanuts.

I would have phrased it more gently, but pretty much this. You (and eventually your kid) have to figure out how to navigate this in a world that just isn't going to be as careful as you are.

[Anonymous]

My kid is allergic to penicillin. We’re starting therapy when she’s 4. OP really needs to read these comments. There’s no need to live like an insane person policing every other person on earth. Get immunotherapy. I also really like the gloves suggestion! That’sa great idea I hope OP read. Just keep some single use latex gloves for playground visits.

I do think OP’s demands are unreasonable, but I also hate the constant-eating families. WHY does your child need to have a snack in their hands at all times? It’s gross and messy. I hate the unnecessary food debris in all kids spaces. I also hate that the snack kids ruin the vibe for everyone else. Once snack kid shows up, all the other kids who were previously happy playing just want snacks and the activity is ruined. Snack families are the worst.

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Maybe she always wears a good mask at the playground so she doesn’t touch a contaminated surface & then her mouth.