This is a death sentence for my NK. There is already so much she has to miss out on in life due to a severe anaphylactic allergy to peanuts.
I’m not saying your kid can’t go to the park and eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich for a picnic. Wash their hands, etc. But having your kid run around on the equipment with a bag of Bamba’s leaving peanut oil residue on every surface means we can no longer play. And I do understand we live in a “I, me and mine” society where it’s ok if not encouraged to get yours and do what you want because how your actions effect others isn’t your problem. I understand. I’m sad, that’s not how I’m raising my kids but I get that’s a key American value especially in dog eat dog D.C. but can we just try to have a little concern for others? |
And yes. We are always prepared with multiple epipens, Benedryl, wipes etc. We wipe down everything she touches. Her allergens are they severe. But we cannot wipe down an entire playground
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Wait until your child gets to elementary school, high school, college and the work world. Are you going to tell your child’s roommates they can’t eat almonds? |
I agree. I have one child with anaphylactic allergies to peanuts and pistachios, and another without. We are always mindful to eat cleanly in public spaces so as not to pose a threat to others, or my own son.
It’s the plane that’s terrifying. Even with two Epipens. People eating nuts and no way for the plan to land in time. |
Don’t take your kid to a public park. |
Actually yes. We only will be able to send her to peanut free schools. In college she will have to request a peanut free roommate unless she grows out of it. And we’re working on it. |
Would you say that to a child in a wheelchair? |
These don’t exist. Maybe preschools. Good luck. |
NP There was a kid in my dorm with a life threatening peanut allergy and yes, his room was peanut free. Because, duh. His roommate, a reasonable guy, was also fine with it. Again, duh. |
A child in a wheelchair does not affect the foods my kid can eat or my kid’s hygiene routine. |
OP,
To start, why do kids always need to be eating at the playground, much less run around with a bag of anything? Who knows what is on the playground surfaces! Second, can you put some type of non-surgical gloves on your kid's hands and instruct not to touch face? Then you remove and dispose of gloves? |
NP. Surely your kid does not need to be eating at the playground ![]() |
OP. You have to learn to be ruthless. As you can see, these people don’t care about your kid. They don’t care or she lives or dies. They only care about their child and their comfort.
So what do I do? Grab the snack and throw it out. I don’t care if I make an enemy out of every parent and nanny in the park. You will have to learn to aggressively put your child first because everyone around them won’t ever. Let them be angry. My child’s right to life is more important than your kids snack. |
But I’m sure you’ll let your terrible little spawn run them over, right? Your little angels first? Another child’s disability isn’t your problem. |
You might want to bring an ice pack for your eye afterwards. |