Video Game Culture- any way to avoid it

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^^ sorry, that was in response to the quote about how it used to be novels and comic books that had adults in a lather.

[Anonymous]

We bought a switch for my 7 year old. he had been complaining "his friends have it", but he hasn't played with it since the last playdate. It's not that he hasn't asked, but it's for "playdates" only. That's our compromise.

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We bought a switch for my 7 year old. he had been complaining "his friends have it", but he hasn't played with it since the last playdate. It's not that he hasn't asked, but it's for "playdates" only. That's our compromise.

At 7?? My 7 yr old doesn’t even know what a switch is.

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Anonymous wrote:
We bought a switch for my 7 year old. he had been complaining "his friends have it", but he hasn't played with it since the last playdate. It's not that he hasn't asked, but it's for "playdates" only. That's our compromise.

At 7?? My 7 yr old doesn’t even know what a switch is.

I'm sorry you child will be light-years behind their peers because of their Ludite upbringing.

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We bought a switch for my 7 year old. he had been complaining "his friends have it", but he hasn't played with it since the last playdate. It's not that he hasn't asked, but it's for "playdates" only. That's our compromise.

We have one but they rarely if ever, use it.

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Anonymous wrote:
We bought a switch for my 7 year old. he had been complaining "his friends have it", but he hasn't played with it since the last playdate. It's not that he hasn't asked, but it's for "playdates" only. That's our compromise.

At 7?? My 7 yr old doesn’t even know what a switch is.

I'm sorry you child will be light-years behind their peers because of their Ludite upbringing.

That's the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.

NP who is also in engineering and definitely restricts her kids' video game usage.

[Anonymous]

There are children being massacred in large numbers now and this is what you're concerned about....I feel sorry for you that you have zero perspective.

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Anonymous wrote:I really don’t like how kids just want to veg out playing video games. We have tried fighting it but now allow our 7 year old 1-2 hours video game time on Saturday’s after chores. Our 4 year doesn’t get any time right now.

What really getting to me is that so many of the kids in his class seem to have unlimited video game time and access to games which are totally inappropriate( Fortnite/ roblox). I want I tell these kids parents WTF- what’s wrong with you?

My kids think we are the bad parents for restricting this stuff - I don’t want to tell my kid the truth that his friends parents probably just dump their kids of video games to get some peace and quiet.

these games are so absorbing I fear our kids won’t want to do the fun activities I love doing with them (hikes, bike riding, family game night). I just feel like I am killing myself doing what I think is right for my kids and society is pushing in the opposite direction.

How do you manage this stuff?

As a parent, I set time limits and don’t buy junk for my children.

If your 7 and 4 year old think you are a bad parent, something is deeply wrong in your household, or more likely you are imagining it and need a drink or a pill to relax.

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Anonymous wrote:
We bought a switch for my 7 year old. he had been complaining "his friends have it", but he hasn't played with it since the last playdate. It's not that he hasn't asked, but it's for "playdates" only. That's our compromise.

At 7?? My 7 yr old doesn’t even know what a switch is.

Does your child have social anxiety or other social disorder?
Switches are quite well known to children who talk to other children.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is fine to do this when they are this ages but once they get into middle school video games are an important social connection for boys.

Yup. OP, delay as long as you can but I do think you need to be realistic that the struggle gets harder not easier. I have a teen now and I have to make sure that he is learning to self regulate gaming before he goes off to college - over the top restrictions or banning don’t assist with that goal.

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Anonymous wrote:There are children being massacred in large numbers now and this is what you're concerned about....I feel sorry for you that you have zero perspective.

Video games can get quite violent and de sensitizing. It’s not an entirely unrelated subject.

[Anonymous]

We don't have video games in our house. Our kids are not allowed to play them at the library. And my kids ages 6-11 spend their Saturdays reading, playing outside, playing with legos, etc. It's pretty simple. You don't want to fight with them about games? Don't have them in your house.

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Anonymous wrote:
We bought a switch for my 7 year old. he had been complaining "his friends have it", but he hasn't played with it since the last playdate. It's not that he hasn't asked, but it's for "playdates" only. That's our compromise.

At 7?? My 7 yr old doesn’t even know what a switch is.

Does your child have social anxiety or other social disorder?
Switches are quite well known to children who talk to other children.

No, perfectly normal and very social, never has brought up a switch.

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Anonymous wrote:
We bought a switch for my 7 year old. he had been complaining "his friends have it", but he hasn't played with it since the last playdate. It's not that he hasn't asked, but it's for "playdates" only. That's our compromise.

At 7?? My 7 yr old doesn’t even know what a switch is.

I'm sorry you child will be light-years behind their peers because of their Ludite upbringing.

NP: Or, as young adults, they might be in significantly better mental health. Effect is stronger with females, but for both it's basically linear: the older they were when they got their first smartphone -- up through 18 -- the better their mental health.

https://wired.me/science/first-smartphone-and-mental-health/

Not gaming consoles, but one can speculate as to parallels.

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Anonymous wrote:There are children being massacred in large numbers now and this is what you're concerned about....I feel sorry for you that you have zero perspective.

Video games can get quite violent and de sensitizing. It’s not an entirely unrelated subject.

dp You pick non violent games, of course! Mario Kart, Animal Crossing new horizons, Marto party, Wonder..all non violent and fun games! Of course have limits but, you don't eat dessert at every meal, right?