Video Game Culture- any way to avoid it

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Anonymous wrote:I manage this by refusing to buy video games. We don’t have them and don’t play them. My kids hate me, but that’s okay. It’s called parenting.

Their friends will have them.

Yes, all the kids in school have them. My kids complain, and especially around birthdays and Christmas, that they are the only ones without a Nintendo or an x-box. I do that annoying mom thing of asking them if all their friends jumped off a bridge, would they jump, too. They get annoyed and exasperated and tell me I’m so, so mean, yadda, yadda.

I can’t control my kid from having a play date at someone’s house and playing Mario Bros., but I can stop it from entering my home.

I’m not a high powered businesswoman, but I can negotiate better than a ten year old. No video games in my house. PERIOD.

Why are you a killjoy?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I manage this by refusing to buy video games. We don’t have them and don’t play them. My kids hate me, but that’s okay. It’s called parenting.

Their friends will have them.

Yes, all the kids in school have them. My kids complain, and especially around birthdays and Christmas, that they are the only ones without a Nintendo or an x-box. I do that annoying mom thing of asking them if all their friends jumped off a bridge, would they jump, too. They get annoyed and exasperated and tell me I’m so, so mean, yadda, yadda.

I can’t control my kid from having a play date at someone’s house and playing Mario Bros., but I can stop it from entering my home.

I’m not a high powered businesswoman, but I can negotiate better than a ten year old. No video games in my house. PERIOD.

Why are you a killjoy?

Because video games are completely optional and starts dopamine seeking behaviors at a very young age. The meaning of life isn’t to chase dopamine rushes at every opportunity.

[Anonymous]

I think you're doing it. You're not depriving him but it's heavily regulated. I think what you have going on is reasonable.

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Anonymous wrote:I manage this by refusing to buy video games. We don’t have them and don’t play them. My kids hate me, but that’s okay. It’s called parenting.

Their friends will have them.

Yes, all the kids in school have them. My kids complain, and especially around birthdays and Christmas, that they are the only ones without a Nintendo or an x-box. I do that annoying mom thing of asking them if all their friends jumped off a bridge, would they jump, too. They get annoyed and exasperated and tell me I’m so, so mean, yadda, yadda.

I can’t control my kid from having a play date at someone’s house and playing Mario Bros., but I can stop it from entering my home.

I’m not a high powered businesswoman, but I can negotiate better than a ten year old. No video games in my house. PERIOD.

Why are you a killjoy?

Because video games are completely optional and starts dopamine seeking behaviors at a very young age. The meaning of life isn’t to chase dopamine rushes at every opportunity.

So does running, sports, shopping, anything that feels good to you.

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I have t read this thread but will take this opportunity to post a PSA to get your kids oFf if Discord. Let them game all they want, just not via this social-media nightmare app. Why?
Because you have zero idea who the Discord moderators are.
I do.
And believe me when I tell you the mods are living in mom’s basement looking for young gamers to influence and impart their super anti-social loser ideology.
You have no idea.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I manage this by refusing to buy video games. We don’t have them and don’t play them. My kids hate me, but that’s okay. It’s called parenting.

Their friends will have them.

Yes, all the kids in school have them. My kids complain, and especially around birthdays and Christmas, that they are the only ones without a Nintendo or an x-box. I do that annoying mom thing of asking them if all their friends jumped off a bridge, would they jump, too. They get annoyed and exasperated and tell me I’m so, so mean, yadda, yadda.

I can’t control my kid from having a play date at someone’s house and playing Mario Bros., but I can stop it from entering my home.

I’m not a high powered businesswoman, but I can negotiate better than a ten year old. No video games in my house. PERIOD.

Why are you a killjoy?

Because video games are completely optional and starts dopamine seeking behaviors at a very young age. The meaning of life isn’t to chase dopamine rushes at every opportunity.

So does running, sports, shopping, anything that feels good to you.

Son's longtime friend has already paid for grad school with their gaming winnings. They attend college, have a social life, are physically active, etc. Yes, I am being intinially vague. And yes, he is an outlier. But the ZERO GAMES UNDER MY ROOF parents are nuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I manage this by refusing to buy video games. We don’t have them and don’t play them. My kids hate me, but that’s okay. It’s called parenting.

Their friends will have them.

Yes, all the kids in school have them. My kids complain, and especially around birthdays and Christmas, that they are the only ones without a Nintendo or an x-box. I do that annoying mom thing of asking them if all their friends jumped off a bridge, would they jump, too. They get annoyed and exasperated and tell me I’m so, so mean, yadda, yadda.

I can’t control my kid from having a play date at someone’s house and playing Mario Bros., but I can stop it from entering my home.

I’m not a high powered businesswoman, but I can negotiate better than a ten year old. No video games in my house. PERIOD.

Why are you a killjoy?

Because video games are completely optional and starts dopamine seeking behaviors at a very young age. The meaning of life isn’t to chase dopamine rushes at every opportunity.

So does running, sports, shopping, anything that feels good to you.

Running is actually good for you. Sitting in the dark playing video games just gets you myopia.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I manage this by refusing to buy video games. We don’t have them and don’t play them. My kids hate me, but that’s okay. It’s called parenting.

Their friends will have them.

Yes, all the kids in school have them. My kids complain, and especially around birthdays and Christmas, that they are the only ones without a Nintendo or an x-box. I do that annoying mom thing of asking them if all their friends jumped off a bridge, would they jump, too. They get annoyed and exasperated and tell me I’m so, so mean, yadda, yadda.

I can’t control my kid from having a play date at someone’s house and playing Mario Bros., but I can stop it from entering my home.

I’m not a high powered businesswoman, but I can negotiate better than a ten year old. No video games in my house. PERIOD.

Why are you a killjoy?

Because video games are completely optional and starts dopamine seeking behaviors at a very young age. The meaning of life isn’t to chase dopamine rushes at every opportunity.

So does running, sports, shopping, anything that feels good to you.

Son's longtime friend has already paid for grad school with their gaming winnings. They attend college, have a social life, are physically active, etc. Yes, I am being intinially vague. And yes, he is an outlier. But the ZERO GAMES UNDER MY ROOF parents are nuts.

Nope, we just have different values and don’t see any value in video games, especially when our children are forced to be in front of screens for school work all day as is. Why add more screens for free time? That’s what’s nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:I manage this by refusing to buy video games. We don’t have them and don’t play them. My kids hate me, but that’s okay. It’s called parenting.

Their friends will have them.

Yes, all the kids in school have them. My kids complain, and especially around birthdays and Christmas, that they are the only ones without a Nintendo or an x-box. I do that annoying mom thing of asking them if all their friends jumped off a bridge, would they jump, too. They get annoyed and exasperated and tell me I’m so, so mean, yadda, yadda.

I can’t control my kid from having a play date at someone’s house and playing Mario Bros., but I can stop it from entering my home.

I’m not a high powered businesswoman, but I can negotiate better than a ten year old. No video games in my house. PERIOD.

Why are you a killjoy?

Because video games are completely optional and starts dopamine seeking behaviors at a very young age. The meaning of life isn’t to chase dopamine rushes at every opportunity.

So does running, sports, shopping, anything that feels good to you.

Son's longtime friend has already paid for grad school with their gaming winnings. They attend college, have a social life, are physically active, etc. Yes, I am being intinially vague. And yes, he is an outlier. But the ZERO GAMES UNDER MY ROOF parents are nuts.

He’s an outlier re the money but the rest describes most gamers.

Some gamers are lonely isolated and depressed and their games are a respite from pain. Some let it get to be a problem but video games didn’t Create the problems. The vast majority are kids and adults , mostly male who enjoy playing for many reasons. Good luck to the middle schoolers who have never even seen a game.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I manage this by refusing to buy video games. We don’t have them and don’t play them. My kids hate me, but that’s okay. It’s called parenting.

Their friends will have them.

Yes, all the kids in school have them. My kids complain, and especially around birthdays and Christmas, that they are the only ones without a Nintendo or an x-box. I do that annoying mom thing of asking them if all their friends jumped off a bridge, would they jump, too. They get annoyed and exasperated and tell me I’m so, so mean, yadda, yadda.

I can’t control my kid from having a play date at someone’s house and playing Mario Bros., but I can stop it from entering my home.

I’m not a high powered businesswoman, but I can negotiate better than a ten year old. No video games in my house. PERIOD.

Why are you a killjoy?

Because video games are completely optional and starts dopamine seeking behaviors at a very young age. The meaning of life isn’t to chase dopamine rushes at every opportunity.

So does running, sports, shopping, anything that feels good to you.

Son's longtime friend has already paid for grad school with their gaming winnings. They attend college, have a social life, are physically active, etc. Yes, I am being intinially vague. And yes, he is an outlier. But the ZERO GAMES UNDER MY ROOF parents are nuts.

He’s an outlier re the money but the rest describes most gamers.

Some gamers are lonely isolated and depressed and their games are a respite from pain. Some let it get to be a problem but video games didn’t Create the problems. The vast majority are kids and adults , mostly male who enjoy playing for many reasons. Good luck to the middle schoolers who have never even seen a game.

Oh please. You have a bad, socially isolating, time wasting habit and are trying justify it. There is literally NOTHING to be gained from playing video games. Go ahead, do it if you please, but stop trying to act like it’s somehow beneficial, especially to a developing mind. You sound like a pothead yabbering about the benefits of medical marijuana.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I manage this by refusing to buy video games. We don’t have them and don’t play them. My kids hate me, but that’s okay. It’s called parenting.

Their friends will have them.

Yes, all the kids in school have them. My kids complain, and especially around birthdays and Christmas, that they are the only ones without a Nintendo or an x-box. I do that annoying mom thing of asking them if all their friends jumped off a bridge, would they jump, too. They get annoyed and exasperated and tell me I’m so, so mean, yadda, yadda.

I can’t control my kid from having a play date at someone’s house and playing Mario Bros., but I can stop it from entering my home.

I’m not a high powered businesswoman, but I can negotiate better than a ten year old. No video games in my house. PERIOD.

Why are you a killjoy?

Because video games are completely optional and starts dopamine seeking behaviors at a very young age. The meaning of life isn’t to chase dopamine rushes at every opportunity.

So does running, sports, shopping, anything that feels good to you.

Son's longtime friend has already paid for grad school with their gaming winnings. They attend college, have a social life, are physically active, etc. Yes, I am being intinially vague. And yes, he is an outlier. But the ZERO GAMES UNDER MY ROOF parents are nuts.

He’s an outlier re the money but the rest describes most gamers.

Some gamers are lonely isolated and depressed and their games are a respite from pain. Some let it get to be a problem but video games didn’t Create the problems. The vast majority are kids and adults , mostly male who enjoy playing for many reasons. Good luck to the middle schoolers who have never even seen a game.

Oh please. You have a bad, socially isolating, time wasting habit and are trying justify it. There is literally NOTHING to be gained from playing video games. Go ahead, do it if you please, but stop trying to act like it’s somehow beneficial, especially to a developing mind. You sound like a pothead yabbering about the benefits of medical marijuana.

The problem with saying things like this is that lots of us played games growing up, so we know you're wrong. Growing up I played games that taught me vocabulary, I played games that taught me history, I played games that taught me geography. I first learned the word "raze" from Warcraft II, I learned what a trireme was from Civilization, I learned geography and a lot of vocabulary from Carmen Sandiego, I learned about the four forces of flight from flight simulators, and history from wargames. (History shows up a lot in this because it's an interest of mine and video games were one way I developed that interest.

My kid isn't a big fan of video games, which is great, she's got other interests and thing she wants to do, but I also know what she could get from it. I don't expect this to sway you, you're obviously a zealot with your mind made up, but when we reject your ideas it's because we know better.

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Anonymous wrote:I manage this by refusing to buy video games. We don’t have them and don’t play them. My kids hate me, but that’s okay. It’s called parenting.

Their friends will have them.

Yes, all the kids in school have them. My kids complain, and especially around birthdays and Christmas, that they are the only ones without a Nintendo or an x-box. I do that annoying mom thing of asking them if all their friends jumped off a bridge, would they jump, too. They get annoyed and exasperated and tell me I’m so, so mean, yadda, yadda.

I can’t control my kid from having a play date at someone’s house and playing Mario Bros., but I can stop it from entering my home.

I’m not a high powered businesswoman, but I can negotiate better than a ten year old. No video games in my house. PERIOD.

Why are you a killjoy?

Because video games are completely optional and starts dopamine seeking behaviors at a very young age. The meaning of life isn’t to chase dopamine rushes at every opportunity.

So does running, sports, shopping, anything that feels good to you.

Son's longtime friend has already paid for grad school with their gaming winnings. They attend college, have a social life, are physically active, etc. Yes, I am being intinially vague. And yes, he is an outlier. But the ZERO GAMES UNDER MY ROOF parents are nuts.

He’s an outlier re the money but the rest describes most gamers.

Some gamers are lonely isolated and depressed and their games are a respite from pain. Some let it get to be a problem but video games didn’t Create the problems. The vast majority are kids and adults , mostly male who enjoy playing for many reasons. Good luck to the middle schoolers who have never even seen a game.

Oh please. You have a bad, socially isolating, time wasting habit and are trying justify it. There is literally NOTHING to be gained from playing video games. Go ahead, do it if you please, but stop trying to act like it’s somehow beneficial, especially to a developing mind. You sound like a pothead yabbering about the benefits of medical marijuana.

100%. There’s no benefit to video games for able-bodied young people. It’s basically a vice to be tolerated not something celebrated as beneficial in any way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I manage this by refusing to buy video games. We don’t have them and don’t play them. My kids hate me, but that’s okay. It’s called parenting.

Their friends will have them.

Yes, all the kids in school have them. My kids complain, and especially around birthdays and Christmas, that they are the only ones without a Nintendo or an x-box. I do that annoying mom thing of asking them if all their friends jumped off a bridge, would they jump, too. They get annoyed and exasperated and tell me I’m so, so mean, yadda, yadda.

I can’t control my kid from having a play date at someone’s house and playing Mario Bros., but I can stop it from entering my home.

I’m not a high powered businesswoman, but I can negotiate better than a ten year old. No video games in my house. PERIOD.

Why are you a killjoy?

Because video games are completely optional and starts dopamine seeking behaviors at a very young age. The meaning of life isn’t to chase dopamine rushes at every opportunity.

So does running, sports, shopping, anything that feels good to you.

Son's longtime friend has already paid for grad school with their gaming winnings. They attend college, have a social life, are physically active, etc. Yes, I am being intinially vague. And yes, he is an outlier. But the ZERO GAMES UNDER MY ROOF parents are nuts.

He’s an outlier re the money but the rest describes most gamers.

Some gamers are lonely isolated and depressed and their games are a respite from pain. Some let it get to be a problem but video games didn’t Create the problems. The vast majority are kids and adults , mostly male who enjoy playing for many reasons. Good luck to the middle schoolers who have never even seen a game.

Oh please. You have a bad, socially isolating, time wasting habit and are trying justify it. There is literally NOTHING to be gained from playing video games. Go ahead, do it if you please, but stop trying to act like it’s somehow beneficial, especially to a developing mind. You sound like a pothead yabbering about the benefits of medical marijuana.

100%. There’s no benefit to video games for able-bodied young people. It’s basically a vice to be tolerated not something celebrated as beneficial in any way.

I have to agree and disagree. Video games aren't the devil, they can be fun and when played with siblings, cousins and friends can be extremely social. As a disabled person, from birth I agree that kids/teens do spend way too much time in front of screens. Healthy, able bodied kids/teens don't realize how fortunate they are to be able to, from a physical standpoint, do whatever they want

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Anonymous wrote:I manage this by refusing to buy video games. We don’t have them and don’t play them. My kids hate me, but that’s okay. It’s called parenting.

Their friends will have them.

Yes, all the kids in school have them. My kids complain, and especially around birthdays and Christmas, that they are the only ones without a Nintendo or an x-box. I do that annoying mom thing of asking them if all their friends jumped off a bridge, would they jump, too. They get annoyed and exasperated and tell me I’m so, so mean, yadda, yadda.

I can’t control my kid from having a play date at someone’s house and playing Mario Bros., but I can stop it from entering my home.

I’m not a high powered businesswoman, but I can negotiate better than a ten year old. No video games in my house. PERIOD.

Why are you a killjoy?

Because video games are completely optional and starts dopamine seeking behaviors at a very young age. The meaning of life isn’t to chase dopamine rushes at every opportunity.

So does running, sports, shopping, anything that feels good to you.

Son's longtime friend has already paid for grad school with their gaming winnings. They attend college, have a social life, are physically active, etc. Yes, I am being intinially vague. And yes, he is an outlier. But the ZERO GAMES UNDER MY ROOF parents are nuts.

He’s an outlier re the money but the rest describes most gamers.

Some gamers are lonely isolated and depressed and their games are a respite from pain. Some let it get to be a problem but video games didn’t Create the problems. The vast majority are kids and adults , mostly male who enjoy playing for many reasons. Good luck to the middle schoolers who have never even seen a game.

Oh please. You have a bad, socially isolating, time wasting habit and are trying justify it. There is literally NOTHING to be gained from playing video games. Go ahead, do it if you please, but stop trying to act like it’s somehow beneficial, especially to a developing mind. You sound like a pothead yabbering about the benefits of medical marijuana.

How does a pothead sound anyway? Isn’t pothead an outdated word used by old cronies back in the day?

Mark Zuckerberg, a lot smarter than you or me got his start with creating video games. He wanted to learn programming after that.

The video games got him into computer programming.
And it's why Zuckerberg believes more kids need to be allowed to play video games if they want.

According to Zuckerberg -

"I do think this dynamic around kids growing up, building games, and playing games, is an important one because I think this is how a lot of kids get into programming," Zuckerberg said. "I definitely wouldn't have gotten into programming if I hadn't played games."

And that can go a long way to solving the gender and racial imbalance in tech, Zuckerberg added. A big reason for those gaps is the relatively small supply of female, black, or Hispanic programmers, and Zuckerberg believes having them learn programming themselves, through self-interest channels like video games, could solve the issue.

"It's why questions on gaming is important. Most of the engineers I know, who are some of the best engineers in the world, are self-taught," he said. "We need to work on this to get more exposure out to people."


https://www.businessinsider.com/mark-zuckerberg-let-your-kids-play-video-games-2015-5

So, dumb dumb, there are good aspects. By the way I’m female and last played Mario Bros in the 90s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you manage this stuff?

Have something planned after 1 hour of Saturday video games so you can drag him away to whatever it is.

I allow one hour and then have something planned and my kid complains the whole time "This isn't fun". I'm at my wit's end.
I kept it away from him for as long as possible but the other boys are all obsessed and he wants so much to be part of the crowd.
It was much easier in summer since he loves being outside when it's warm but he doesn't enjoy winter stuff, museums, etc. at all.

If you’re dragging him away from video games to go to a museum, it’s understandable he is going to resist. Try something else he’d find fun like an indoor play gym or sky zone.