Teachers How Many Overbearing Helicopter Parents do you have

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Anonymous wrote:I do wonder if teachers appreciate parents who mostly keep quiet except the rare occasion something important comes up (maybe once or twice a year). Sometimes I feel like we are overlooked and the whole squeaky wheel thing. But still, it’s not my personality to badger teachers and I wouldn’t send my kid to the school if I didn’t trust them to handle most things.

Our school lost that trust pretty quickly. They keep parents in the desk about all the classroom antics, behavior problems, and bullying as well as academic standards or lack thereof. They don’t even disclose substitute teacher days, or weeks, to parents of young children. Then when they do, they look like fools who kept a secret for two weeks of zero transparency.

Lots of secrets a
nd Do Not Contact Us messaging at our private school.

A teacher using pto is none of your business. No communication with you is needed or expected.

Huh?

You school doesn’t email the class if your Elementary aged children has a substitute teacher for 1 or a few days?
That’s so disruptive to young children, parents could really help. Plus if the school or homeroom teacher isn’t organized subs don’t have much to go by, and one standalone day could easily be a total blow off. A week of it too.
Ours does and states who the sub is or who was pulled in to sub. Usually it’s a sr admin or experienced teacher or retired teacher or specials teacher.

I do not believe this. It’s what you think you are entitled to. So over the top.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I totally understand annoying parents. But it’s strange going from daycare or a nanny to school. Kindergarten has basically zero contact. I get a report card once a semester saying if my kid is above, on target or below. And that’s it! I’m not a helicopter but I really wish I knew where my kid was so I could do more at home if needed.

Our kindergarten is very communicative. Shop around?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I totally understand annoying parents. But it’s strange going from daycare or a nanny to school. Kindergarten has basically zero contact. I get a report card once a semester saying if my kid is above, on target or below. And that’s it! I’m not a helicopter but I really wish I knew where my kid was so I could do more at home if needed.

On target to what? WHO global averages?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine you parents getting a note home that there was a substitute for your teacher when you were a kid? Stuff happens and teachers have the right to miss school. I have no expectation that the school will alert me. This seems completely over the top, regardless of age.

Hide it or be transparent.

Your call school.

It's not being "hidden" from you. Your child will tell you when there was a sub. Your child will tell you their teacher is having a baby.

The school doesn't even have "hide the substitute" on their radar because they assume you understand already that sometimes there will be subs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that sub teachers are disruptive to the learning of any aged student, especially lower school.
I also agree that a passive, permissive teacher will not generate good behavior in the classroom. I saw this first hand in a couple classes.

Are you saying teachers should never take a day off?
Do you ever take a day off from your job?

Np. I plan vacations during for school breaks and get them approved by my superior. Sick days are rare. Dental and doctor appts are on school days off.

Why? Are you a teacher that takes days off during the school year for personal stuff? I recall that works easily with the 2 teacher model but not so easily with a 1 teacher per classroom model. That was a big adjustment for us.

You are fortunate that you never get sick or have unplanned family emergencies that need to be taken care of I guess.
I don’t like taking days off but life happens sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine you parents getting a note home that there was a substitute for your teacher when you were a kid? Stuff happens and teachers have the right to miss school. I have no expectation that the school will alert me. This seems completely over the top, regardless of age.

Hide it or be transparent.

Your call school.

You should consider home schooling your DC.

[Anonymous]

Rebooting:

My class is filled with parents who are open to hearing positive and negative things about their children, and who will do a ton to help other families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:all of them

This sounds like a troll.

Not all parents are overbearing helicopter parents. Most teachers I have talked to say they are in the vocal minority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rebooting:

My class is filled with parents who are open to hearing positive and negative things about their children, and who will do a ton to help other families.

Plus one

[Anonymous]

What do you think about or do with a school that year after year says everything is great, your student is doing well, at grade level. And then you get some screening tests done and find out they are pretty behind grade level and need remedial work done stat in upper elementary?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG. This is exactly why I work in public schools.

I guess you don't work in APS . Some of the worst tiger/over-bearing parents in some of the schools.